How to be self-complete allows yourself to have the power to grieve
Have you ever been seen as weak because you couldn't shake off your grief? Sadness, an emotion that is often misunderstood as weakness, is actually the key to self-wholeness.
Lisa, a seemingly strong working woman, always faces life with a smile and positivity. But one day, she came to my counseling room out of the blue, tears streaming down her cheeks. "I'm always trying to look good, but I feel so hollow inside," she whispered. ”
When was the last time you allowed yourself to grieve? I asked softly.
Lisa froze for a moment, as if struggling to recall. "For a long time, I always told myself to be strong and not to cry easily. ”
But grief is also part of emotion, and like any other emotion, it needs to be acknowledged and accepted. I explained.
In the following consultation, Lisa gradually opened up and talked about the pain in her heart: the pain of losing a loved one, the frustration in the workplace, the misunderstanding with friends, ......The grief she thought she had to endure alone could actually be shared.
I told her that sadness does not mean weakness, on the contrary, it is a rich, real manifestation of our emotions. When we allow ourselves to grieve, we are giving ourselves a chance to heal. Research has shown that suppressing emotions can lead to psychological and physical problems, and acknowledging and accepting emotions can help us deal with them better.
Lisa began to try to accept her grief, and she found that when she allowed herself to cry and allowed herself to feel pain, her heart became calmer and fuller. She no longer needs to deliberately pretend to be strong, because she knows that grief is also part of her strength.
As time went on, the changes in Lisa became more and more apparent. Her smile became more genuine, and her eyes became more determined. She told me that she now understands herself better and cherishes everyone and every emotion around her more.
So, when you feel sad, don't be afraid, don't run away. Allow yourself to have the power of this grief, for it is the only way to self-wholeness. Remember, true strength is not to never shed tears, but to be able to move forward even if there are tears.