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Recently, a storm about a wedding in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province has attracted widespread attention. A woman asked a graduate student for 500 yuan in money for her marriage share, which caused heated discussions on the Internet. According to the party, he gave a gift of 500 yuan when his graduate student got married in 2017, however, the party invited the classmate when he got married, but the other party refused to attend on the grounds of pregnancy and did not take the initiative to return the gift, which made the party feel very angry. She turned out the screenshot of the transfer at that time and decided to return the 500 yuan gift money.
This incident sparked a discussion among netizens, and some people supported the party's approach, believing that since the other party did not fulfill its promise to attend the wedding, then he should take the initiative to return the gift money. In China, the gift is often closely related to blood relatives, and only the gift between blood relatives can be recovered more reliably. Gifts given to friends and classmates are difficult to take back over time. Especially when the geographical location changes, the connection with former friends and classmates will gradually become estranged. Therefore, if the other party has moved to a big city to start a new life, the previous friendship should also gradually fade or even break off. The number of friends is limited and fragile, and if you don't work together often and aren't in the same place, that friendship is likely to fade away. In this case, the party's request for the return of the gift money is not out of snobbery and the consideration of having money or not, but a realistic helplessness and inevitable choice.
With the development of society, people's attitudes towards casual gifts are also quietly changing. Affection is reciprocal, and the gift given should be about the same or even more than what the other person gives. If the amount of the gift is less than what the other party gives, it will give people a sense of stinginess and taking advantage of others, which will cause dissatisfaction among the other party. Therefore, when giving gifts to anyone, do not cut the share of the gift money.
In addition, when giving gifts, you should also be careful not to be too showy and not to have the psychology of comparison. The amount of the gift should be decided according to one's own financial strength. Especially when giving gifts to leaders and bosses, you must be consistent with other colleagues, if you are unique and too public, you will only invite trouble for yourself.
Between relatives, although most people have sincere feelings, it is inevitable to meet some relatives who have a discordant relationship. For those relatives who have no good intentions towards you and are scheming about you, refusing to give you a gift is a perfectly reasonable choice. Gift-giving is a way to express emotion, not a means of socializing. If certain relatives are only enthusiastic about you on certain occasions and do not care about you at other times, you have every right to maintain an independent position and not be swayed by them. By refusing to give gifts, you can filter out relatives who are really good to you and reduce unnecessary trouble.
In conclusion, whether it is with blood relatives, friends and classmates, we should maintain a rational and calm attitude. Gifts are not only a way to express gratitude and blessings, but more importantly, we can see the real relationship between people in it. Giving should not be done out of power and vanity, but with sincerity and goodwill. Whether you receive or give a gift money, you should have a peaceful heart, based on sincere feelings and friendship, so that the bond between people will be stronger.
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