"Mom, I'm from **? ”
This is the question my daughter asked me when she was two years old. I hesitated for a moment, thinking about how to answer her. Because I don't want to be like my mother, saying that she dug it out of the soil.
How can you dig me so completely out of the soil? Didn't gouge out a leg, an arm, a finger, or a big scar on your face? "This simple question has been bothering me for years. It wasn't until later that I was arbitrarily informed that it was a little hard to accept. Therefore, it is necessary to let the daughter gradually learn the truth, instead of going the other way.
So, I looked at my daughter with a slight smile and said, "You came out of my belly!" ”
How did I get out of your belly? "I had expected that she would ask this question next.
It's the doctor who makes a cut in the stomach, takes you out, and sews it up again. ”
Doesn't it hurt? She asked, a little scared.
If it doesn't hurt, the doctor used anesthetic, and it doesn't feel pain. She fell silent and said no more.
Let's dress Barbie together, shall we? I glanced at her and immediately shifted the subject. I was worried that she would then rip off my clothes and ask, "Why don't I have a scar on my stomach?" ”
And this question will make it more difficult for me to answer. I don't want to tell her that the scar on my stomach has grown and that's contrary to reality. But I don't want to tell you that I gave birth to her. In this way, she will ask next, born from **? How was it born? In the face of such a two-year-old child, the real answers to the following series of questions always seem not so good. Sooner or later, everything will be known to her, but now is not the time, and it doesn't seem appropriate.
Mom, I know how I came to be! "When she met me, she told me excitedly.
How did it come about? "I'm looking forward to seeing what kind of answer I can give.
It was Daddy's sperm that met your egg, and then there was me. She was as happy and excited as Christopher Columbus had discovered a new world.
I was a little surprised to be able to answer it so scientifically. "How do you know? ”
Xiaoqiang run: "What the book says! So she pulled out a hard, brightly colored picture book from her bag. Then tell me how the sperm raced desperately and how it went through a lot of dangers to meet the egg.
She was four years old this year and had a small kindergarten class.
During the course of our conversation, I was worried that she would ask me another question: "How did Daddy's sperm get into your body?" ”
Mom, how does the sperm get to the egg? She was 8 years old and finally asked this question.
I was speechless for a moment, pretending not to hear her. During this period, she had a similar but not very specific problem, I just told her that when two people get married, they will have children. Later, he told her that getting married is two people going to one place to get a certificate. But she never knew what marriage was, but vaguely understood that if she got married, she would have children.
Later, she knew that getting married was to live together like her parents, but how did the sperm get to the egg, and she finally settled down on this question, clear and clear.
Oh, I see! It's when Daddy is in bed, the sperm spills on the bed and then runs into your body. But what about sperm? She searched carefully on the bed.
Sperm is so small that you can't see it! "I acquiesced in her self-enlightenment. If you don't have enough wisdom, you can only go with the flow and passively go with the flow.
This year, my daughter is nine years old and in the third grade of elementary school.
Lately she has been particularly fond of watching movies, and apart from going to the cinema once in a while, the two of us sometimes watch "movie commentary" on our phones. Her favorite is the "Little Lady" commentary, which is articulate and humorous and mischievous. It's just that most of the movies she explains are romance films, and it is inevitable that there will be clips of two people, which she calls "radio gymnastics". The straightforward pictures have been processed, and what my daughter sees is just a behavior without a core, which is not beyond the scope of a child's acceptance, so I don't exclude her from watching it.
In fact, every time I see the action part, I am a little nervous, worried that if I ask them what they are doing, I don't know how to answer smartly, so how do you deal with it? Thanks for sharing wisdom.