If the children of poor families want to change and get out of the bottom, they will have a battle with their parents at the bottom.
This is especially true for poor children who have a hard time coping with their usual work and have to suffer from family pressure when they get home.
In fact, most poor children have a broken family relationship.
Recently, a reader consulted me and she said that she was afraid to contact her parents lately because her parents made a lot of decisions for her that she didn't like, often put pressure on her as elders, and she felt like she was a joke in the eyes of her parents.
Every time she chatted with them, she would have a lot of negative emotions in her heart, feeling that she was very sorry for them, she couldn't make up her mind to cut these shackles, she was very confused, and she believed in me very much, so she was willing to consult me.
I know a little bit about her situation and understand her feelings.
Many poor children have lived in the expectations of their parents for decades, and their personalities and souls are not independent.
They will always be ridden on the head by their parents, everything must be controlled by their parents, and their parents are in charge.
A poor child like her, who has always needed to consider the views of her parents, but does not have the absolute strength to break free from the shackles, can imagine how difficult life will be.
Should we listen to our parents' opinions and live according to the route arranged by our parents?
Two situations: If you are a rich second generation, your parents are both top-level social elites and are particularly good bosses.
Then their experience and advice are likely to help you go through your life, you can refer to it, but only for reference.
If you are from a low-income family, your parents are poor ghost parents, and they spend their days idle and have nothing to do.
I am a poor ghost, and I think about my son becoming a dragon and my daughter becoming a phoenix every day. Usually have nothing to do, I like to use my three-legged cat's cognition to guide you.
In this case, you don't listen to any of their opinions, even a word, it will harm you in your next life.
Most people's parents should be the latter, they are poor and whimsical, and have a strong desire to control you.
If you don't listen to them, they will threaten you with the disconnection of you at every turn.
If you succumb, you will live in their shadow for the rest of your life, sucking your blood all the time, making you live like a person at all.
That's why I said that if children from poor families want to truly awaken and truly transform, they must have a battle with their parents at the bottom.
Many people live very tired all their lives, that is, they are too good at talking, too kind, too believing in feelings, and do not know how to refuse and turn their faces.
People with this kind of personality are prone to cultivate a bunch of vampires around them, who will come to suck your blood from time to time and torture you, making your life worse than death.
The most important thing you need to do to treat this kind of low-level parents and poor ghost families is not to be reluctant, but to try to stay away from them.
If you can, when you are 18 years old, you have to dare to take a stand and attitude.
Break the unrealistic illusions of your parents, especially those at the bottom who just want to suck your blood and control your life.
Responsible parents, after the child is 18 years old, will start to prepare a garage for the child.
After graduation, the child will use his network resources to arrange a job for the child and prepare entrepreneurial funds.
It is understandable if the family itself is not in good condition and cannot give the child more material help.
But don't put any more pressure on your child's spirit, and don't show your child the way forward.
I am from a poor background, so I must be self-aware and do not affect my children's lives.
Every child is a copy of their parents, especially from their innate looks and acquired wealth.
The parents themselves are good-looking, and the children are generally not ugly.
If the parents themselves are rich, the children are generally not poor.
If your family genes are already very poor, and the whole family is poor and not good-looking, then you must find another way out and get rid of the influence of your parents as soon as possible.
If you can let go of your parents' expectations, you can let go of anyone's expectations, and the big stone that weighs on your heart will fall.
You'll feel a sense of relief, and then you'll be able to truly start your life.
Once you find this feeling, you'll be terrified:
It turns out that your material and spiritual pressure is brought to you by your low-level parents.
If you don't wake up sooner, this heavy pressure will follow you for the rest of your life, making you never straighten your waist and lift your head.
The worst part is that you will bring the pressure that your parents brought to you to the next generation untouched.
Therefore, the children of poor families must make themselves brave once, start to stay away from the spiritual shackles of the original family, and break the ideological seal of filial piety, only in this way will your personality and will be independent.
Once your will is independent, your thinking and cognition will also be independent, and only then can you see yourself clearly, discover your strengths and weaknesses, and tap your potential.
I've always believed that everyone has unlimited potential.
As long as you get rid of anyone's shackles and expectations and live for yourself, you will gain a powerful energy to become your true self and have a better life.