In the long river of time, 2023 is undoubtedly a significant turning point in the trajectory of my life, and the main event nodes are: being laid off-> relocation offer->landing in the new environment, and now I am still groping forward in the process of adapting to the new environment.
Here, I would like to write down my 2023 Newbie Assistance Program Annual Summary, which is mainly in two aspects: 1A look back at the general context of the year from the perspective of the timeline 2Output a little personal reflection and experience of a thirty-year-old boy for more people's reference.
I'm ashamed to say that I feel that I am not industrious in many ways, and I am a naturally loose person.
After graduating, I joined two domestic Internet companies, and the work intensity of these two companies is not 996, but 1095 is enough. But because I was casual by nature, after a year in my second job, I still don't feel like I like the life of going home and sleeping after work. In addition, I have been talking with my girlfriend for a long time, and when I reach the age of talking about marriage, I feel that I still need to spend more time with my family. At the same time, at that time, several friends around me jumped from domestic Internet companies to foreign companies, so they also moved the idea of giving foreign companies a try. Finally, after a period of preparation and interviews, I joined a small foreign company.
I am really pleased that the new company does not work overtime. After working on the Internet for a few years, the first time I went to the office, when my colleague called me to get off work at six o'clock with his schoolbag, it was admittedly said that I was really in a trance at that moment. When I first joined the company, I really felt that the culture and rhythm of the new company made me adapt very much, and I changed jobs more frequently before, so I can say that this time I made up my mind to work for a few more years.
It's a pity that life is unsatisfactory, and there are ** out of ten. The company, which had planned to stay for a long time, suddenly notified the layoffs one day in the spring of 2023. Moreover, it is a large-scale overall layoff, with hundreds of people in the entire Beijing branch, except for a few dozen people in a small team, all the others need to leave. I wasn't part of the small team that was left behind, so I was also on the list of redundants.
The moment he was notified of the layoff, it can be said that the whole person was completely confused.
We often say one word: doubt life. I used to use this word in verbal jokes, but when I was notified of the layoffs, I really doubted my life for the first time. Here's why: I really don't know what's going to happen next.
When I left my last job, I made up my mind to embrace a relative WLB life, in other words, I really wanted to stay with the new company for a long time. In addition, I changed jobs too often before, which has affected my resume to a certain extent, and when I joined the new company, I basically planned to work in the new company for at least 5 years. It's a pity that the truth is very cruel, and I broke through my plan for the next 5 years in an instant. I had no choice but to start over.
Another point is that he is not too young, and he has reached the grade where he wants to start a family. If we have a stable job, my wife and I also need to start looking at the property market in Beijing and get on the bus at the right time. It's a pity that after experiencing a layoff, you will really always be wary of losing a stable income. When the news of the layoffs came, I couldn't help but think in my heart that one of the fortunate things in the misfortune is that we currently have no house or children, and I can lie down even if I am unemployed at home for a few months. I'm ashamed to say that I don't have the ability to buy a house in Beijing in full. So in the long years of mortgage repayment that can be seen with the naked eye, can I guarantee that I will not experience another layoff in the future? If I don't pay off my mortgage after I turn 35 and I go through layoffs again, will I be able to deal with it smoothly? This was the kind of torture I had to throw at myself at the time.
The company's layoff policy is quite conscientious, giving us the last day in the middle of the summer. That is, there is a buffer period of a few months between being notified of layoffs and leaving the company.
Because almost the entire Beijing R&D center was laid off, the news of the layoffs spread relatively quickly. At that time, many old classmates and former colleagues came to express their condolences on WeChat and enthusiastically helped introduce the work, which touched me very much. If any of your old classmates or friends have seen this post and guessed who I am, I would like to express my sincere thanks to all of you. The first month or two after being laid off was basically pure relaxation, and it was the first time I had such a big vacation after graduation. My wife became the only stable income pillar in the family in an instant, so it was naturally difficult to take a long leave to rest with me. So I picked a suitable time to go back to my hometown, and appeased my parents who had brushed the news of the company's layoffs from today's headlines (this is really hard to prevent, I originally planned to find an excuse to go home and tell my parents in person, but unfortunately the headline consultation push was too accurate, and my parents still knew about my layoff in advance... I also had the opportunity to visit the outskirts of the outskirts and buy a few pairs of my favorite shoes. I went to watch the Slam Dunk movie, and I was still moved. In addition, the swimming card I bought before is about to expire, so I will swim with all my strength and exercise.
