No matter what, no matter when, no matter where, we always inevitably have to meet villains in our work or life, so what should we do?
Zhuge Liang has already made it clear: pro-virtuous ministers, far villains, this ancestor is so prosperous. It means that getting closer to upright and talented virtuous ministers and staying away from villains is the reason why the ancestors prospered.
To put it bluntly, whether we are in work or life, we should be closer to mentors and friends, and stay away from villains who harm others, only in this way will our work and life get better and better.
So, what kind of person is a mentor and what kind of person is a villain?
Who is a good teacher? The sage said that there must be my teacher in the threesome. It means that among the three people in my group, someone must be my teacher.
Everyone has their own strengths, and likewise everyone has their own weaknesses.
For a person who is positive and loves to ask questions, he often learns from the strengths of others and uses them to make up for his own shortcomings.
Even if you only learn a word from others, you will regard them as your own teacher, which is what we often call a teacher of one word.
A good teacher must be a person with noble character, correct three views, decent and excellent style, open-mindedness, integrity, sincerity and kindness.
Although he is not a well-educated person, but because he is outstanding in a certain aspect, knows how to be lenient and strict with himself, has a cheerful and easy-going personality, is willing to help others, and his words and deeds are enough to be a teacher, we can all call him a mentor and a helpful friend.
Because, getting close to and getting to know such people can benefit us a lot, and we can truly learn from each other's strengths.
The opposite of mentoring and helping friends is bad friends, that is, what we usually call villains.
This kind of person is first of all an extreme selfish person, and secondly, he is also a narrow-minded, calculating, and incapable of looking down on the good of others. Once he sees that others are better than him, he will feel uncomfortable up and down, and he will dig out his mind, calculate everything, and do whatever it takes to damage others.
At the same time, this kind of person is also a two-faced person, one in front and one behind the back. People talk in front of people, and they talk nonsense behind them. This kind of person is especially good at stumbling and stabbing others.
Whoever befriends such a person will be the unlucky person. Because in the beginning, we are usually deceived by his disguise, and he is just as sanctimonious and well-dressed, and presents himself as a good talker and close person.
However, with the precipitation of time, his character and true face will naturally be exposed in his speech and demeanor, so that people can see clearly his femme fatale heart and vicious deeds.
Therefore, when we make friends, we must keep an eye on it, do not be deceived by other people's sweet words and vows, and learn to listen to their words and watch their deeds, to see whether their words and deeds are consistent, and whether they are honest and trustworthy.
In addition, it is also necessary to understand his personality, see what kind of person he is, whether he has the same personality as himself, and whether he has the same hobbies. As the saying goes, the Tao is not the same.
In short, to make friends, you should keep your eyes open, relatives and friends, far away friends, this work and life is prosperous.
Follow me and don't get lost on the road of love.