Sober people are no longer carried away by their own desires, surrender to the Tao, and fight for inaction. It seems that it is indifferent and ruthless, but it is actually the most affectionate and righteous, but it will not interfere with the fate of others with its own will, because this is apostasy.
What is the right way? Focusing on one's own life with great interest, it can affect it, and it can't affect anyone who will never transform and educate.
In a previous article, I made a point that if a person is too enthusiastic, too nostalgic, and unwilling to let go of his past friendships, then it will be difficult for his career to break out of the cocoon and become a butterfly, and there will be no breakthrough in life.
Indifference is the weapon of a person's success.
In other words, the real winners are often those who stand out from the crowd with a calm attitude.
The reason why many people stay at the bottom of the ladder all their lives, living a muddy life, neither accumulating wealth nor enjoying a day of real happiness. They survive in obscurity and then drown in the vastness of the universe.
Because he always likes to play a good person, he is passionate about everyone, but he can't learn to be indifferent to people, and he always gives silently unilaterally.
Although on the surface it seems to be selflessly thinking about others and caring for others, in fact, it is a needless waste of time, not only failing to reap any practical benefits, but also making oneself fall into endless giving.
What's more, others often habitually leave the constant difficulties and sufferings to those who are kind-hearted and helpful.
Isn't it because you're too zealous, too kind, too tolerant and too difficult to say the decisive "no" to others' requests?
As an adult, you have to understand:
Timely indifference is a way to protect yourself, not only to help you take better care of yourself, but also to ensure that you have the resources and energy to care for your family.
If you don't master the right amount of indifference, you may shrink back from the competition, be afraid to fight for what you deserve, and you will also appear petty when it comes to the topic of money, and you will not be able to talk about money honestly and confidently.
As a result, those opportunities that should be grasped are missed, those that should be their own interests are not obtained, and those resources that should be mastered are not available.
Not only did he fail to become a so-called good person, but on the contrary, he also attracted unwarranted trouble and trouble.
In the traditional Chinese concept of interpersonal communication, people tend to ridicule poverty and tolerate the pursuit of material gains.
Being poor, having no money, and having no strength is the greatest original sin.
This reality is particularly harsh for children from poor families, who are often burdened with even heavier prejudices and insurmountable social barriers.
At this stage of life, emotions are not something worth thinking about, what you need is real gold**, and enough wealth to solve most problems.
Please forgive me for being blunt and vulgar, but you should also understand that reality reveals all this in such a bloody and undisguised way.
If money is absent and only emotion, love and family harmony remain, do you feel that you can meet your parents' expectations? Do you think that your partner will spend all his tenderness with you?
In families without a strong breadwinner, family cohesion is often precarious, fragile and fragmented. In order to survive a piece of bread, the friendship between brothers can be easily broken, and even make the former loving husband and wife fall into a fierce dispute, and the relationship collapses instantly.
Do you feel that there is affection for such family affection? Is it about the taste of love?
What is there to have such emotion?
Every time you work hard in the field, your parents call, every greeting, every chatter, on the one hand, out of concern for you.
On the other hand, behind these seemingly warm exchanges, parents want to understand from the side: whether you can stand firm outside, whether you can be self-reliant, and not become a burden to the family.
The human nature at the bottom is so naked.
Therefore, when you are shy, you need to learn to be cold, put emotions aside, and always keep a clear head.
Whatever you do, put your financial interests first, or do something to accumulate influence, which in turn translates into the act of collecting money.
People and things that have nothing to do with your life are not worth or deserving of a second for you.
When ordinary people discuss gossip in the entertainment industry, you don't need to pay attention, let alone join the discussion. After all, things in the entertainment industry are like a mess that people can't sort out.
When the latest trending topics are pushed to you, you have two options: one is to turn off the notification and keep the complicated information out to avoid distractions; The second is to make clever use of these hot information to create relevant and engaging content to attract more traffic.
When ordinary people are committed to learning all kinds of human affairs, you should keep a clear awareness, because even if they study these social arts all their lives, they may not be able to really change their situation, and in the end they are still just mediocre dicks.
Our goal is singular and clear: to make money. All we have in our eyes is money.
I know there are some people who will ask, "Brother, do you need to be so straightforward?" ”
Yes, it has to be straightforward and there is no room for ambiguity.
I wondered, why spend your precious time and energy focusing on people and things that don't bring you any material benefits? Shouldn't we focus more on those areas that give us real returns and added value in order to optimize the allocation of our resources?
You may think that you are just having fun in your spare time, skimming through some inconsequential information at will, and you will not incur any substantial loss to yourself.
As everyone knows, this information is quietly encroaching on your thinking space, and every distraction you have may invisibly eat away at your precious time and energy, and your thinking and concepts are constantly being shaped and influenced by external information flows.
Every piece of information that comes into your field of vision, it either helps you and pushes you forward; Either it becomes a drag and invisibly hinders your pace. In other words, the information you focus on is either a catalyst for your wealth to grow, or it is like a money-eating devil that makes your wallet dry up day by day.
This is an indisputable truth, without exception.
If you're skeptical, you can just keep indulging in spam and spend your time on trivial things that have nothing to do with making money.
However, as you get older, the demands of life come flooding into you, and the whole family expects you to earn more money to support your daily needs.
At that time, you will find that the room for maneuver no longer exists, and there is no regret medicine in the world for you to take.
Therefore, instead of struggling with remorse, it is better to choose self-priority more prudently now, embrace selfishness earlier, and become an indifferent bystander, even if you are said by others to be a selfish villain, an indifferent person, then what should you do?
Indifference to others, indifference to oneself.
Although "indifference" may sound a little cold, in my understanding, it contains a special warmth, strength and sense of responsibility.
Imagine if your family is not cold-blooded, not cold-blooded, and does not have the courage to put down their bottom and make money, then it is impossible for them to make money.
Without the support of capital with a straight waist behind it, you will not be able to have the right to speak in the outside world, and you can only passively accept the command of others and the beating of society.
Therefore, learning to be indifferent is not only the starting point of your transformation, but also a sign that you are shouldering responsibility.