This post-90s generation became popular, because when the other party got married, he congratulated him with a gift, but he didn't expect that after he got married and sent an invitation, the other party said that he couldn't come to congratulate during the pregnancy period (this is understandable, after all, everyone will encounter special circumstances), not only do people not come, but the "gift" is not returned. This classmate is not used to it, so he went directly to the door on WeChat, "Return the wedding gift I gave you!" ”
This domineering behavior caused a wave of praise, and most people left messages, "Sui Li" is originally a human relationship, and coming and going is the right way to open. Some people are thick-skinned, and they only go in and can't leave, so they should be treated like this.
Seeing the lively discussion on the Internet, I couldn't help but think of Aunt Wang's gift book. When her son got married, Aunt Wang put on a wedding wine and left a gift book, which clearly recorded who and who gave the gift, and then every Saturday, Sunday and holiday, she had to open it to see who married her daughter, who married her daughter-in-law, and she had to pay off the gift every time she paid off a debt. There are a few people whose children are always not married, so Aunt Wang goes to inquire when their birthday is, and rushes to congratulate them on their tenth (usually sixty) birthday. When you have something to do with yourself (the wedding day often collides, because there are only a few days suitable for marriage), you will apologize to the host family and cannot come to congratulate in person, but the gift money will not be absent.
If you put a wine on the table, you have to pay off the debt for many years. That's what she says all the time.
Nowadays, the etiquette is getting bigger and bigger, and the burden on young people is getting heavier and heavier, and some people are overwhelmed. Moreover, more and more people do not plan to get married, and they don't want to owe themselves too many gifts, so they simply don't go to the wedding.
This is also one of the ancient Chinese customs. For major events in life, Chinese people always like to be lively, like everyone to get together, and at the same time, they also have the meaning of raising funds to do big things. But traditional customs are now being challenged by young people.
Suddenly, I felt that the customs of Guangdong were good (in fact, it was only in the Nanfanshun area, not all of Guangdong). The people here get married and set up wine, which is really a lively picture, hoping that everyone will appreciate the light to bless the newlyweds, so they do not accept gift money. People who come to congratulate will prepare red envelopes, and the host will reach out to take them to express their gratitude and return them on the spot (some will tear a corner on the red envelope), as for the red envelope is 1110000, no one opens it to see. In this way, the pressure of setting the wine is given to the host family, and everyone will decide the size of the wedding according to their own financial strength. This custom is so good, I felt fresh and refined when I participated for the first time, but when I thought about inviting someone to eat when I got married, I still felt a little pressured. Ha ha.
However, in a comprehensive comparison, the wedding customs of Nanfanshun, Guangdong are good.