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Growing up, my family has always instilled in me the idea that you have to be obedient, this is the way you can live a good life.
Or: you are a sister, you have to be a good example, and you have to let the little ......But I ignored what I was feeling. So when I was choosing a major in college, I was willful and didn't choose the medical direction that my family said.
After I graduated from college, I was headstrong again, not following the path they told me to follow, but doing what I loved.
After I was "headstrong", I found that I smiled a lot more than before, and my heart was a lot lighter.
I'm not advocating rebellion, but I'm trying to say: girl, don't be too obedient, be "willful".
If you don't know how to be "willful", you can look down:
I used to listen to my family, and they told me: I have to go home after school, I am not allowed to stay, I am not allowed to eat out; Skirts and shorts are not allowed in the summer; Suspenders are not allowed ......
Because of these inadmissibles, I became a good girl on our side, and other families often compared me to their own children.
always said: You see that girl (I) is as old as you, people are more obedient, and they don't let the family worry about it at all, and look at you again, it really breaks my heart.
Whenever I hear something like this, I roar in my heart: no, I don't want to do this, I also want to play with my classmates after school, I want to wear nice little dresses, I want to ......But I didn't dare.
When I went to college, I started buying myself small skirts, hanfu, and cheongsam, and I was really happy at that time. I'm happy that I don't have to listen too much to my family, but live for myself.
Wanterte's "This World is Nice, But You're Not Bad" has a saying:
The rhythm of life is different from person to person, some people make noodles for 3 minutes, some people cook soup for 3 hours, some people's takeout has been delivered, and some people have just cut the garlic moss and meat. The fastest dish at the barbecue stall is cucumbers, and some buns don't get the meat in the first bite. You choose the way you want to be firm, don't be cranky, everyone's flowering period is different, don't worry about someone having it before you.Most of the people around me are married and have children, and if they are not married and have children, they are also very good at school. Either a master's degree, a doctorate, or a car, a house and a deposit.
It's not like me, poor and white. Therefore, the family is also anxious and wants me to get married early, for fear that no one will want me when I am older.
But I have a very clear position for myself, and it is useless to urge me at home. After I communicated with my family, although the urging was not strong, it was also urging.
Sometimes I would be very irritable, and sometimes my girlfriends would persuade me not to get married at home, but to go with the flow.
Everyone has their own rhythm, each flower has its own flowering period, and some things are in a hurry.
So, you don't have to rush too much, find your own rhythm, everything is just right.
In the past, I had low self-esteem, inferiority to my looks, inferiority to my character, and inferiority to my singing. I always felt that I was ugly, that I didn't have a good personality, and that I didn't sing well.
But then, more and more people began to say: If you are confident, you are perfect.
I probably really listened to it, so I said to myself every day: I am so beautiful today, awesome! Slowly, I no longer care about my looks, personality, and singing, but slowly find myself in books, and I have the courage to do some things I dare not do.
Later, my sisters felt that I had changed, that I had become more confident, and that I had been judged differently than before.
Xi Murong once said:
I'm slim, carefree and fearless.As a girl, it doesn't matter if you're beautiful or not, it's important that you have self-confidence and believe in yourself.
Otherwise, no matter how high your ability is, you can't do one thing well without self-confidence, and no matter how beautiful you look, you will be slightly inferior without self-confidence. Self-confidence is your strong armor, don't easily let low self-esteem deprive you of your armor.
The world has a little bit of an opinion about girls.
For example, if you break up with a man, and you are not familiar with what happened, you will think that the woman dumped the man, even if in this relationship, the fault party is the man.
Even boys with tattoos are handsome, while girls with tattoos are "society", and they are not used to it. But I don't know that tattooing is just an art, an art of painting on **.
But because of gender, I got a different opinion. Therefore, there are all kinds of discipline for girls at home, which is not allowed, that is not allowed, and is aimed at raising you to be a good girl.
but ignore your inner thoughts.
Children who can cry have candy to eat, and children who don't cry can only watch others eat candy.
Today's "willfulness" is not to make you rebellious, but to ask your heart: what do you want, do you want to live your life according to the wishes of others? If not, then please live for yourself, but whatever doesn't kill you will eventually make you stronger.
We are all unique people, we are all human beings for the first time in this world, and we don't have to care too much about what others think of us, because no matter what you do, there will be people who don't like you.
All you have to do is do what Woolf said: you don't have to be rushed, you don't have to shine, you don't have to be someone else, you just have to be yourself. 100 Helping Programs
Finally, allow me to end with this paragraph:
Perhaps, you have never paid attention to your own differences, and you don't have the courage to admit your uniqueness, for fear that others will misunderstand, but when you lose your own mark, you are just a drop in the ocean, no one will remember you, live in this world, just ask for a clear conscience, do not have to portray your own appearance according to the appearance of others, you have your own life, your uniqueness is irreplaceable.Above, encouragement!
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