In the Chinese concept, you can't leave empty-handed for the New Year's holidays and visiting relatives and friends. Giving gifts to people is a kind of etiquette, but also a kind of wish. However, gift-giving is also particular, not just any gift is suitable for giving people, if it is not right, not only can not please it, but also complain, and even a little more serious will make a feud, it can be said that it is a loss of Mrs. and a soldier. Now that it's almost the New Year, it's time to give gifts, in order not to give the wrong gift, hurry up to understand the taboo of gift-giving!
The Spring Festival gift is to please a good fortune and express wishes, hoping that in the new year, relatives and friends can be happy, safe and happy. In order to make gift-giving a nice thing to add to the cake, during the Spring Festival, you should never give "hoodoo things", such as shoes, umbrellas, old clothes, candles, etc.
There is an old Chinese saying that "send shoes to send sickness", that is, to give shoes to people, there is a curse meaning, is to hope that the other person will be sick. This implication is not good, especially in the festive days of the New Year, to give this gift, this is not sincere to respond to people, meet some exquisite people, see this gift may be angry hands, the gift giver is driven out.
Umbrellas are also a gift that cannot be given, and when there was no concept of "parasols", people used umbrellas to protect themselves from the rain, that is, in the past, umbrellas were only used when the weather was bad. Therefore, in the traditional concept, giving an umbrella to someone is also cursing people, expressing the hope that the other party will live in a gloomy day and everything will not go well.
After all, in the previous hard years, many families were wearing clothes worn by older brothers and sisters and then worn by younger brothers and sisters, which is a very normal thing, and this move also contains the spirit of saving, which is a good thing. Therefore, some people of the older generation, people who have lived a hard life, always think that they can't waste the clothes they bought back at a great price, and since they can't wear them, they will send them out, and they will have a good reputation and personal favors.
In fact, this thinking is very wrong. First of all, the times are different, and the concept should also change, in the past, it was a special period, economic development could not keep up, wearing other people's old clothes, this is a helpless move. But now, with the development of the economy, the conditions of every household have improved, and they can afford to buy new clothes.
Secondly, the New Year is to get rid of the old and welcome the new, to have a new atmosphere, at this time to take an old clothes, the gift giver is "rid of the old", but the person receiving the gift can not "remove" the "old", so at this time to send old clothes, that is a bad thing.
Finally, candles are also not suitable items for gifts. Nowadays, most people like scented candles, and feel that such candles are very atmospheric when lit, and smelling the aroma can calm the nerves, and it is a good wish to send scented candles to friends.
In fact, in ancient times, people used candles, usually to pay tribute to their ancestors, so candles were regarded as unlucky items, and they were cursing each other's homes to do white things.
I remember one time, Xiao Wang attended a friend's wedding as a bridesmaid, and the friend gave her a souvenir, which was filled with scented candles. She checked it and found that this scented candle was a big name, quite valuable, and she was still a little happy in her heart, thinking that her friend was really generous.
But she didn't expect her to take the gift home, and when her mother saw that there was a candle inside, her face immediately changed, and warned her not to associate with this friend in the future, saying that her friend was uneasy and kind.
Xiao Wang was confused, and hurriedly asked her mother what she meant, after knowing the meaning of sending candles, she also felt panicked in her heart, although she felt that she didn't pay attention to these now, but this kind of implication always made people feel uncomfortable.
Eventually, she returned the candle to her friend and told him the meaning. The other party was also very surprised when he heard it, quickly apologized, and chose another gift for Xiao Wang. However, since then, the relationship between the two has faded and they rarely communicate again. It can be seen that gift-giving is really very particular, and if you give the wrong gift, the gain will really outweigh the loss.
Influenced by traditional thinking, most people are still taboo about "homophonic things", such as the most common homonym of "sending bells" and "sending the end". The word "send-off" sounds really unlucky, and in the past, when there were no clocks, the word "send-off" would only be used when a loved one passed away.
In such a festive festival as the New Year, if you hear someone say "send the clock", even if this is a homonym, I believe that no one is happy to get up.
Pears and plums are also homophonic things, with the meaning of separation, when visiting, do not bring these two fruits as gifts, especially on the occasion of family reunion, but also can not touch the mold, otherwise relatives and friends turn their faces on the spot, it will be embarrassing.
