Life in rural areas is gradually improving, and farmers are gradually gaining economic strength, so the amount of wedding bride price in rural areas has also begun**. Rural people attach great importance to the marriage of their children and want to give them the best wedding. In traditional rural weddings, there is a saying "aunt does not take, aunt does not send", which refers to the selection and exclusion of specific people when getting married. So, why can't aunts and aunts participate in receiving and sending off? In modern society, should we maintain this traditional behavior? Let's take a look.
In traditional rural weddings, the man's family has to send some people to pick up the relatives. The choice of picking up relatives is very important, they need to prepare a wedding car and gifts, and represent the image of the man's family. However, it is interesting to note that the aunt, who is related to the bride by blood and is close to the man, cannot participate in the reception. Why can't my aunt participate in the kissing?
First of all, ancient rural societies had a strict marriage system and concept. Once a woman marries, she is regarded as "someone else's family", so the aunt, as a married woman, cannot represent the man's family to take relatives. This is related to the ancient people's sense of belonging and concept of women, they believed that "the woman who marries out, spills the water". In addition, the ancient people also had some superstitious notions that "Gu" and "Gu" were homophonic, which could have an impact on the bride's lifelong happiness. In order to avoid bad connotations, people do not choose aunts when choosing to pick up relatives.
However, in modern society, this restriction does not necessarily apply. We pay more attention to individual choice and freedom, the intimacy and blood relationship between the aunt and the bride is undeniable, and they can participate in the reception, after all, the unity and harmony of the family are more important.
In rural weddings, in addition to the man's family to pick up the relatives, the woman's family also has to send people to send relatives. Similar to the man's aunt, the woman's aunt cannot participate in the send-off. Again, there are far-reaching historical reasons for this rule.
First of all, although the woman's aunt is related to the bride by blood, she has married and become a member of another family, which means that she is not "her own family". In ancient rural society, if you don't have your biological family to send your relatives when you get married, it will be considered to have a bad meaning, so the woman's family will avoid letting the married aunt send her relatives. In addition, some people think that "aunt" and "doubt" are homophonic, and they are worried that it will bring bad meaning and suspicion to the newlyweds.
Similar to the lack of acceptance, it is necessary for modern society to break this limitation. There is no doubt about the intimacy between the aunt and the bride, and they should have the right to participate in the send-off. After all, marriage is a family-to-family affair, and family unity and harmony are more important than superstitious ideas.
"Aunt does not take, aunt does not send" is a code of conduct in traditional rural weddings, although it has its historical and cultural background, but whether this restriction is suitable in modern society is debatable. Aunts and aunts, as relatives in the family who have a deep blood relationship with the bride, should have the right to participate in the process of receiving and sending off relatives during the marriage process. The inheritance of traditional culture is important, but we must also keep pace with the times and filter out unreasonable concepts. Let's face the changes of rural weddings with an open mind and an inclusive attitude, and achieve a balance between personal freedom and family harmony.