A person's greatest blessing is to let the karma of the original family be cut off in his own generation.
Material deprivation can destroy the dignity of a person's life, while spiritual deprivation can exhaust the reincarnation of several lifetimes.
In the family of origin and the environment in which he grew up, the biggest obstacle comes from the shackles of his parents' thinking defects, cognitive poverty, mental deficiency, and short-sightedness. They will pass on insecurity and deprivation from generation to generation to form the collective subconscious memory of the whole family! Psychology calls it habit, and Buddhism calls it karma!
Therefore, behind an anxious mother is most likely to stand an insecure child, who is generally afraid of the outside world, feels scared, and feels inferior!
Throughout their lives, they are constantly grasping outward, suffering from gains and losses. In order to cater to the needs of the poor mind, their decisions are short-sighted, because the medium and long-term plans are full of too much uncertainty for them, and this uncertainty often frightens them!
When we pass on the experience and cognition passed on to you by our parents to face the intricacies of society, often our outlook on life and values will be ruthlessly crushed!
The nature of poverty has been planted in the last generation. Most people don't know the reason for this and think they don't work hard enough. When a family does not have a person who wakes up, and there is no one who has strength, it is more difficult for the family to turn over and counterattack, than to ascend to the sky.
Therefore, the best way to change your fate is not to start a business, but to get rid of the fetters of the original family!
Escape is not the most important, awakening is the most important. If we can't wake up, we will be sealed for a lifetime by fear, insecurity, glass hearts, low self-esteem, and all kinds of obsessions, and we will not be able to move.
Only when your subconscious awakens at the moment that life begins to enter the stage of fighting monsters and upgrading, from the previous passive mode of waiting, relying and demanding, gradually moving towards the active mode of creation, independence and bravery.
Many people spend their entire lives sealed in the experience of fear in their minds and never really live their lives to be themselves. It's because I've been living in subconscious fear, insecurity, and inferiority.
They spend their lives maintaining their own face and maintaining the correctness of their minds, so they are afraid that others will laugh at them, that others will accuse them, and that others will ignore them.
Living in a low-dimensional world of right and wrong, he will never admit defeat in words, and he is a dwarf in action.
Friends who have a bad family of origin really start their lives at the age of 40, because they need to spend at least 20 years rebuilding their inner world!
Many times, what we see in our parents is our personality flaws. The habits, thinking, language, and behavior of the environment in which we grew up are all our comfort zone. The huge inertia will continue to pull us down, repeating the life trajectory and destiny similar to that of our parents.
If you don't want to replicate the miserable life of your parents, you have to consciously go against your parents and raise yourself again. Cultivating personality traits that are contrary to theirs, self-coping patterns, cognitive patterns, and interpersonal patterns.
Living oneself is never determined by one's origin, but by one's mind.
People who have a bad original family are already very good if they slow down for half a beat, so you don't have to blame yourself. Otherwise, you will be carrying the cause and effect of your parents all the time, and you will not be able to bear the weight!
Because when others are growing up, you are still trapped in the internal friction of the original family. The truth that others have known for a long time, but you continue to consume in a vicious circle of painful reincarnation. Because they don't teach you the right way, people don't gradually understand some truths until middle age.
Therefore, the most important point is to never give up on yourself, believe in yourself, believe that slow is fast, drip through stones, accumulate steadily, and find your own direction.
Instead of comparing with others, after not being able to compare, he attacked himself, doubted himself, and continued to fall into the entanglement with his original family.
A broken and missing heart, from growth to healing, from healing to awakening, tempers a heart that is strong when it is strong, and the more frustrated it is, the more courageous it is. It's a tough process that requires patience and takes time. But that's what life is all about!
Many people don't even have the opportunity to awaken, so they go through their lives in a state of confusion and numbness. Many people may have awakened and found some ways, but they don't have the patience to go on, and they still go through their lives in a daze.
Always put yourself in God's vision, peel off the inertia of the game, overlook the weak mentality seen in the blood, twist, and obsession of people and things in the growth environment, immediately let go of the expectation of being saved, and re-establish the logic of the strong who saves yourself!
Our ** family of origin has always been attributed to blame. If we are born into a privileged family of origin, we should be grateful! Someone shelters himself from the wind and rain; If we are born in a bad family of origin, we should also be grateful, we finally have the opportunity to change the fate of the family, even if it is not successful, it is a rare experience in life!
Life is a practice, this road ups and downs and stumbles, every step of the bumps is a reminder of wisdom, in**obstacles, in**reflection, in**confusion, in**goodness, suffering, in**awakening!
When you change, the world changes, the mind has everything, the mind is empty, and everything is empty. It's never the external things that hold us back, it's your heart!
The mind is free of obstacles, there are no obstacles, there is no terror, and it is far away from upside-down dreams, and it is nirvana.