In this life, people will meet many people, and the vast majority of people pass by us, just like a gust of wind in each other's lives, and the meeting is already the end, leaving no trace in each other's lives.
And a few people will have a long or short intersection with us, meet at a certain intersection and separate at a certain intersection. Only a very small number of people are able to participate in our lives and leave a mark on our lives, for better or for worse. In the process, we may develop feelings of liking and appreciation for some people, while for others, we may find it difficult to let go of them, and even feel repulsed by them. 
Mr. Mo Yan saidIn this world, there are always people you don't like, and there are always people who don't like you, which is normal. Because, it's one thing to be good or not, and it's another thing to like it or not. That's real human relationships. 
Why do we hate someone? There are many reasons, maybe it's because of each other's aura, maybe it's because each other's three views are different, maybe it's because the other party doesn't meet your expectations, or maybe it's because you just don't get along well. A friend said: When I was studying, I always had a very sharp attitude to deal with the relationship with each other when I met someone I hated, and even if the conflict intensified, I would quarrel, and the words were fierce and the other party must know that he was wrong, how bad he was, and how much I hated him. 
Later, when I came out to work, I didn't have the capital of willfulness, and I learned to deal with interpersonal relationships more gently in the process of getting along with others, even if I met someone I hated in my heart, I could get along with him politely. It's not just about being tactful, but there's no need to argue everywhere, because it will only make you emotionally unstable, consume your energy, waste your time, and don't need to be serious, just live your life. Indeed, it is not necessary to be serious with people who do not agree with their ideas. There are no two identical leaves or two identical people in the world, and everyone has their own unique ideas and ways of handling affairs. If their behavior doesn't affect you, then you can choose to ignore it and argue too much, not only to not be sure who is right, but to affect your mood and waste your time. When you quit arguments, you have more energy to do what you love and more time to find friends who are in line with your beliefs. As Liu Yu once wrote, "Some people are destined to be cancer in your life, while some people are just a sneeze." ”
Now there is a popular word called "internal friction". A casual sentence from others, but you have been entangled in your heart for a long time. Always cares too much about other people's opinions, hoping that they are popular and do not have the courage to be hated. Ever heard of the "onion-type" personality? 
People with this personality trait tend to care too much about the perceptions of others and rely too much on the praise of others to the point of losing themselves. It's like an onion, when you peel it off layer by layer, only to find that there is no kernel. But we must recognize the fact that no one will be liked by everyone, even if it is money, there are still people who think that too many people have used it and it is not clean, let alone ordinary us? In the same way, there are always people who don't like you. Your kindness, they may think is contrived; Your persistence, they may perceive as stubbornness; Your bravery, they may think of as impulsive. But what does it matter? Isn't life a process of constantly knowing oneself and accepting oneself? In the face of those unjustified hates, what we have to do is not to dwell on ourselves **not being likable enough, **not doing well enough, but to work harder to please ourselves and focus more on those things that really make us happy. Instead of craving the approval and affection of others, we should devote more energy to those who truly care for us. The important thing is to find the person who can truly accept you, including your strengths and weaknesses. As Mr. Mo Yan said: "People who don't like you are like a gust of wind blowing, you just need to pat the soil on your body and forget about them." ”
Life is a kind of breathing, deep and shallow; Interpersonal relationships are a kind of harmony, with highs and lows. You don't have to mind too much about other people's dislikes, because that's someone else's choice and right, you just need to be worthy of your own heart and principles. In the same way, you need to respect the people you don't like, because they are also an irreplaceable part of the world, and they also have the wisdom to live their lives. Living in the world, we don't need everyone to like us, and we don't need to like everyone, accept people's different emotional choices, so that we can live a more natural and real life with peace of mind. We can choose to like people who like us, or we can choose to ignore people who don't like us, each with its own path and its own scenery. Life is short, the world is big, we have too many scenery to see, and too many people we like to get along with, so don't waste time on people and things that are not worth it. "It is the best attitude to live alone in this world, to live for those who like you. Don't lose happiness with people who don't like you, and then forget about happiness with people who like you. ”I hope you are free from shackles, free and free, and live your most brilliant light.