Wilde said: "Don't waste your ** years, don't listen to boring things, don't try to save yourself from desperate failures, don't dedicate your life to ignorance, mediocrity and vulgarity. ”
Do you do it every day or all day? Most of my free time is spent attending parties, watching dramas, watching short **, and playing games.
Have you ever had to be cared for by someone who has instilled in you worldly ideas?
Do you know how an emotional relationship can make you feel uncomfortable, but you don't want to let go yet?
In recent years, time seems to have passed quickly. At the year-end party, I always hear someone say, "Although I didn't do anything this year, the end of the year has passed." ”
When I was a kid, I looked forward to growing up quickly. Make money and live your life. But as I grew older, I realized that even though time flies, I will never be able to live the little life I dreamed of.
In this life, don't waste time for fewer regrets. Let's cut back on meaningless things, stop listening to useless words, and give up on things that are irreparable.
Take the time to do serious things.
In my free time, I like to play, eat and drink with friends from all walks of life.
Hot pot, barbecue, KTV, disco, ......The series usually doesn't end until two or three o'clock in the morning.
Since no one invited me out, I sometimes stayed up late watching dramas or playing games.
During that time, I didn't actually feel happy, on the contrary, I often felt anxious. I was worried that sleep deprivation would affect my work, and I was worried that I wouldn't be able to take care of myself and others wouldn't want to play with me.
Luckily, I grabbed the idea that popped into my head and started to incorporate reading into my daily life. That's when I found reading and study skills fun.
Increasingly, I refused to go to smoky parties and stopped contacting my friends who were drinking and meaty.
If reading and studying didn't broaden my horizons, I would probably be like most seniors, working only for my former employer until I left, no matter how much I hated it.
Starlight doesn't care about the people on the road, and time rewards those who are willing to do so. ”
Time is the same for everyone, and how you approach it, you will get the corresponding results.
Don't wait until the end of your life to regret the scenery you missed before you know your life.
Don't take trivial things seriously.
It's almost the Lunar New Year. Perhaps the biggest complaint of young people today about the Chinese New Year is the pressure from relatives and friends to get married.
Two days ago, I chatted with Mr. Fa Xiao, who works in Shanghai, and asked her if she would go back to her hometown for the Chinese New Year. She replied categorically that she would not reply.
She has promised to take her parents to Shanghai for the Chinese New Year this year. "Our family of three plans to celebrate the Lunar New Year happily and carefree. ”
Her parents thought so for a long time. She complained that she didn't want to get married since she was a child, but the seventh and eighth aunts in the family couldn't understand it, and they had to teach her a lesson every Spring Festival.
When I published **, I was well aware that those people were trying to impose their perceptions on her under the guise of "caring".
It's not that I'm afraid of them, my perception is not affected by them, it's just that they chatter all day long, so it's annoying and affects my mood. ”
In fact, there are a lot of people around me who have given up. Being stubborn, living up to the expectations of others, and constantly making changes will ultimately harm us.
Don't listen to things that are useless or not for you. If you can't avoid it, don't take it seriously.
You are always in control of your life. You are the only one who cares about what is right for you and what you like, and you are the only one who is responsible.
If you can't save it, leave it as it is.
Not long ago I found the chat history while browsing **. The boy said goodbye to the girl and finally said: "I wish you all the best. You'll find better people. ”
Unexpectedly, the girl did not stop crying and did not complain hysterically. Instead, I happily sent a voice reply. "Break up, break up, I can't keep a man like you, and you still want me to find a better person. ”
After saying this, she couldn't help but laugh. The voice made the man very angry. He threatened to ** her.
The authenticity of this ** is unknown. It may be a joke, but I think it can be a useful reference for love and marriage.
I have seen men file for divorce and the woman agrees, saying that she cannot waste another woman's life and would rather sacrifice herself for divorce than continue to waste her life. I refused.
But the only person she really wasted was herself. The man is still free and happy outside, and she takes care of the housework, the elderly and children.
Failure in an emotional relationship is not something to be ashamed of. Because of the unnecessary "hesitation" to help the other party destroy themselves is the greatest tragedy.
What can't be saved, can't be saved. Just like the sand in your hand, the harder you squeeze, the more and faster the sand will fall.
If you can't hold it, it's not yours, so there's no need to force yourself to take it. Don't miss out on what is truly yours because you can't keep it.
The book "How Steel Is Made" says: "A man should spend his life in such a way that, when he looks back, he does not regret that he wasted his time, nor is he ashamed of his inaction. ”
Human life is only once, and you have come to this world whether you want it or not, so don't live sloppily.
Stop blinding your mind with ignorance and stop using mediocrity as an excuse. If everyone else can live a brilliant life in their own lives, why can't you?
There are many people in this world who have a lower starting point than you, but there are also those who end up making it to the top through hard work and perseverance.
You don't have to climb too high, but at least keep yourself happy. Because only you can do that.