I met a female friend who nagged every day, saying that now that she has money, her husband began to deal with some indiscriminate women and betrayed her. It was a waste of money and energy, and she was particularly angry.
In fact, a man's betrayal has something to do with money, but not all betrayals have something to do with money. There are many men who have no money to find a mistress outside and give their lover a favor.
This gives a headache to many women, because they have repeatedly taught and have no way to get angry.
In fact, if you cut off these three kinds of confidence of a man, he will never dare to steal again.
01. Blind self-confidence
A lot of men think they're amazing, they think it's amazing if they make some money, and there will be a lot of women who like themselves. He also thinks that finding a mistress is a very face-saving thing.
So, he began to carry his wife behind his back and go back to and from the mistress. Moreover, I thought that I would hide well and not be discovered by my wife. In fact, love can't be hidden.
Sanmao said: "You can't hide if you like someone, even if you cover your mouth, you will still run out of your eyes." ”
In the TV series "Wife's New World", Wen Hao and Ren Fei have been married for many years, but they always pay attention to the flowers and plants outside. When he came into contact with the woman outside, his wife Ren Fei could see it.
As a result, Ren Fei had to make an agreement with him in three chapters: "You are not allowed to go out to drink, you are not allowed to return late, and you are not allowed not to reply to messages." "Because of Wen Hao, Ren Fei has become a detective who needs suspicion in everything.
In fact, there are many housewives in real life who have lived as detectives in their own world like Ren Fei. They are so tormented by their husband's cheating that they are dizzy, and they always see their husbands' eyes and every move being cheating.
It's not a woman lying to herself, a woman's sixth sense is the most sensitive, and usually 80% of what she intuitively feels is true. Men who steal fish will think that they are well hidden and will not be discovered. My wife sometimes thinks it's impossible, so she doesn't care, but she can't hide from her sixth sense.
For example, in "Wife's New World", the male director Yiming is speeding forward on the road of cheating. He is the marketing manager of Yunhai Apparel and has a happy family. But after his wife An An became pregnant, she gave up her work and raised the baby at home. However, she never thought that Ren Ming would get together with her neighbor's little sister Shi Yue when she was a child.
When Shi Yue first came to her sister's house, she was very envious of her sister's life, from wanting to get her sister's red high heels to taking everything from her sister for herself, Shi Yue can be said to have exhausted her scheming.
Later, he was discovered by An An, An An slapped Shi Yue wildly, and then, Ren Ming's derailment scandal caused trouble to the company, he was fired by the big leader, and his family and career fell into a quagmire.
Women should take good care of their husbands at all times, you must know that there is no cat in the world who does not like to eat fish, even if it is a good man, there is a possibility of stealing fish.
As Romain Rolland said, "A man is easily deceived when he is flattered and his pride and desires are satisfied."And fantastical artists are more likely to be deceived. ”
When a man betrays you, it is usually because he has too high a opinion of himself and his wife, one is too confident, the other is too trusting, and finally the premarital affair becomes a fact.
02, deceive you and be soft-hearted
Some men have repeatedly cheated and do not change, all because of women's soft-heartedness. Many men confess their mistakes to women for the first time, and women will forgive him, so it causes the man's second and third cheating. Because he knows that you are soft-hearted, coupled with his coaxing, it encourages the trend of men cheating.
In the Korean drama "The World of Husband and Wife", the heroine Ji Sun-woo has a decent job, her husband is a director, and her son is obedient and sensible. But such a perfect marriage was cracked when she found a lipstick in her husband's pocket.
Ji Sun-woo found a cherry-colored lipstick in her husband's coat, and a long dyed hair appeared on her husband's scarf, and she began to suspect that her husband was outside.
With suspicions in her heart, she began to stalk her husband. I found my husband's other mobile phone, and found my husband's intimacy with other women** in it. In particular, this woman also appeared at the birthday party she prepared for her husband.
Ji Shanyu found evidence of her husband's cheating, but instead of crying, she said to her husband knowingly: "If you admit it and break up cleanly, I may be able to forgive you." When she said that, she relented and didn't want a divorce.
As a result, under Ji Shanyu's soft-heartedness, her husband did not stop cheating, and it intensified, and in the end, the couple began to tear each other apart frantically.
Women are a system of love, and their hearts will be very soft, but in the face of their husband's cheating, don't be soft-hearted. Some men are face-savvy and can change their ways under your soft-heartedness, while some men will only press forward step by step in your soft-heartedness. Because he knows that you are soft-hearted, you will not do anything and continue to cheat. Later on, it ruined your home and ruined your life.
In the face of men who have extramarital affairs, women should not be soft-hearted, do not turn a blind eye, and do not take extreme ways to hurt each other.
is like Yishu has such a sentence in "The First Half of My Life": "The best revenge is not hatred, but coldness from the bottom of my heart, why spend energy to hate an irrelevant person." ”
Once a man betrays his marriage, the woman does not have to forgive and does not have to keep it. What a woman should do is to pack up her mood, cheer herself up, and face life with a better attitude.
03, there is no fear
After many men are found cheating, they still blatantly cheat, just because they are sure that women will not leave them, because if women leave them, their lives may not be settled. It's no wonder that men say this, there are many women who think so themselves, they are afraid of men leaving them, they are afraid of loneliness, and they are very afraid in their hearts, so they just silently endure men cheating.
The downstairs neighbor Aunt Wang is 51 years old this year, married from the countryside in the early years, has no job all her life, and a pair of children have already started a family, and it is said that she is also a person who enjoys the blessings of her old age, but every day she has to worry about Uncle Li, who is not doing her job.
Aunt Wang is from the countryside, and Uncle Li's family was poor and he couldn't marry a daughter-in-law, so he was introduced to Aunt Wang in the countryside. However, Uncle Li disliked that Aunt Wang was from the countryside, so he was messing around with women outside. And for these, Aunt Wang also endured and endured, she once let the child take care of his father, but the child couldn't manage it.
Aunt Wang once said that she didn't have a job, and she was worried that it would be difficult to live without Uncle Li, otherwise she wouldn't have lived with him a long time ago. The neighbors around us were sympathetic to Aunt Wang's situation.
Many men are determined that you don't dare to divorce, and no one will support you after divorce, so they don't change their ways and cheat frequently. In fact, for women, it is time to let themselves be in the dominant position in marriage. Financially, it can't be bad, and emotionally it must be able to afford to let go, so that men will not dare to cheat, and even if they cheat, they will admit their mistakes.
Not all men are worth retaining, and those men who think that cheating is not wrong, or that they are cheating and the fault lies with the woman, their basic concepts cannot be changed, and there is no need to redeem them. It is better to spend time studying men than to take the time to protect their own rights and interests.
Slowly change your starting point, improve your life situation, gradually get rid of your dependence on men, and give yourself strength.
04, extramarital affairs, like a swamp, seem to be calm, the grass is fertile and the water is beautiful, but once you fall into it, it will be very fatal. How many families have been separated by extramarital affairs.
Therefore, both men and women in marriage should respect themselves, respect each other, respect feelings, and never play extramarital affairs, otherwise it is themselves who will suffer.
*Originated from the Internet invasion and deletion.