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The so-called "leftover women" usually refer to single women who have exceeded the marriageable age defined by traditional concepts and are still unmarried. Generally, those who are not married at the age of 30 are classified as "leftover women". There are a number of statistics on the Internet about "leftover women", such as the ranking of cities that are said to have the most "leftover women", Hangzhou ranks first, with the number of "leftover women" as high as 1.3 million, followed by Shenzhen 1 million, Chengdu 850,000, Shanghai 800,000, and Beijing 750,000; According to other statistics, there are 500,000 "leftover women" over the age of 40 in Beijing. The data isn't necessarily accurate, but the overall impression is quite shocking.
The reason why they become "leftover women" is generally considered to be that the standards for these girls to choose a mate are too high, so usually if there are such "leftover girls" around, as friends or relatives, the general advice is to say that the standards are lowered or something. After all, at this age, you still have to accept the reality, just find a similar one. Or you may not really say it to your face and persuade it, but you must think so in your heart.
What is the reason for the general "leftover"? There are probably several kinds of "leftover women":
When you are in love, you may have had a very good relationship, but for various reasons, you were willful or were willful by the other party, so you missed or missed. Then there is unwillingness, and that standard is "bar" there: it must not be worse than that man. But by mistake, creation made people, and after that, I never met anyone who could meet the standard.
Everyone has requirements and expectations for their feelings and the other half they are looking for, and always adheres to the principle of "rather lack than excess", generally will not change because of time, nor will it change because of their age, as a kind of love obsession, even if they become a "leftover girl" will not compromise.
Those strong women who have a successful career give their time to their careers when they should be in love the most, although they have gained careers and fame and fortune, but at the same time they have missed the most precious years and love. Those particularly outstanding women, with high education and high intelligence, "see all the mountains at a glance", there is no one who can compare with them, and there is no one in the high places.
It is true that there are some very ordinary women, or women who have a little bit of beauty, who have low eyes and low hands, overestimate themselves, and then are always dissatisfied, constantly tossing, and as a result, they go around and around, and achieve nothing.
So, since we have come to the situation of "leftover women", do we really want to "lower the standard of mate selection"?
Uncle Coffee believes that some "standards" can indeed be lowered, and some "standards" must be adhered to until death.
For example, those external and material standards, I originally wanted to find a handsome one, find a rich one, these obsessions or pursuits don't have to be too persistent, it's almost okay.
For example, those standards about character, love, and kindness must be adhered to, and they cannot be accommodated or compromised in order to get rid of singles and "leftovers".
Believe in love and pursue a better life, although the belief in "leftover" still exists, although it is defeated, it is still glorious.