Original article No. 280.
About the next appointment time, ask me, how to arrange the Spring Festival annual leave?
I replied: I was there except for the afternoon of Chinese New Year's Eve and the morning of New Year's Day.
She said yes! There is no festival like the Spring Festival, which requires you to invest all your time and energy, show all your enthusiasm, and show all your savings in the past year to others.
Delicious food, keep it for the New Year, good clothes, keep it for the New Year. There is a sense of scarcity, but also the beauty of expectation, this is the most profound feeling about the New Year in childhood. For many years to come, after the Chinese New Year every year, I felt like I had an illness, and I traveled long distances, running from place to place, and being disorganized.
So for many years, there was a distinct negative correlation between the Chinese New Year and my feelings. A few months ago, when I thought about the Chinese New Year, I would have a somatization reaction, a headache, and I wanted to vomit.
Not in the past few years. Since my years of talking, all the symptoms have disappeared.
However, every year before the Chinese New Year, there are still some preparations, even if the supermarket is just a few minutes away, there will still be some special food purchased online in advance. Even if it's a New Year's gift.
Otherwise, I still feel that something is wrong.
The flavor of the year, the sense of ritual, penetrates into the depths of our spirit, in the bone marrow. Even if I am such an unparticular person, how can I still do this, let alone those who are exquisite?
In any case, the Spring Festival is still quietly changing. Cumbersome, as free as possible, don't like to make trouble, just clean yourself. In recent years, for me, although the complicated affairs are free, it has become more and more like the real Chinese New Year. Because, feeling the value and meaning of life from the heart is the most important thing, and you don't have to be with so many "last resorts".
In the past few years, I have spent all my years reading, not visiting relatives and friends, there is no "must", I just do what I want to do. However, I found that there seemed to be more and more people like me.
The dynamics in the circle of friends, I feel that it is getting quieter and quieter year by year, and everyone used to show all kinds of busy work before the year, busy work, busy goods, busy travel, all of which have something to do with the New Year. It's only a little more than a week before the Chinese New Year, and I don't seem to see who has posted any New Year's news.
There is another phenomenon, which started last year. In previous years, everyone sent a message of greeting for the New Year, but last year, the number dropped sharply. I'm too.,I feel like a pipe is open.,I think it's a kind of disturbance to send a New Year's message to others.,I sent it.,Others have to reply to us.,So simply,Just send a circle of friends to say some blessings.,When you see it, it's a New Year's greeting.。 As a result, I found that many people do. This year, there is a high probability that it will be.
Everyone is doing their own thing. In the past, the Chinese New Year featured a "disturbance", welcome to disturb. Now, the whole tends to be a return to the self. The "disconnection" of young people is.
If I go to your house and face all kinds of interrogations or marriage urgings, why can't I find it happy, I can't avoid it.
The Chinese New Year should not be so hard, if it is hard, it must be "willing" from the heart. In the Chinese New Year, the meaning of "reluctantly" will slowly fade away. Self-feeling will become dominant.
If the Chinese New Year is a "tired", physically tired, mentally tired, and disgusted when it is mentioned, then we no longer feel that this is a festival, and we no longer need this festival, then this festival will die out one day. What we need is joy, happiness. Those who love to visit relatives and friends visit relatives and friends, and those who love to chase dramas at home are chasing dramas at home, there is nothing right or wrong, and there is no need to kidnap others morally. Life is already stressful enough, and you have to be arranged for a holiday, which is not good.
Therefore, if your little nephew didn't go to your house to pay New Year's greetings, don't feel that he doesn't love you.
The Chinese New Year, just like psychological counseling, has a big framework, everyone is similar, that is, everyone is celebrating the festival these days, it is very important, wearing new clothes and hats, setting off fireworks and firecrackers, eating and drinking well, very lively. However, everyone has the final say on how to live the lively method and how to live it.
So, this year's Chinese New Year, I'm working, so, this year's Chinese New Year, some people choose to consult with a consultant.
He Xiangqun, founder of Ningbo Xiangqun Psychology Studio, full-time psychological counselor, and member of the expert database of the Science Popularization Committee of the Chinese Psychological Society.