In the cognition of Dongguan people, there seems to be no child who does not like to eat sugar. Especially during the New Year's holidays, who doesn't buy some candy to make their children happy? But we also know that eating more sugar is not good for children, so although we don't want to deprive children of the joy of childhood, we also have to control sugar for children - no matter how much you like, you can't eat more!
But what we mean by "sugar control" is not "sugar ban". If the control is too ruthless, maybe the child will "lose control" one day! My aunt's cousin is a prime example. She was not allowed to eat candy since she was a child, and she had almost no concept of sugar until kindergarten.
However, after entering the kindergarten, the teacher will occasionally use small candy as a reward for the children's good performance. Since tasting the sweet taste, the little cousin is like discovering a new world! Every time I go to the supermarket, I beg my mother to buy candy, and when I see other children eating candy, I can't even wait to grab it and eat it!
In this regard, the aunt's approach is: the cousin is more strict with sugar controlThe reason is "bad teeth".。But the more this is the case, the deeper my cousin's obsession becomes, and every time I encounter a sweet tooth, I can't help but eat it, and I won't stop until my aunt stops it.
This situation was maintained until the child went to college. I clearly remember that when my cousin came back from the winter vacation of her freshman year, everyone was confused: why did this girl seem to be a different person? She was originally slender, but she actually gained a lot of weight, and her face was dull, yellow, and pitted......What did she go through?
The aunt complained helplessly that this child doesn't know how to control when it comes to eating! It turned out that my cousin used to be strictly restricted from eating sweets, and after going to college and getting out of the control of her parents, she began to eat unscrupulously. All kinds of cakes, milk tea, chocolates, ice cream and candy snacks have almost never been broken, and in just a few months, I have lost twenty or thirty pounds!
After experiencing this, my aunt also realized that her past actions were inappropriate. Since childhood, children are not allowed to eat candy, too harsh restrictions, children are obedient on the surface, but a rebellious seed is planted in their hearts, as long as there is an opportunity, they will eat sugar with revenge!
Teacher Yin Jianli said: "Strangling children's small desires will lead to children's extreme desire for something and compensatory psychology." ”There is also a term in psychology called the "forbidden fruit effect", also known as the "Romeo and Juliet effect", which refers to the fact that when something or a certain information is forbidden or restricted, it will arouse greater interest and attention. This phenomenon,It usually stems from people's curiosity and rebellion. Psychology has shown thatSome of the shortcomings experienced by people in childhood will cause them to have a "compensatory mentality", so that in adulthood or when the opportunity is right, some "revenge" behaviors will be made to meet or make up for the shortcomings.
This mentality also applies to the fact that the child is charged with sugar. In fact, the child can't resist the sweetness of candy at all**, but because he is not allowed, he can only be forced to suppress his desires, but once he has the opportunity to get rid of the restrictions, heThe desire to eat candy will spurt out!
Moreover, the more severely this desire is restrained and suppressed, the more powerful the explosion becomes! Just like my aunt's daughter, once she eats freely, she eats sweets like crazy, and seems to want to make up for all the sugar she couldn't eat in the past!
This kindRetaliatory compensatory acts for a short period of timeIt's really scary!
Many times, we think that our children's love of candy is just a gluttony. In fact, there are many people who love sweets, let alone children. Actually,A child's love of sugar is an instinctive need.
First of all, sugar is the body's energy supply.
Sugar is the most economical and main energy source for the human body. Compared with fat and protein, sugar releases energy faster in the human body and supplies energy quickly, which is the main energy source of the nervous system and heart muscle, and the main "fuel" for muscle activity.
Secondly, sugar can cause a sense of stability and pleasure.
In nature, different tastes represent different meanings, such as sourness, which means that food may be spoiled; bitterness, which means that there may be toxins and risks; Sweetness, on the other hand, is a symbol of energy and safe edible.
Children are more sensitive to the taste of food than adults, for example, some vegetables have a faint bitter taste, and they will instinctively resist. But children's identification with sweetness is engraved in their genes.
When a child eats a sweet tooth, the body secretes dopamine, which makes him feel happy and satisfied. Even if a baby can't express itself, if he tastes the sweet taste of fruit, we can feel his happy emotions from his impatient eating.
It is instinctive for children to love candy, so they can't be overly restrictive, but that doesn't mean they can be let go. After all, consuming too much sugar is indeed not good for growth and development. Therefore, we need to take some measures to help children control sugar.
Control how much you buy
Every family will prepare some candy for the Chinese New Year, if you don't want your children to eat too much, you can buy less and buy better quality. If you don't finish eating candy at home, try to put it away to reduce your child's exposure to candy.
Set rules for your child
For example, limit your child to only one candy a day, or complete a task before eating candy. This will help your child learn self-control and understand that candy is not available anytime, anywhere.
Get vaccinated in advance
Usually through storytelling, reading picture books, watching animation, etc., children can understand the dangers of eating too much candy. For example, it can lead to tooth decay, obesity, affect eyesight, etc., and make children willing to control their sugar intake.
Hold your ground
Parents should take a firm stance so that their children understand the importance of rules and do not compromise because of crying. At the same time, avoid inconsistent attitudes between family members, such as parents are not allowed to eat more, but the elderly often secretly stuff sugar.
Look for alternatives
In fact, children like sweets, it does not have to be candy, but it can also be replaced by other healthy snacks, such as fruits, yogurt, etc. Although these foods also contain sugar, they are healthier than sweets.
If you don't want your child to eat more sugar, then be sure to let him know the reason and accept and agree with it from the bottom of your heart. Parents can give their children more self-control and develop a good habit of eating reasonably.
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