Since ancient times, Chinese have attached great importance to blood kinship and regarded this relationship as one of the important links in social interactions.
During the Chinese New Year's holidays, many people visit relatives and friends, and visit relatives' homes to connect with each other.
In the past, there were many children in the family, and while the people were prosperous, it also allowed the younger generations to have many relatives and get together happily.
But having many relatives at home is not an absolute good thing, and while enjoying the warmth of family affection, it may also bring trouble to yourself.
As Pushkin said:"It's good for relatives to help each other, but a lot of times they just drag themselves into the water. ”
In life, if you encounter these 3 kinds of relatives, don't pay for them, the more you pay, the easier it is to raise enemies.
Selfish relatives
From the point of view of human nature, everyone has a selfish side, and it can never be **, it is the instinct of survival.
But if selfishness is not restrained, it will allow oneself to live as a ruthless and unrighteous person, and only superficial interests can be seen in the eyes.
The reason why many relatives get close to each other is nothing more than to get more benefits from each other and get more benefits.
Once they perceive that the other person has no value to use, they will immediately discard the other person as if they were a piece of waste and discard the other person mercilessly.
Even in order to get what they want, they do not hesitate to do things that hurt each other, completely ignoring the feelings they once had.
As Ai Qing said:"The combination of selfishness and greed will give birth to many poisonous snakes that harm others. ”
In the TV series "It's All Good", after Zhao Meilan married into the Su family, she has been helping her younger brother openly and secretly.
Although she also knew that the Su family was not wealthy, she often gave the money she saved to the other party because of the psychology of "helping her brother".
But her brother, who was extremely selfish, did not thank the Su family for his efforts, but instead demanded more from him.
After Zhao Meilan's death, he was used to being a parasite, and shamelessly asked a few nephews to continue to ask for money.
This type of typical egoist has been blinded by greed, and only thinks about his own gains and losses, and does not care about the feelings of others.
Socializing with such relatives will only lead to falling into the trap they have set, and the best way to do this is to keep your distance.
Relatives who tell the truth
When relatives come and go, it is inevitable that they will talk about their daily life, talk about their private affairs, and complain about their daily life.
These are originally an interaction of emotions, but some relatives are not pure in their hearts and like to use these hearsays as talking points.
or add oil and vinegar to the adaptation, and then spread it to others, or talk nonsense about the news of chasing the wind and shadows, causing discussion and heated discussions among the people around you.
It was originally a secret that others were reluctant to say, but it became an after-dinner joke to them, making them very embarrassed and embarrassed.
And most of these relatives are harmless to humans and animals on the surface, and they seem to be very trustworthy.
When you let go of your guard and reveal your intimate affairs to them, they will turn their heads and reveal their true colors.
In the post bar before, someone complained about his aunt, saying that the other party often leaked their own news:
From a very young age, her aunt loved to hear about her family, whether it was her studies or work, she knew everything about it.
Her mother was too simple and always explained everything to the other party, which caused her to always be the object of discussion among relatives.
Every Chinese New Year, she can hear her relatives talking about herself, which is the result of her aunt's telling right and wrong and spreading it everywhere.
As the saying goes:"He who is right and wrong must be right and wrong."
If you don't want to be troubled by the mortal world, keep your distance from such relatives, otherwise you will have no secrets to speak of.
Ungrateful relatives
Because of the blood relationship, we naturally have a sense of affection for our relatives, and when the other party encounters difficulties, we will not hesitate to offer help.
If the other party is a person who understands the general situation and understands gratitude, he will keep this kindness in his heart and find a suitable opportunity to repay this kindness.
But if the other party is a ruthless and ungrateful person, he will turn a blind eye to his past feelings and have no intention of repaying the favor.
Even worse, they will do some hurtful behaviors and fall into the well, showing their true nature with kindness and revenge.
Despicable villains are always ungrateful, and being ungrateful is originally a part of meanness.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei was friendly with two brothers, Mi Zhu and Mi Fang, when he was in Xuzhou, and their sisters also married Liu Bei as his wife.
Since then, the Mi brothers have been following Liu Bei, and Liu Bei has always regarded the two as ministers and gave them ** Houlu.
After Liu Bei seized Chengdu, he accepted Mi Fang as the Taishou of Nanjun and asked him to help Guan Yu guard the rear of Jingzhou, which can be described as trusting.
But when Dongwu launched a surprise attack and attacked Guan Yu's hinterland, Mi Fang surrendered to Dongwu without half a resistance, which directly caused Guan Yu to suffer the enemy on his back, and finally was defeated and killed.
It is precisely because of Mi Fang's ingratitude that Liu Bei's business that has been operating for many years was burned, and it has never recovered its prosperity since then.
Some relatives are born white-eyed wolves, and even if you give them a thousand favors, they will not really understand the importance of feelings.
If you believe them wrongly, you will only let your true feelings be disappointed, and one day you will be betrayed by them, and you will end up with bruises all over your body.
Oscar Wilde was right when he said it:"Not being sincere enough is dangerous, and being too sincere is absolutely fatal. ”
Sincerity is the most powerful in people-to-people exchanges, but it can't be left unsparing.
If you can't identify people correctly, you can only put yourself in a dangerous situation and let others control your actions.
Some relatives are not worthy of their sincerity, so decisively draw a line with them, this is not cruelty, but wisdom.
Some feelings should not be maintained, so cut off this relationship immediately, because sincerity is very valuable and cannot take care of everyone.
Only by being so dependent can you really be treated well by others, and only then can you have the spare strength to give the purest feelings to the people you should give.