1. Never let your guard down to avoid potential dangers
Every family has its own safety considerations, and the protection of girls is particularly important. Although socializing is part of a child's development, we must always be alert to potential dangers. Therefore, I am determined not to let my daughter go to a friend's house alone. Although friends trust each other, we should not take trust lightly. Aggression between acquaintances is common, and this kind of injury often leaves a shadow on the girl's life. Therefore, we should avoid causing lifelong harm to girls, let them maintain a sense of boundaries, not get too close to their friends, and always be alert to themselves.
2. The benefits of socializing and the appropriate way
Even though I wouldn't let my daughter go to a friend's house alone, I definitely support her socializing. We can invite our classmates to play in the community, park or playground to create a safe and fun environment. Such activities foster friendships, develop teamwork skills, and allow children to have a good time. However, we must make a clear agreement with the girls that after playing, they will go back to their respective homes, not disturb each other, and keep an appropriate distance so as not to cause unnecessary trouble.
1. The truth of the infringement and its threat
It is a terrible fact that 60 per cent of girls have been abused by acquaintances during their teenage years. This number is staggering, but it is real. This means that we cannot afford to take our nearest and dearest members out of the realm of potential victimization of girls. The hidden threat behind it is enough to make people feel frightened, and it often takes a lifetime for a girl who has been abused to get rid of the shadow in her heart and find security and happiness in life again.
2. Aggression between acquaintances expands the possibility of malice
The proportion of violations, which occurred between acquaintances, is even more alarming. We are wary of strangers, but often overlook the potential threat to us from those close to us. The aggressor can be neighbors, relatives and elders, and even the girls' closest grandfathers, grandfathers, and other family members. These evil deeds are beyond our imagination and unacceptable. I once shared a post on Zhihu related to the abuse of relatives, but I didn't expect it to attract many people's attention and comments. It made me realize that girls who have been abused are not uncommon in the eyes of others. After being violated by relatives, many girls choose to hide this secret for the rest of their lives because of their respect for their families and the bondage of family affection. This silence makes it difficult for them to come out of the shadows, but unfortunately, many parents turn a blind eye to this and choose to cover it up in order to maintain the so-called family face. For such parents, I don't think they are up to the responsibilities of being parents. We should encourage girls to protect themselves and come forward to expose such crimes, and we must give them our full support and protection, they need the support of us as parents.
To sum up, the safety and well-being of girls is of paramount importance. We can't put our daughter's life in danger of growing up because of a fluke mentality. Although we can't control everything, we should take proactive steps to protect girls from harm. Keeping daughters from playing alone at friends' homes is an important protective measure, encouraging them to socialise and play in other appropriate settings. At the same time, we need to increase our awareness of the problem of abuse between acquaintances and be alert to potential threats within the family. Girls need our unwavering support and protection, and their voices and safety are our shared responsibility. Only by working together can we create a safe, loving and caring environment where girls can move away from abuse and into a better future.