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Recently, I saw a topic: "Sharing the moment of loss of desire after marriage".
The experience of one netizen resonated with many.
Her husband once went on a business trip and asked her about the specific arrangements for his business trip, and her husband simply said that he was going to study.
When she asked further about the content of the study, he still did not give a clear answer.
She couldn't help crying and told her husband that she didn't know as much about his business trip as his colleagues.
It was only then that her husband told her the specific business trip plan and explained that the specific process had not yet been decided.
She was very confused by this, she didn't understand why she just wanted to know about her husband's business trip, and why he didn't want to share it.
She began to think that if she was going on a business trip, she would share all the details with her family from the moment she knew.
However, her husband has no such desire to share with her.
Nine years into their marriage, their communication became less and less, and she began to wonder if the marriage was still necessary.
Most of her friends thought she was looking for something, but she really didn't understand.
If there is no basic communication between two people, then why are they still together?
The lack of desire to share is like building a high wall between the two people, blocking the flow of emotions.
What was once sweet and intimate is gradually eroded by time and triviality, replaced by silence and distance.
Husbands and wives are supposed to be the closest people to each other, able to pour out their inner sorrows and joys, and face life's challenges together.
But now, they are like two parallel lines, unable to intersect again.
There are a lot of messages in the background, and what impresses me is this sentence:
WeChat sometimes doesn't have a single message for days.
* There is no one in a year.
Sitting in the co-pilot on the road, there is nothing to say.
Because I don't want to be the one who takes the initiative all the time.
Yang Jiang said: "In marriage, if the husband and wife no longer share three things with each other - life, hobbies and important moments, then their relationship may be on the verge of breakdown. ”
When he no longer shares with you the trivialities, hobbies, and important moments of his life, it means that your place in his heart is no longer as close as it used to be.
The scariest thing in marriage is not betrayal, but that you still crave to share it with him and he is indifferent.
In the variety show "Goodbye Lover", there is a couple, Guo Keyu and Zhang He, whose marriage lasted for ten years, but eventually ended in divorce.
In the show, Guo Keyu said that there is no love between himself and Zhang He, and the living habits and personalities of the two are completely different.
Although Zhang He tried to communicate with Guo Keyu, Guo Keyu always responded with indifference. Eventually, they opted for divorce.
In a good relationship, sharing and responding are the bonds that maintain the relationship, and sharing without a response is like talking to oneself and cannot truly resonate.
We should cherish those who are willing to share our lives with and give them sincere responses to bring each other's hearts closer.
What is the desire to share?
For example: Someone asked me how I was doing today, and I could answer: "I went to the park today and saw a very beautiful flower, and I also took some beautiful **, do you want to see it?" ”
Or I can simply say, "Okay." ”
The desire to share is not for everyone, but because you occupy an important place in my heart, I am willing to share these trivial things of life with you.
I want to feel the beauty of life with you and let you know my joys, sorrows, and sorrows. Whether it's a newly blooming flower, a touching book, or an unforgettable trip, I hope to share it with you.
Because the process of sharing with you is also the ** of my happiness.
If the relationship between men and women wants to go long, both parties need to "have nothing to do".
Even if what you say is trivial, even if what you say is nonsense.
So, when I share it with you, please don't take it as a burden.
This is my trust and dependence on you, and it is my way of opening my heart to you.
Sharing the bits and pieces of my life with you is my way of showing you my love.