Every Chinese New Year, it is essential to go to relatives, especially some relatives you can't go to, but in the process of visiting relatives, you can always find some phenomena: some relatives always arrive late for dinner, some relatives always like to drink, some relatives like to Zhang Luo, all kinds of things.
In fact, relatives are also important and unimportant, which can be seen clearly at a glance on the table.
Those important ones, mainly manifested in the arrival and after leaving, the owner and the people around him are extremely enthusiastic, and the so-called Pengsheng is probably like this.
So does it really work to go to relatives? Answer: Most are useless, very few are useful.
So how to understand relatives correctly?
1.Be careful not to ask relatives who are stronger than you to help you. Relatives should belong to a special category of connections, and this type of connection is innate. But it can't escape the essence of networking: "exchange".
In the absence of an exchange, if you get help by blood ties, then your equal relationship will no longer exist. When you meet in the future, it is very likely that you will all have to give way to him, and what you can do is to be respectful to him, and if you are more respectful, you will naturally become inferior in your brain, and you will no longer be an equal person.
2.Help close relatives who you feel have potential to relate to.
If a family wants to be prosperous, it must have its own brothers and sisters in all walks of life to be one of them, if there is a relationship of interest in addition to blood relations, at this time others do something beyond the scope of their own responsibilities, and it becomes a matter of course, after all, he is my brother and sister.
In the final analysis, blood relationship is just a pass for you to get close to each other, not a reason for the other party to help you. Exchange is the essential basis of human beings. The premise of the exchange is that you have your own capital.
3.Pay more attention to yourself and improve your abilities.
If you want to be good among your relatives, then you need to be stronger than them in a certain aspect to be recognized by others, but it is useless for you to be stronger, only a lot stronger is useful, but when you are much stronger, you find that others are not worthy of exchanging with you at all.
The strange thing is that for those who are really much stronger, their resources are also abundant enough, but the need for exchange is becoming less and less.
Observe those who do not understand this truth, you will find that those who always cling to good relatives seem to be very dazzling at dinners, but real life always tells you that in fact, these people have not changed at all, and the more they ask for help, the more unequal they are.