If you want to nominate a place that can best be called a safe haven, home, is probably the answer for most people.
Parents and children sit together in the living room, and they sit at the dining table with their partners, sharing the fireworks of three dishes and one soup.
When we are tired, sad, and happy, home is always the base that can accept all our emotions. Home has witnessed countless silent promises, as well as moments of love and warmth.
Contemporary adults, however, are caught in a paradox. On the one hand, there is the respect of independent individuals to start a family, and on the other hand, there are sweet daily tears for others and infinite yearning for family.
Especially in a big city like Beijing, starting a family seems to need to be cautious and cautious.
In these uncertain times, those who are or have already entered a family, at what moment did they have the urge to start a family?
Xiaomei would like to share with you a few stories related to family in Beijing, and listen to their true thoughts at the moment when they decided to start a family.
01 "We wandered around, and finally had our own harbor".
After 9 years of drifting north, he and his girlfriend moved from a small single room in Tongzhou to a single-bathroom master bedroom in Chaoyang, and then moved from the Batong Line to a small two-bedroom in Haidian, maintaining a moving frequency almost every two years. Some people say that the most sad thing about Beipiao may be the time to move. But to be honest, the first three times I moved, I didn't feel this kind of sadness. Because my girlfriend is a very passionate person, no matter how she moves, she can always decorate the house warm and tidy. It wasn't until the fourth time we started to buy some big items and pick out furniture, and I half-jokingly said that this time we could pick more, maybe the next time we moved, we would live in our own house.
We bought a dresser and a sideboard that day and went home, and she said: "It feels like with these things, it feels like a step closer to the home I imagined."
At that moment, I suddenly realized what a house means to us, it means not having to wander, not having to break the current habits, and then go to the next house to readjust to the "dresser" and "sideboard".
The next year, I gritted my teeth and used the money I had saved in the past 10 years to buy a 75-square-meter two-bedroom apartment, and decided to propose to her in my new home. The real estate deed handed over with the wedding ring is my most sincere and silent promise.
The house was not big, but she agreed.
I think from then on, she will no longer have to worry about moving to buy big furniture, and we can choose the wallpaper and flooring we like together.
The most important thing is that we can build a strong, safe and sheltered home in this house that is completely our own.
02 "A really good intimate relationship is under the same roof, you know all my wordless difficulties".
The original wedding room was a small two-bedroom in Xicheng District, and when I first got married, I felt that it was quite big, but after giving birth, I obviously found that the space at home was not enough. Children are still learning to climb, and learning to walk may require larger open space.
In the end, the guest bedroom was converted into a children's room, and the living room was also dismantled with a coffee table and a TV cabinet. Almost all the space in the house was conceded for the children, and when the mother-in-law came to help take care of the children, the husband could only build a marching bed.
That day I saw the children's things all over the house, and suddenly I collapsed, wondering why my life ended up completely revolving around the children.
My husband saw my emotions and promised me to change houses within two years.
Changing houses was actually quite a financial burden for us, but my husband firmly felt that we had made the right choice.
Now the house has been changed to the North 5th Ring Road, and the commute time has become a little longer, but this house means a lot to me. In addition to the master bedroom, there is a children's room for the children and a study and guest bedroom for me.
This three-bedroom apartment carries my vision of family: me, my children, and my husband, we are not only independent individuals, but also have independent spaces, and we are closely connected to each other under the same roof.
03 "The room you decorate with your heart is the home that I miss in my heart".
My husband and I bought our current house six years ago.
Although it is second-hand, the house type and lighting are very good, I especially like the large and spacious main balcony connected to the living room, dancing and discussing with my husband to buy a small coffee table, lay wood grain floor tiles, and then buy a hanging chair.
But before I had time to move to a new house, I was sent abroad for a year, and then my husband did the decoration and relocation alone.
On the way back, my husband said to surprise me. I didn't expect that many of the furniture in the house were added and placed in the same way as I and him described when the house was handed over.
From the size of the TV, to the wood-grain brick style on the balcony, and even the pillow I casually mentioned, he drove to the furniture store in Siyuanqiao, Beijing, to buy it back.
Almost all the details I mentioned, he took to heart.
Standing in the living room that day, he took my hand and said that he had promised my parents that he would do his best to do whatever I wanted, whatever he could give.
This little house is like a testimony, and he proves to me his sincerity with every bit of the house.
04 "You and this home will always be my harbor of peace of mind".
At that time, my girlfriend and I were still drifting north, and the two of us rented a one-bedroom apartment. The house is small but also cozy.
Suddenly, one day I learned that my mother in my hometown was sick, and I panicked. Like us, wanderers who are far away from home, the most important thing to worry about is our family.
After knowing the situation, my girlfriend immediately took the initiative to ask me if I wanted to change to a two-bedroom apartment and take my mother over to take care of me.
At that moment, I was moved beyond words.
My need, you speak first; Bear each other's difficulties together. When two people are together, there is no greater sincerity than this.
Now that we have been married for a year, my mother has long regarded her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, and she is still rushing to pay the down payment for the new house.
We formed this family and have been each other's backs ever since. I believe that we can go on forever, because of the experience of sharing weal and woe, and the heart of sharing together.
05 "You just go and give me your back".
The two of us met in college, and it's a very common love story.
From undergraduate to master's degree, he walked all the way, and later graduated, his parents bought him a house, a car, and a job in his hometown. It was smooth sailing, and many friends said that they envied him.
But at that time, I was hesitant to take the Ph.D. exam, which meant that I might have to stay in Beijing in the future.
I've always felt that people are individuals, and family and relationships are important, but I don't want to give up on my future and academic aspirations. During that time, I was so anxious that I couldn't sleep, and he kept comforting: "Don't worry, I'll take care of it." ”
As a result, he secretly sold the house in his hometown, leaving no way back, and came directly to Beijing to find me.
To be honest, I only thought it was a comforting scene, but I didn't expect it to be such a heavy promise.
It's been seven years since we got married, and it was he who made me believe that saying, no matter when, there is always him at the moment of turning.
06 "Home is the companionship of a long stream of water, and it is also the tolerance of each other".
We've known each other for decades now, and now we've just retired.
At that time, unlike today's young free love, we all met on a blind date.
When I met her for the first time, I was very nervous, her family conditions were better than mine, and her parents were both doctors in Jishuitan.
I'm particularly worried about whether their family is particularly particular about diet and nutrition, I usually eat relatively plain, steamed buns are small dishes, and I am full.
Once she came to my house as a guest, I arranged a table of rice, cut some meat, and served steamed buns, she did not dislike it, but ate very happily.
Over the years, the two of us have indeed had many different living habits. She likes to drink milk, which is, in the doctor's professional words, high-quality protein. I also drank with her, and I got used to it as I drank.
The days are like this, you let me a little, I let you a little. With sincerity and tolerance, a small family can last a long time.
When we were young, we looked at each other and wanted to speak, and the moment we wanted to talk made us make a promise to our family.
From the love of two people to a multi-person family, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea may smooth out the original throbbing, but it will not erase the promise to each other.
The Chinese cherish the promise of faith, and the sincerity that touched people's hearts at the beginning will still become a memory in our hearts after many years.
No sincerity, no promises! Honesty is the source of strength for many people to start a family and settle down, and it is also the service concept that I love my family has always adhered to.
This time, I love my home Beijing service commitment upgrade, from the three levels of information consultation, service experience, and rights and interests protection that consumers are most concerned about, put forward the nine-character service mantra of "telling the truth", "doing it in advance" and "taking the initiative to compensate", adhering to the principle of sincerity, hoping to become a solid backing behind every small family, and achieve every home with sincerity.
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