In the journey of life, we all yearn for friendship and love to be like a thin stream of water, willing to win the heart of one person, and the white head is inseparable. However, the world is unpredictable, and the complexity and variety of interpersonal relationships can often be unexpected.
Countless beautiful memories of the past finally passed away in the torrent of time and became unattainable memories.
The reason for this is often due to improper proportions in interpersonal communication. For a relationship to last, we need to learn not to cross the line, not to please and not to care.
We need to understand that everyone is an individual with their own trajectory in life. We should not cross the line and make decisions for others.
Everyone has the right to take responsibility for their own lives, and our interference can be against the will of others, or even resentful. For example, a relative broke down her friendship by interfering too much in a friend's decision to buy a house, and she was disgusted by meddling in a younger child's marriage.
This relative's intentions were good, but his good intentions did bad things, precisely because he did not grasp the good measure.
Second, we should avoid currying favor. In interpersonal interactions, even if we attach great importance to a relationship, we should not sacrifice our dignity to please the other person.
Because such a relationship is built on grievances and humility, it is difficult to last. A friend once did not hesitate to change himself in order to pursue a man, but in the end he found that such efforts could not be exchanged for sincere treatment. She finally understands that her true self is the key to attracting others.
Not caring is an important principle in maintaining relationships. In relationships, we often worry about small things, and such behavior will only make the relationship more and more strained.
Learn not to care, in order to make the relationship more harmonious. In order to have a long-lasting relationship, we need to maintain proper proportions in our interpersonal interactions, respect the choices of others, and keep ourselves to ourselves, regardless of small things.
In this way, we can have true harmony and love, so that the relationship is like fine wine, the older it is, the more fragrant it becomes.
In the delicate arena of interpersonal communication, overthinking is often a self-inflicted tragedy.
If we put every gossip into it, every moment of our lives can become a trigger for anger.
Imagine that at work, an unintentional word from a colleague or a harsh criticism from a leader can make our mood fall to rock bottom in an instant, and we will be shrouded in negative emotions throughout the day.
And when night falls, we return home with this unhappiness, and we may unthinkingly pour out our anger on those closest to us. Are we really willing to continue to spend such days?
When dealing with interpersonal relationships, it is enough to follow the principle of grasping the general direction and relaxing the small details. As long as we stick to our basic moral boundaries and rules of interaction, most of life's hiccups will not lead to catastrophic.
I have a relative, and he's a man who likes to be careful. In daily life, he also has to over-interpret the casual words of others, so everyone respects him and stays away from him.
He sulked alone, doubting his intentions, but in reality, these misunderstandings and conflicts could have been avoided.
This is the result of being too careful. If a person is always entangled in inconsequential things, his image in the eyes of others will become annoying in the long run, and the quality of his relationships will deteriorate day by day.
At the same time, such people will also exhaust their own lives, because they have to expend energy and mood to deal with these trivial things.
However, in reality, many things are not worth pursuing and as long as they do not affect the overall situation, we should learn to explain. After all, life is short, and we should devote our limited energy to more meaningful things.