There is such a sentence in Cao Xueqin's "Linjiang Ci":
With the strength of the good wind, it sent me to the clouds.
It is said that the helpless catkins in spring borrowed a gust of wind and flew into the blue clear sky.
And this conclusion applies not only between things, but also between people.
By leveraging correctly, prying is achieved.
Find the fulcrum, borrow the right strength, and easily pry everything you want.
The bigger the platform, the greater the achievement.
One chopstick is easy to break, and ten chopsticks are held in a ball. ”
It's a saying that almost everyone knows, a little bit is too insignificant, and a little bit of aggregation is hard to break.
There is such a plot in the movie "Thai Embarrassment" about the scallion pancake business:
The business model in Wang Bao's heart is:
800 scallion pancakes sold every day cost 1 yuan and sold at 25 yuan, earn 2 per month60 thousand. ”
But Xu Lang's approach to business is very different:
If you want to become bigger, you must join and use the power of more people. ”
Xu Lang suggested that Wang Bao join first to expand production and generate more profits, and then go public.
The profits after listing are far more than those earned by himself, but Wang Bao did not adopt Xu Lang's opinion.
Always guarding a small stall, how can you compare it with a listed brand?
No matter how hard a person works, there will not be a group of people who are strong.
People who don't know how to find a big platform will only make life twice as effective with half the effort.
And those who find a big platform have done more with less.
Mencius said: The time is not as good as the place.
The importance of a platform to a person is what Bole is to Maxima.
Maxima often has, but Bole does not often have. ”
Maxima, who met Bole, was able to display his abilities and talents, and let everyone know his ability to travel thousands of miles every day.
Maxima, who didn't meet Bole, could only be an ordinary horse in the stable.
Only by putting capable people in the right position can they give full play to their talents.
I think so. Just like a small temple can't put a big Buddha, everyone thinks it's a big Buddha.
But there is another possibility, the temple is small.
How much space there is for exertion determines how high the ceiling of a person is.
To strive for a bigger platform is to strive for a bigger future.
The value of all things is actually an exchange.
Lao Tzu has a wise saying:
He who takes what he wants, he will hold on to it.
In layman's terms, if you want something from him, give him something as a price first.
And that's the essence of networking:
Value exchange. During the holidays, we always think of those who are higher than us, not those who are lower than us.
We maintain relationships with them, spend time and money on them, and hope that they will help us when we need them one day.
The higher your social status, the more money you make, and the more people know you.
It seems that having his *** is enough to overcome some unsolvable dilemmas.
When you see the value in him, you also have to look at your own value.
Liu Yuxi told us a long time ago:
There is a lot of talk and laughter, and there is no white ding.
Whoever is qualified to stand with me must be on the same level as me.
Qian Zhongshu's father and Yang Jiang's father are both famous people in Wuxi and are famous scholars in Wuxi.
When Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang were in love, Qian's father praised Yang Jiang for reading a letter from Yang Jiang, and was very optimistic about their love.
Their love began to sprout on Tsinghua's campus, as their interest in literature grew stronger.
From love at first sight to gray hair on sideburns, it took 63 years.
The reason why the relationship is very strong is because they have achieved each other over the years.
Yang Jiang became famous earlier than Qian Zhongshu, but she was never proud of it.
In the years when Qian Zhongshu created "The Siege", Yang Jiang put down his career and helped him complete his career.
During his creative period, Yang Jiang would often give him some suggestions to help him write more smoothly.
Just imagine, if Yang Jiang doesn't understand literature and can't write, then I'm afraid that the relationship between Qin Se and Ming in this world will be missing.
This also confirms the saying:
The strongest relationship between the world is one of mutual fulfillment.
But the premise of each other's achievement is that we stand at the same height.
The things we talk about are different, the things we touch are different, and these differences slowly add up and become a chasm.
There is no way to communicate, there is no common topic, and naturally there is no way to exchange ideas and cognitions.
You're useless to me, so how can we maintain our relationship?
The word "disagreement between the three views" not only refers to the difference in cognition, but also refers to the difference in the degree of understanding.
How can two people who can't communicate normally and understand each other exchange ideas?
In fact, "the right match" is not only talking about the families of both sides, but also about education and identity.
Because wealth is often tied to them.
The difference is too big, and it is inevitable that you will feel that who loses and who earns.
At the same height, no one will look down on anyone, and they will be more willing to help each other.
This is true not just of feelings, but of any relationship.
People who are truly successful have "other people" behind them
It is not easy for a person to make achievements in a field.
When faced with an unfamiliar field, leveraging strength is the fastest way to overcome the difficulties in front of you.
Do what you can't do with all your might, and you may only use someone else's words.
Don't force yourself to do things you don't understand, or even don't know.
It is a kind of wisdom in life, not an easy admission of defeat.
A few years ago, Kingsoft had a habit of inviting some industry leaders to give internal lectures on Tuesdays.
Most instructors will prepare two hours of dry content.
The fledgling Lei Jun often sat in the last row to listen and take notes in a notebook.
After listening to the lecture, some lecturers will be invited by Lei Jun to come to the office for tea and chat.
During small talk, he often consulted the lecturer with respect and eagerness.
But the questions asked are all core and confidential to the instructor's industry.
Over time, the lecturer's years of accumulated experience were learned by Lei Jun.
At that time, Lei Jun knew that his skills were not as good as others.
He knew that only a low profile could make the lecturer more willing to "make small talk" with him.
And these "small talk" are exactly what he needs to "point".
When facing the big guy, maintain the humility you should have and lower your posture, so that you can take advantage of the correct posture.
Li Na went from an ordinary player to a tennis superstar, thanks to coach Carlos.
In 2014, Lee defeated the American in the Australian women's singles final, and this match also became a milestone in her fate.
Her success is inseparable from the guidance of coach Carlos.
Facing a strong opponent, Carlos led Li Na to conduct an in-depth tactical analysis before the game.
At the same time, he pointed out Li Na's shortcomings at this stage and suggested that she focus on defense and endurance.
Before the start of the competition, she continued to give Li Na psychological counseling to keep her calm.
In the end, Li Na defeated a strong opponent in this match and won the victory.
Her victory was for each other, not for her alone.
Behind a person's success, most of them have the help of military advisors.
Xunzi once said: Those who fake horses are not profitable, but thousands of miles;
Those who fake the boat are not able to water, but the rivers.
This sentence has been telling us for a long time:
Be good at using your own existing conditions and maximize the use of known conditions.
is the fastest way to get the correct solution.
Taking advantage of the situation is not a manifestation of the weak, but a shortcut for the smart.
Like a fish in water, you also need a good wind to reach the distance smoothly.
In this life, people will encounter many people and many things.
But what is enough to change a life may be a platform, an exchange, a person.
But it is these seemingly inconspicuous things that are precisely the secret to turning the situation around**.
It has been said that successful people are smart people.
But not all successful people are the first people, and not all of them are the first people.
It is precisely those who know how to borrow.
By borrowing strength, they successfully broke through the predicament and welcomed the rainbow.