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In the relationship, on the tortuous road, no matter what kind of quarrels and tribulations, as long as there is no third party involved, there is often a chance to return to the original beauty. However, once there is a third party, no matter how much you apologize and try to make amends, you often can't return to the original state.
Time is not the only factor in trauma, but more important is inner relief and maturity. The heart is the real **, what you pay attention to, what will be troubled; Whatever you care about, you will be tortured by.
For example, Xiao Yi is a hard-working woman who takes care of her children and accompanies her parents after work. However, in the eyes of her husband, she seems to be unattractive and lacks passion in life. As a result, her husband often chooses to wander around the company after work, thinking that going home is just to face Xiao Yi's nagging, and it is better to wait until the meal to go home, after all, it is only five minutes away from home.
However, his life took an unexpected turn. One day, he met Bai Yueguang from college in the coffee shop downstairs of the company, and she was still radiant. This unexpected encounter rekindled the passion in his heart. Bai Yueguang expressed admiration for his career achievements and high salary, which made him feel valued and recognized. At the same time, Xiao Yi discovers her husband's infidelity, but she knows that divorce is not realistic, and she does not want to endure a hard life again. In the company of her friends, she gradually let go and replanned her future.
The sense of security is given to oneself and one should not be dependent on others. In life, everyone has their own role. Some people come to admire you, some people love you, and some people may take advantage of you. The people who love you will take the initiative to give you security, while those who are selfish will not be able to pay attention to your feelings.
Just like Xiao Yi, she tried to find security in her husband, but eventually found out that she was just an outsider in his life. After experiencing pain and betrayal, she realizes that no one is her backer, and only she can bring her true security.
No one can be your backer, learn to love yourself well, in order to always have confidence. When you take others too seriously, you tend to lose yourself. After Xiao Yi discovered her husband's indifference, she understood that he was not her backer, and realized that only she was the most reliable support.
Every challenge in life is an experience, and only by living your own life can you truly live your own life. So, don't pin your security on others, learn to rely on yourself and love yourself.