From ancient times to the present, if people want to live in peace, there must be one thing, that is, "wealth", it is said that "people do not stand without wealth", if there is no money on the body, then even the most basic food, clothing, housing and transportation can not be guaranteed. Therefore, the importance of "wealth" to people can be imagined, if you give gifts and give "empty things", it will affect your own financial luck, and it will be useless to regret it at that time.
Giving a wallet to someone is equivalent to transporting one's wealth to someone else. Doesn't it seem silly to be generous to others and oppress oneself? Don't do such a stupid thing!
In the same way, it is also inappropriate to give people the ornaments or paintings of the God of Wealth, which belong to "empty things" and cannot be sent.
On the one hand, this implication is not good, giving people a sense of implication, on the other hand, giving such gifts also shows their shallow ignorance and is easy to be looked down upon.
A young man named Xiao Zhang almost committed such a taboo, that time was also close to the New Year, he thought that since he entered the company, the leader has taken care of him, taking advantage of the New Year's holiday, to give the leader some gifts, to show gratitude.
I don't know where he inquired about the news, knowing that their leader doesn't have any other big hobbies, so he likes agarwood, so he thought about giving the leader a bracelet.
However, Xiao Zhang has only been working for a long time, and he does not have a lot of money in his hands, and he can't get so much money if he wants to get the goods from a serious place. Young and smart, he immediately thought carefully and asked someone to find an unknown literary toy store.
The boss obviously saw Xiao Zhang's "Xiaobai" attribute, took out a string of smelly bracelets, and blew them all over the place. Xiao Zhang smelled the smell and thought it should be true, so he gritted his teeth and took tens of thousands of yuan to buy this bracelet.
However, he still kept an eye on it, and found a master to help him check before giving the gift, and the master knew that this bracelet could not be fake, typical artificial incense, not to mention tens of thousands of yuan, that is, dozens of dollars, in the eyes of people who know the goods.
Xiao Zhang knew that he had been fooled, but he was angry but helpless, so he could only suffer this dumb loss. Fortunately, he still saw it, thinking that it was better not to give this thing away, otherwise he would lose face in front of the leader, and the gain would outweigh the loss.
After suffering this loss, Xiao Zhang also saw his weight more clearly, and knew the depth of water in the agarwood circle, which was not something that a person like him who had just entered the industry could touch the fish, so he honestly changed his path and bought some conventional gifts that he could afford to send to the leader.
Unexpectedly, this move fell in front of the leader, and the leader who received these usual gifts felt that Xiao Zhang was a down-to-earth and capable person, not as good at studying as others, and then Xiao Zhang was successfully promoted, and his income doubled compared to before.
It can be seen from Xiao Zhang's incident that this gift is very particular, and things like "fakes and fakes" can't be touched.
Sharp objects such as knives and scissors are also not suitable for giving away. From the traditional point of view, giving "sharp objects" to relatives and friends is destroying other people's feng shui and affecting other people's financial and career luck.
There is a word called "harmony and wealth", if you want to make a fortune, you must not be too bitter and strong, you must be peaceful, and you must be mellow. Giving knives and scissors to others is to imply that the other party is a strong and arrogant person, and it means that others are not worthy of getting rich and cannot be rich.
Cutting off people's money" is a big enemy, so giving people "sharp things" is not asking for peace, but wanting to make enemies.
In addition, the knife has the meaning of "one knife and two breaks", and giving people such items as knives also means that the friendship between the two parties will be cut off, and then they will be strangers and will not interact with each other. Gift-giving is to enhance the interaction between the two parties and make the relationship more intimate, and such items that damage the friendship between the two parties are really not suitable for gifts.
Another point is that in ancient times, swords were usually used on the battlefield and were rare in daily life, so "sharp objects" such as swords were also called hoodoos, and giving such items to the other party was equivalent to cursing the other party for constant disasters and bad life.
China is a country of etiquette, gift-giving culture has a long history, the customs, taboos are many and mixed, if you do not have a certain understanding of it, give the wrong gift, it will be good things into bad things, self-defeating. Now that it's time to give gifts, I hope everyone can pick the right gift, give the right gift, and everything will be fine!