When people reach old age, social relations shrink, and every friend around them is precious.
But there are many kinds of friends, as the Greek saying goes:
Some people look like friends, but they are not.
Some people don't look like friends, but they are often real friends.
Therefore, it is very important for the elderly to distinguish between true and false intentions, real friends and fake friends.
When there are the following two kinds of people around, the elderly must quickly break off the relationship, the faster the break, the better the old life.
Someone who instigates you to have a bad conscience
Although he is 62 years old, in order to supplement his son and daughter-in-law, Uncle Zhou has been doing all kinds of short-term jobs, odd jobs, and even garbage removal workers in the community.
But when a well-paid odd job approached Uncle Zhou, Uncle Zhou resolutely refused.
Because of the average economic conditions of the family, when he is free, Uncle Zhou, like some old people, will go to listen to some lectures specially set up for the elderly for a few catties of eggs and a few packs of noodles. Among them, there are naturally many health care product lectures.
Because of the number of times he participated, Uncle Zhou and some salesmen were familiar with each other.
Once, after listening to a lecture, a handsome young man found Uncle Zhou and chatted enthusiastically. Finally the lad said:
Uncle, if you work as a model for our company, we will give you half of the commission for every product sold. If there is no turnover, you come to the scene once, and we will pay you an appearance fee of 50 yuan.
The so-called model is actually To. Uncle Zhou doesn't believe in the role of health care products, and he also knows that these companies are just trying to cheat the elderly out of money.
Therefore, Uncle Zhou refused without hesitation.
Afterwards, Uncle Zhou found that Uncle Wang, an old man who often did odd jobs with him and listened to lectures, became a model for this company, and he also did the business to the familiar old men and old ladies around him.
After learning the truth, Uncle Zhou took the initiative to stay away from Uncle Wang.
Conscience is a person's principle of life and the bottom line of life.
Those who break the bottom line will one day endanger your life for the sake of profit.
Such people must be kept away.
People who always speak ill of others
As the saying goes, there are many old roots in the tree, and there are many old people in the old words.
When you reach a certain age, people will inevitably become talkative, coupled with the shrinking of social circles, the topics of chatting and communicating with people will inevitably become short and trivial in parents.
However, no matter how much you talk and how much you like to talk about your family's shortcomings, you must stay away from those who always like to speak ill of others.
A good word can affect countless people. But a bad word can kill countless people.
After retiring, Grandma Xu became one of the members of the community mother-in-law circle. Seven or eight mothers-in-law of the same age, singing together, playing mahjong, dancing square dance, or going for a walk together, really make life a lot more lively and happy.
But after getting along for a while, Grandma Xu found that there were two mothers-in-law among them, who especially liked the east family and the west family, and said some words to sow discord.
For example, there is a mother-in-law who gets along with her daughter-in-law in general, and is limited to being polite to each other. But because of the children, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had to live under the same roof.
When the two people learned about it, they began to add oil and vinegar, not to say that this daughter-in-law didn't know how to repay her, or that compared with whose daughter-in-law, this daughter-in-law was lazy and greedy, and she loved to dress up.
After a long time, the mother-in-law of this family was even more unhappy, and at the instigation of these two people, she also had several head-on conflicts with her daughter-in-law in a row, making the family jump and not peaceful.
Grandma Xu saw it in her eyes and remembered it in her heart, and slowly became estranged from these three people, and the original team of seven or eight people was also divided into two parts.
Wise people don't speak dark words, and smart people don't speak ill of people behind their backs.
If you don't call for a mouthful of karma, there will be more stability and harmony in old age.
The people who encourage you to do things without conscience are often people who have no principles and moral bottom line, and will lead your life into the abyss.
People who love to chew the root of their tongue and like to play with right and wrong will provoke all kinds of right and wrong, and once they should be reconciled, they will be corrupted by him.
Instead of always being scared and hypocritically interacting with such people, it is better to cut through the chaos quickly, stay away from them as soon as possible, and return yourself to peace and tranquility. Social variety