Come alone, go alone, and don t expect too much from anyone

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-02-16

Life is nothing more than a solitary journey, and everyone is the protagonist of their own story, facing challenges and choices alone. In the long journey of life, we sometimes wish that someone could share the pain and sorrow with us. However, such fantasies are often ** in the emptiness of our hearts, and in each other's worlds, our heartbreaking sadness may be nothing more than a small drop.

Our loneliness is a world of joy and sorrow. The writer Mo Yan once said: "Everyone spends a lifetime looking for the person who is closest to their soul, only to find that the only person who can match perfectly is themselves." "We crave understanding and comfort. We're looking for an audience. We seek compassion from the depths of our souls. Looking hard, why bother not to understand, every pain and difficulty, in the end can only rely on oneself to experience and digest.

On the path of life, we are often taught to be strong, to be as hard as steel. This hardness is sometimes misunderstood as brazenness, but it is only a shield in the storm. Before we learn to rely on ourselves, we repeatedly make the mistake of mistaking the caregiving of others for permanent dependence. In the world described by the philosopher Márquez, each individual soul tries to redeem itself and find the true meaning of life in solitude.

We are all dancers on the world solo stage, and while we often expect to be accompanied, in the end we have to do the dance ourselves. In self-compassion and understanding, we seek meaning in life, overcome challenges, and grasp reality. Life is not always benevolent, in fact, it often brings silent cruelty and indifference, as the Japanese writer Natsume Soseki said: "There is sadness in the world that cannot shed tears, and this sadness cannot be explained, and even if it is explained, people will not understand." ”

We often feel aggrieved and criticized in this world, and feel indifferent and thin in human feelings, but if we can understand the true meaning of life one step earlier: everyone is the master of their own destiny. Whether it is the mountains and rivers, or the warmth of life, you can face it calmly, and you no longer need to tell the world about the pain that is not felt. After an emotional breakdown, I suddenly realized that I was the only constant partner in the face of life's challenges.

When we were young, mountains were mountains, water was water, and everything was what it was. But the passage of time always brings a change of mind. What was once thought to be crystal clear scenery has become elusive; The so-called reality and dreams have become blurred. It wasn't until the sunset that we realized that the mountains were still mountains, the water was still water, and everything was related to fate. The complexities of life are not a perfect picture.

If we had realized earlier that the essence of life is to exist independently, perhaps we would have had a calmer heart about the expectations and hopes of this world.

When others are concerned or distant, we need to learn to accept them with a normal heart and express gratitude or relief. Every step is easy and fun, and life is slowly accumulated in countless lonely nights and dawns.

One day, we will meet in the vast sea of people, unexpectedly, a beautiful encounter, give us a peace. But before that, we must first learn to cherish and enjoy loneliness, love life, love ourselves, devote ourselves to work and life, and warm our daily life with every enthusiasm. When we learn to expect less from others and learn to face and abandon ourselves, there will naturally be fewer worries in life, and our hearts will become more comfortable and peaceful.

There is no so-called perfection in life, but understanding and accepting yourself and facing every twist and turn in life will be the driving force for you and me to move forward. We can't be perfect in the eyes of others, only in our own world, for our own scenery, will the soul be truly liberated. Don't live in someone else's story, that will only make others and yourself uncomfortable.

Learn to swing your sleeves gracefully and appreciate every corner of life. When we understand that those who meet on the road of life can only accompany us for a certain distance, we will not expect too much from anyone, nor will we feel that the gains outweigh the losses for some partings that cannot be accompanied by our wishes, but we can walk more freely and honestly on this road of life. Even if you are alone, it is a precious moment in life to cherish and even enjoy.

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