Impulsiveness is the devil, delusion is sin.
Many times, we can take some advice to heart and be catchy, but on impulse, we forget it.
After the incident, I began to regret it again.
There are many medicines in the world, but there is no regret medicine, and regret under impulse is destined to be a looming injury.
On the other side of the matter, our lives are happy enough, but such and such bad things tear our lives apart, and we don't know the blessings in the blessings.
Sooner or later, you will understand that when your emotions are out of control, you can consume blessings the most.
Emotions are out of control, and the family suffers.
During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a minister Liu Yan in Shu who followed Liu Bei for many years, and there was no merit and hard work.
After Liu Bei passed away, Liu Yan became a general of chariots and horses, and his life was proud.
For a while, Liu Yan's wife Hu went to the palace to pay New Year's greetings to the Queen Mother.
When the Queen Mother saw the Hu family, she liked it, so she stayed in the palace for more than a month, cooking and eating every day.
When Hu returned home, Liu Yan was furious—he believed that Emperor Liu Chan was a womanizer who might have put his wife to bed in the name of the Empress Dowager.
Hu Shi couldn't argue, and Liu Yan immediately became violent.
What's even more terrifying is that Liu Yan called more than 500 soldiers and slapped Hu Shi's face with the soles of his shoes.
Soon, Zhuge Liang and Liu Chan learned about this and made a decision to let Liu Yan show his head to the public, warning all residents to respect women.
Romance of the Three Kingdoms"Invite trouble, and take the blame yourself." ”
The host Wu Danru once said such a point of view: "Don't rush to judge life because of momentary emotions." If you hurt others or destroy yourself because you fall to the bottom of your emotions for a while, you will regret it tomorrow. ”Under the emotion, if you look at a person, you will find that all the people are unbearable and hideous.
When dealing with distant people, you are beyond the reach of the whip, and when dealing with outsiders, you are also afraid of three points.
In the end, the person you hurt is your family, because your family is closest to you, within the scope of your "fists and bad words".
Even if you fight with outsiders and get hurt, you will bring your emotions home and cause the family atmosphere to deteriorate; You're really injured and hospitalized, and the people who take care of you, and the family, the people who feel sorry for you, still.
When the family is shattered, the blessings of people will naturally be gone; In life, there is no home, everywhere is wandering.
Emotions are out of control, and they are guilty.
The principle of action and reaction tells us that when we yell at others, we have a hard time doing it ourselves.
When you hit something with your fist, your hands are going to hurt.
From any point of view, emotional out-of-control is people's internal friction, and it is the beginning of making outsiders "guard against you everywhere and embarrass you".
Many people will "return a tooth for a tooth", and what you have done, others will double it back to you.
Mang GurtaiIt's Qing TaizuNurhachison, who was supposed to inherit the throne.
His mother, Fucha, did not abide by women's morals and had an ambiguous relationship with Da Belle Daishan, and after his father knew about it, he divorced his wife.
The reason for divorce is also very mild - hiding belongings.
Mang Gurtai was anxious to be the crown prince, so he tried his best to show himself, and impulsively, murdered his mother, and went to his father to ask for merit and reward.
Father thinksMang GurtaiIt was the behavior of the beast, very disappointed, and completely discouraged the plan to let him inherit the throne.
Without the hope of being the emperor, Mang Gurtai's emotions reached the extreme, and he was ready to rebel, and in front of the emperor, he drew a big knife.
In the end, the Qing Dynasty pursued the title of Mang Gurtai for the crime of great rebellion, and his descendants were deposed from the clan qualifications.
Emotional out-of-control is the biggest enemy in life, and there are at least four harms: making things chaotic at the moment;Loss of the ability to think calmly;The opponent saw the flaw and quickly suppressed it;Harm your own body.As long as it is done under the premise of losing control of emotions, whether you lose or win, you will lose in the end. For a while, an embarrassing thing happened in the women's toilet of the Harbin subway station, and everyone was very concerned.
A girl named Xiaoxin noticed a boy walking in and casually said, "You are a boy, you can't go to the women's bathroom." ”
When the boy's mother heard this, she immediately began to scold angrilyWhen the boy's father heard the news, he hurried and scolded him again.
In the end, both parents of the boy were taken to the police station to be punished.
Hurtful things are essentially "self-harm", and there are no exceptions.
Besides, every time you are angry, eat delicacies from the mountains and seas, and sleep in a mansion, you are not happy, and you become more and more unlucky.
Managing emotions is the best self-discipline for adults.
The book Emotional Intelligence points out that through emotional control, managers can become excellent leaders.
Emotions are something that lingers, but they are not so scary, the key is to recognize them, and limit them to a controllable range.
As an ordinary person,First of allIt is a deep understanding of emotions - there is no good or bad emotion, and it is divided into positive emotions and negative emotions. Its roots lie in the human beings themselves, and the good and the bad are the results of their own creation.
Then,Always observe and remind yourself why you should have emotions, what they are for, and what consequences they will bring.
And again,Properly express your emotions and do not refrain from savagery. For example, talk to your parents, communicate with your lover, find an empty space where no one is, and roar. Integrate yourself into the social family and adapt to the environment.
Finally,Recognize the emotions of others, do not do confrontational stupidity, and refuse habitual rebuttals. As a result, interpersonal relationships can be improved, and listening and acceptance can be learned.
Different age groups have different worries and will contact different people. In any situation, you can think about the good and give up your narrow thinking.
Lin Yutang said: "Enjoying a leisurely life is certainly much cheaper than enjoying a luxurious life. To enjoy a leisurely life, it is only an artist's temperament, in a completely leisurely mood, to spend a leisurely afternoon. ”In this life, there are only so many decades, and there is more time for emotions and less time for happiness.
If you get angry all day, you'll waste a day, and you'll delay tomorrow's work and mess up yesterday's results. It's not cost-effective.
In fact, the mood is like the frost in winter, it is very cold, but the sun melts when it comes out.
If you control your emotions in time, after the cold frost, you can enjoy the sunshine, why not?