Professor Peng of Tsinghua University The harder you work, the more likely you are to get "hollow heart disease", but parents rarely care about it
Today's society seems to be demanding more and more speed. The people who work are busy, the students are also under a lot of pressure, and the phenomenon of involution is becoming more and more serious. But should we identify with this lifestyle? Should we blindly pursue a unified training model?
Perhaps it is only when the drawbacks of this lifestyle become apparent that people realize the need to stop and think and make changes. Some students seem to be perfect, but in reality they are under a lot of stress and trouble.
The harder the student, the more likely it is to fall into the problem of "hollow heart disease", which is often ignored by parents.
Do you have someone like that around you? They seem to be honest and do their duty, and they work hard to learn and live. But you always feel that they are lifeless and empty inside.
In the eyes of parents and teachers, they may be exemplary students with good grades. But as time went on, the problem became more and more apparent.
For example, some students enter college after the college entrance examination, and suddenly become confused and addicted to games all day long. Or after entering social work, they become more and more negative and lose confidence in the future.
Psychologists call it "hollow heart disease". They seem to be normal on the surface, and even outstanding in the eyes of society. For example, they were admitted to prestigious schools and had decent jobs.
However, their hearts are empty and lacking the nourishment of their souls. Ask them why they are studying and what they are after, and they may not be able to give clear answers.
It is as if living under the expectations of their parents and teachers since childhood, this situation may seem harmless, but in fact it can make them feel lost and helpless in life.
Many people don't start to find themselves until middle age, and their parents often ignore this issue. Parents in the country are rarely concerned about their children's emotional and mental health.
Professor Peng Kaiping believes that there are serious shortcomings in the education system. The school only focuses on the transfer of knowledge, and ignores the cultivation of values and humanistic ideas. Parents only focus on scores and rankings, and rarely give their children emotional support.
It is worth reflecting on the fact that those students who work harder are often prone to falling into hollow heart disease. Because they have been too judgmental in the unexpected world since childhood.
Compared to mischievous children, those who are less diligent tend to have their own ideas, do not blindly pursue other people's expectations, and are able to find joy in the things they enjoy.
How to prevent "hollow heart disease" has always been a matter of great concern. Experts point out that even those who excel academically may face challenges in the workplace and in life in the future. This may explain why some people with mediocre grades are able to do better in the workplace after graduation.
In home and school education, we cannot just focus on completing academic tasks mechanically. An individual's character, vitality, and attitude play a crucial role in the later stages.
For avoiding "hollow heart disease", Professor Peng Kaiping provided some suggestions. The first priority is to develop students' self-awareness so that they have a clear understanding of who they are and what they are capable of.
There are many students who are clearly doing well but lack self-confidence, which is usually related to the parent's parenting style. Therefore, parents can guide their children to describe what they are good at and what they are not good at, what they like and what they don't like, so as to form a clearer self-perception. This way, students don't get too proud when they get the honor because they understand that they have limitations. Similarly, when faced with failures and setbacks, they do not easily become discouraged and feel inferior because they know that they have other strengths.
Second, education should guide students to think about and feel the meaning of life. Life education not only involves the cultivation of knowledge about safety and health, but also involves ideological guidance.
Many parents define success only as good grades, good jobs, happy marriages, and good incomes, and this single criterion can easily turn many potential for happiness into the same failure.
Professor Pang emphasised that parents and teachers should allow students to have their own ideas and let them think about their own life paths. The meaning of life is diverse, not limited to school, career, and family.
In the process of nurturing the next generation, parents need to have a long-term vision, not only to pursue short-term results, but also to pay attention to the inner world of their children. Students should be evaluated more diversely, rather than using a single criterion to measure their worth. Times don't wait for anyone, but the pursuit of speed and neglect long-term planning can lead to many hidden dangers. Therefore, we hope that more parents can pay attention to their children's inner world from childhood, not only academic performance.
Topic: Do you support Prof. Peng's views?