Writer Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Delivery": "The so-called father-daughter-mother-son game just means that your fate with him is this life and this life, constantly watching his back drift away. ”
Many people think that raising their children and seeing them go to distant places to earn a living will complete their parents' missionAll that's left is to grow old and wait for your children to give you back.
This is not necessarily the case.
As a parent, not only must you "get on the horse and give it a ride", but you must also be able to call your children back at any time before it is over. If this is not the case, after seeing the children leave, there will be no more to do with it, and people will not be filial when they are old.
Why do some children, after leaving their original families, lose their filial piety, and when it comes to their parents, they are still nostalgic?
Everything has a cause and effect, and it is the responsibility of two generations for children to be unfilial, and parents need to be far-sighted when their children are still young.
The old man is not virtuous, and the children are hopeless.
What is a family's greatest fear?
It's not poverty, it's not wandering, it's "lack of morality".
A family without morality, anywhere, is untenable. The most terrible thing is that the consequences left by the previous generation are borne by the next generation.
Children are "harmed" by their parents, then filial piety is destroyed, and it is no longer a natural thing.
During the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty, there was a callZhao Wenhuaof people, who entered the court as officials, also recognizedYan Songfor the father-in-law.
Yan Song was a powerful minister, doing whatever he wanted, framing a large number of loyal people such as Xia Yan and Shen Lian, and was spurned by people.
As a righteous son, Zhao Wenhua also did the same, in order to win the trust of Emperor Jiajing, he lied that Yan Song was over 70 years old and drank "Baihua Fairy Wine", so he has always been healthy.
After Emperor Jiajing found out that Zhao Wenhua was lying, Zhao Wenhua did not admit his mistake, but bribed Yan Song's wife to let Yan Song intercede and exempt him from the crime of bullying the king.
Zhao Wenhua also falsely accused Zhang Jinggang of resisting Japanese aggression and military salaries.
There is *** Zhao Wenhua, and he came up with evidence to prove itGreedy for more than 100,000 taels**
Emperor Jiajing waved his hand, making Zhao Wenhua lose his position. At the same time, Zhao Wenhua's embezzlement has been spent.
Jiajing was furious and issued an edict to ask Zhao Wenhua's children and grandchildren to repay the money one after another.
The matter of "repayment of father's debts and sons" has made Zhao Wenhua's children and grandchildren live a life of debt for 60 consecutive years.
Monetary debts, personal debts, and lack of moral debts can all be accumulated in a family and continue to the next generation.There is such a passage in "Caigen Tan": "No matter parents and brothers, that is, all things are one, people can see through and recognize the truth, so that they can bear the burden of the world and get rid of the shackles of the world." ”
Parents, children, brothers and sisters are all bloodline, and only by seeing the changes of the generations and taking on the important mission of running the family can parents get rid of the shackles of life and spirituality.
"Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes", from a realistic point of view, the old man is not virtuous, and there are at least three evil consequences.
One,The family style is corrupted, so that the children are exposed to some negative energy every day, so that they cannot learn useful things.
Second,The image of the family is ruined, and the children cannot hold their heads up in front of outsiders.
For example, if a child goes to school and suddenly hears a classmate say, "Your father, stealing and robbing, are you the same?" "This child will definitely be depressed, hate his parents from now on, and be looked down upon and isolated by his classmates.
Thirdly,The family is in debt, and there is no way for the children to make a fortune.
In too many families, parents have blown out the light of hope for their children. If parents expect their children, they are doomed to disappointment.
The children are incompetent, and the elderly are helpless.
"Filial piety" is not as simple as writing two words, but to fulfill filial piety, so that life is smooth, there are additional conditions in all aspects.
A cousin of mine, after graduating from junior high school, went to Dongguan to work.
While working, my cousin met a man from Shaoguan and quietly got married.
I thought that the area around Shaoguan was also an economically developed place, but my cousin-in-law's home, in the mountains, could only be described as a family with four walls.
In order to change his fate, my cousin invested in opening a breakfast shop, but the business was very average, and after three or four years of operation, he lost some money.
Last winter, my cousin's father was diagnosed with cancer, and the children rushed to take care of him and find a way to raise money.
When my cousin returned to her hometown, she didn't give a penny to her father, and she cried and told her younger brother"The money is borrowed. ”
When my father was discharged from the hospital, my cousin took 500 yuan from my parents' family as travel expenses.
Can you say that my cousin has no filial piety? But she is indeed more than capable of doing so, and it seems impossible to fulfill her filial piety.
Why many old people are clearly full of children and grandchildren, but when they can't walk, they live a life of survival, most of them are because their children are "powerless".If the children are financially incompetent and have been poor, then the parents will be old and can only live a hard life. Even if you are sick, you can only drag it.
If children are emotionally incompetent, it is difficult for them to start a family, so they have always lived alone and have no roots. People who wander everywhere want to be filial to their parents, nothing more than to come to their hometown during the New Year's holidays, or occasionally make a **. Perhaps, not coming home for many years is like disappearing.
Children are incompetent in running the house, and they must obey their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law everywhere, and if the daughter-in-law and son-in-law are not filial, then the children will not be reliable.
Children are socially incompetent, and once something happens, they can't open up the situation everywhere. When parents are in trouble, children cannot help. If the children offend their neighbors, their parents will be ostracized when they go out.
Filial piety requires material, emotional, family, etc. as stepping stones, if not, it is a "big empty word".
As the saying goes: "To untie the bell, you must tie the bell." ”
If you want your children to be filial, you have to start from the "parents", and the root of this is in the "parents".
It is recommended that parents seek to provide for the elderly when they are middle-aged.
Leave a deposit and hold a pension to reduce the burden of pension for children financially; Encourage children to study more and have the ability to work and start their own businesses; Create good values for the family and accumulate virtue and blessings; Set rules for running a house, let children take responsibility early, and learn to be human beings.
Father is kind and filial to son, mother loves daughter and respectful, cause and effect are true.