These two months can be said to be resting while thinking about what to do next. The final plan for myself is: continue to invest in foreign companies, and do not give up domestic enterprises. After all, he is still relatively young, and if he earns two more years, he will decide whether to enter the system before the age of 35 depending on the economic situation. But you must go to the direction that you appreciate and are optimistic about, even if you are laid off again in the future, you can have a skill and not be easily eliminated.
The rest of the matter is very logical, brush the questions + submit the resume + make an appointment. After all, I just changed jobs a year ago, and I still have some experience in interviewing, so I won't go into detail about this process. If there are no accidents, I guess I will be in the lastday** new company. In general, there will be surprises in this context. To my surprise, the department boss was going to relocate from Beijing to the company's headquarters in Los Angeles, and he could bring some people with him. Therefore, I also gained a new opportunity for domestic private enterprises and foreign companies, and relocate to Los Angeles. Faced with this opportunity, my assessment is: rare, but of limited value. Rare: Due to the requirements for a work permit to go to the United States, it is difficult to find a job offer from a U.S. company directly from China. In addition, U.S. technology companies are still laying off employees, and combined with the epidemic restrictions, the transfer opportunities of domestic and foreign companies have basically been suspended after 19 years. Therefore, my current company can provide this opportunity, which can be said to be relatively rare. Limited value: My company is a small factory with a maximum of medium factories, and its salary is not comparable to that of the top large factories in Silicon Valley. And the L visa I can apply for is valid for a maximum of 5 years, and if I can't win the H1B, I can basically only pack my luggage and return to China. And, how to choose his wife's job, and whether the long-term long-term long-distance relationship still makes her give up her stable job in Beijing and fight with me for an unknown number. Most importantly, my wife and I have no overseas study experience, and my own English level is barely enough, and I am very skeptical about how well I can adapt to life abroad. In addition, the interview for finding a job has gradually come to fruition, at least not to be unemployed, so whether to leave the familiar life in Beijing and go to the other side of the ocean to start from 0 is really a little tangled.
If you read the beginning of this article, you already know the answer after I struggled. I still chose to accept the offer of relocation and go to Los Angeles.
Naturally, the considerations are complex, but the most important belief for my wife and me is that we really want to see what the outside world is like. I never thought that the moon outside was rounder than the inside, but I was really curious about whether the moon outside was square or round. As for if you don't feel comfortable at all after going out, then choose the time to return to China. I hope that the motherland will always open its door to me, and I also hope that the US side will exercise restraint and that there will really be no such thing as a flight circuit breaker.
And I have to admit that in the same Internet or computer industry, the current foreign WLB is indeed better than that of domestic companies. I really like being able to do something I love outside of work, and I'm okay with working overtime once in a while, but I don't like to leave work at 9 o'clock. During the interview process after being laid off, due to my limited ability, I really couldn't successfully apply for an opportunity to still work in Beijing and WLB, so if I still want to maintain the pace of work for a long time, the choice to go abroad will naturally add points.
Of course, the safest thing is to go step by step, I have been here for a few months to experience it, and I can only say that I can live my life, and I can basically gain a foothold here. Admittedly, there are a lot of things that don't fit in, but I haven't fallen into the situation of a live-action GTA5. These months have been complicated, but they are not the main purpose of this article, so I will not take up space here. In short, this year is coming to an end, and I hope that I will get better and better next year. Whether we are in my home country or on the West Coast, my biggest wish at the moment is to end the foreign country with my beloved wife.
It's hard for me to accept that PUA employees accept unfair fates such as salary cuts and layoffs, but this sentence itself is correct. It is still necessary to keep a peaceful heart. It is difficult to have a straight road in life, most of them are forks in the road, and you must be prepared to turn at any time.
There is no need to regret the decision after making it, there is no chance to start over, and even if there is, there may be a butterfly effect that exceeds expectations.
If one day I find that I can't get along abroad, I also hope that I can return to the embrace of the motherland with my chest up, instead of feeling ashamed to go abroad and come back. After all, I know whether I am warm or cold.
It may be easier to spend the time on action than to gain and lose.
Even if it's just for the occasional trip.