Everyone will have a time when the pressure is about to collapse, some people use alcohol to relieve their sorrows, some people find someone to talk to, but there are only a handful of people who can calm down and concentrate on doing things. In front of them. Be. One of them.
Smoking, drinking, and going to a nightclub party can only temporarily numb your nerves. Even after you wake up, the stress is still there and may get heavier.
Finding someone to confide in often only provides temporary relief and can cause problems for others. Worse, you may end up being the one to talk to them.
You alone are your own savior. The presence of stress is a fait accompli. Only by stabilizing one's own heart can one solve it little by little.
My sister, who lives in the same neighborhood, is always worried about some small things, can't sleep at night, and can't sit still during the day.
When I pass by the small gazebo in the community, I often see her complaining to others. I was worried that this would happen to my husband, either because he couldn't find a part-time job and his savings were getting dwindling, or because my son's ability to learn was declining. I can't get into a good school.
My eldest daughter's favorite phrase to say is "I'm worried to die", but she doesn't seem to do anything but "I'm worried about death".
She never thought of doing anything to supplement her family's income. Nor did he try to talk to his son calmly and find out the reason for the drop in his grades.
People who have heard her complain say that no one finds her difficult to get along with, but they all find her annoying. Sometimes, when I see her, I make an excuse and leave without saying a word.
For others, it doesn't matter how stressed you are or how difficult your life is. No one else has an interest in understanding you, let alone sympathizing with you.
A kind person may let you go, but if you meet someone of low quality, they may take your pain as a joke and tell it to others.
Don't expect others to sympathize with you. No one's superficial worries deserve your own comfort and encouragement.
A distant relative of mine was hated by his parents because of an accident when he was a child and his left lower leg was amputated.
When I was a child, I heard from my elders that his life was very hard, and his family suffered a lot.
It seems to everyone that from the day he became disabled, his parents almost gave up on him, doing nothing but starving and freezing him.
But he didn't give up on himself. He learned the trade from the village carpenter from an early age and was able to earn his own living as a teenager.
We can't control changes in the outside world, but we can decide how to deal with them.
If you have the ability to fix it quickly, fix it now. If you're not enough right now, stay calm and do what you can at hand.
Anxiety and frustration not only don't help, but they can also disrupt your thinking and disrupt your existing basic framework.
Ji Xianlin said: "How can there be true empathy in the world? If a person can manage his emotions well and digest the joys and sorrows of the world, even if he goes through ups and downs, he will still be the same, with a certain degree of perfection." It can be achieved. ”
No one can do that. There is no obligation to truly understand the emotions of others and alleviate their suffering.
Ultimately, only you can ** yourself.
Whether it's stress or pain, it can be a minor problem for others. Once or twice, others may offer sympathy or face-to-face comfort, but reassuring over and over again can be exhausting.
No matter how stressful it is, no matter how painful it is, don't tell anyone. Don't feel like you're being treated unfairly. There are many people in this world who are under more stress and pain. Save your energy and do what you can in front of everyone. You.
For the rest of our lives, we all want to spend more time and energy enjoying ourselves, not bothering ourselves, turning stress into motivation, and living more comfortably.