Text丨The West Chamber is affectionate.
It's not a long time, may you see you in my words before it's too late!
Marriage is like a stereotypical three meals a day, although it can give people a sense of stability, but you can't help but be treated to other delicious food**.
As a result, the marriage is not as strong as it seems, but whenever another person comes up at the right time, the marriage is at great risk.
But in fact, before everyone leaves their marriage, they have a period of doubt and struggle in their hearts, and finally unknowingly embark on the road of betrayal.
If you don't want to make such a mistake, just remember: once two married people share these things, the relationship is not pure, and it is easy to touch.
1.Share hobbies
Most of the goodwill between people of the opposite sex begins with their similarity to each other. When you suddenly find that another person is more similar to you than the person next to you, a good feeling will definitely arise from this.
You must know that except for the beginning of the hot period, the rest of the marriage is a dull run-in period. And with such a mode of getting along, it is easy to have aesthetic fatigue.
So, you start to actively get along with the like-minded opposite sex outside of marriage, you think it's just a vacation for your heart, but you don't know that you are slapping your face step by step with the vows you made at the wedding.
In your opinion, he may be someone other than your partner who allows you to see your interests and hobbies, you have common topics, and you can understand each other's feelings.
But you forget that this beautiful and comfortable feeling was once upon a time when your partner also started a deep friendship with you because of this.
But now you think that this is not an abusive relationship, but a pure friendship outside of marriage, which can afford to gossip.
It is precisely because of this natural self-deception that you are constantly testing on the edge of marital morality when you share interests and hobbies.
At this moment, you only care about your own feelings, and you don't think about what kind of damage such unworldly intimacy will bring to your marriage and family.
So, don't underestimate the sharing of extramarital hobbies, that's the beginning of your love betrayal.
2.Share the spiritual world
Couples whose marriage can successfully survive the pain of three years and the itch of seven years must maintain the same frequency and have similar three views.
Whenever there is a disagreement between each other's perception of life, the appearance of another person will come down from heaven like a savior.
If you feel the same way at this time, thinking that the opposite sex in another marriage is sympathetic to you, and you need to understand each other better than each other's partners, then you should really be careful.
I have said more than once that marriage is only a form of legal protection and does not fundamentally solve the problem of personal emotional transfer.
The reason why you empathize with another person in a marriage is often not because you really know and understand each other, but because of the novelty.
Two people who have been together for a long time will always get along with each other because they know each other too well, and they will habitually omit some polite ways of getting along and hit the real problem.
As a result, you may feel that your partner does not know you well enough and does not respect you enough, which forces you to want to leave the relationship.
And the opposite sex who is also dissatisfied with your marriage, because of your similar experiences, mistakenly thinks that you can share each other's spiritual world and are each other's true soul mates.
So, you began to talk about everything, as long as you were unhappy in your heart, you were willing to share it with each other, but you forgot the sense of distance you should have.
In the eyes of outsiders, you are a more intimate existence than husband and wife, and such a relationship has long been no longer pure.
If you continue like this, you will end up with a home that you can't return to, and you will be spurned by others.
3.Share time
Everyone knows that people who are really focused on marriage have no extra time to spend with other people.
But for two people who have long lost patience with their original marriage, the attractive opposite sex outside of marriage is worth sharing all their time.
Perhaps, you are tired of the firewood, rice, oil and salt in marriage, and you are tired of the nagging of life every day when you open and close each other's mouths, and you just want to take a break to find a comfort.
As a result, you see each other as confidantes who talk about everything, but you want to stay with each other whenever you have a little free time.
For you now, the best time is when you spend time with each other, without having to face the pressures of life and without looking at your partner's helpless face.
It can even be said that work is the first place that occupies your time, and you are the second place that occupies each other's time.
At first, you may also feel sorry for the family you have disappointed. But as the pleasure of getting along with each other intensifies, you seem to have forgotten that you are married.
When you share each other's time unscrupulously, uninformed people will think that you are a young couple in love.
But this kind of relationship is not what you should have, and before you deal with your existing marriage, such an extraordinary relationship will only be a bad relationship.
Closing Remarks:
There is no right or wrong in love, but marriage needs to pay attention to responsibility, and the complicated relationship between men and women that should not be there is not suitable for people who are married.
If you do lose love for your existing marriage, say goodbye and give yourself a chance to start over.
After all, the person next to your pillow at the beginning is the same as the one next to you now, who has brought you infinite beauty and hope.
As a married person, you need to recognize where your feelings lie, and you need to be responsible for the person in the marriage.