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I'm a very worried person. I don't feel at ease with other people's work, and I don't look down on it. I want to do everything, I want to manage everything, and it's thankless. As a result, I got an anxiety disorder, and my mood was good and bad, and my mood was very unstable. I can't find someone to talk to, and I'm uncomfortable.There are many people around us who are overly worried, they strive for perfection in everything, they do it themselves, they don't trust others, they have a strong desire to control, they always feel that they have given the most, they have suffered the most grievances, and they like to count others.
People who love to worry are tired of their hearts and bodies.
Their biggest concern is to give so much and not be understood.
It is undeniable that people who love to worry have a stronger sense of responsibility and give more.
We're not saying it's bad, but we're saying we need to pay attention to a degree.
Many times you think that you are doing too much and worrying too much, but in the eyes of others, it is just self-moving, in the wrong way, frequently crossing the line, it is easy to cause harm to others without knowing it, this is the trans "for your good".
People who worry about others are often the most "empty" people in their hearts.
Love to worry, on the surface it seems to be hardworking, for the sake of others, is kind, but in fact there is a lack of inner security, and wants to grasp something stable to make yourself feel at ease.
They are accustomed to thinking about things with "negative thinking", and their hearts are full of a lot of "worries".
I think that if I don't worry about it and don't control it, things will definitely go in a "bad" direction.
At the same time, I don't trust others to do things well.
Even if others can do a good job, they will feel that it has nothing to do with themselves, and they have not reflected their own value in this matter, so they are not worthy of enjoying the results with peace of mind.
Constantly worrying about it can indeed gain recognition, praise and dependence from others, and these external evaluations can temporarily fill the lack of inner self and let yourself feel some sense of self-worth.
Worrying too much is an illusion of being in control of others, but it is actually an escape from one's own anxiety.
People who worry too much often have a strong desire to control others by intervening in their affairs, so as to soothe their inner anxiety about uncertainty.
This is because it takes a lot of courage to face your own problems, and by focusing on others, you can project this anxiety and avoid experiencing it for a while.
For example, many parents are very anxious about their children's grades, and it is often easy to "cross the line" to nag, criticize, blame, and persecute their children, and the result is often "three defeats", the children's grades are still not improved, parents are angry with "internal injuries", and the parent-child relationship is also destroyed due to learning.
Parents let go of excessive interference with their children, "roll" their children, and in turn "roll" themselves, "roll" themselves on how to be supportive and encouraging parents, "roll" on their inner psychological growth, how they can improve their self-worth, and how they can improve their happiness ......
If parents are constantly worried about their children and are overly worried, it is equivalent to sending a signal to their children: I don't believe you are capable!
Over time, children will have a projective identification with their parents, and children will really become "incapable" children in the mouths of their parents.
Worrying about other people's affairs is often the root of right and wrong; The tranquility of the mind is the dissipation of unnature.
In this long life, we will go through countless things, we will meet countless people, and if you put too much time and energy into other people's things, you will only end up losing yourself in your own life.
If you are worried, you will work; If you have nothing to worry about, your body will be safe.
To be truly strong is not to control everything, but to learn to let go.
Starting today, let's let go of these five things and laugh at life with ease
From now on, leave the worries of the past behind. We can't change the past, but we can choose to create better memories in the present. Make every moment vibrant and part of a better future.
Don't be anxious about an unknown tomorrow. Every plan and goal is built from the efforts of the present, and it is done in a down-to-earth manner, one step at a time.
Accept the facts that we can't change and let them go away. There are always advances and retreats in life, and letting go does not mean giving up, but creating more opportunities for yourself to embrace new possibilities.
Life is a big stage, and everyone has their own roles and responsibilities. The division of labor and cooperation is the tacit understanding of the society, believing that they can complete their tasks well, and also believe that others can also be competent. Working together for a better tomorrow.
Let go of excessive attention to the rights and wrongs of others and let the mind be at peace. Learn to stay calm, focus on yourself, and be kind to yourself. Remember, worrying too much will only make life harder.
Worrying about others is an expression of love, but keep a balance, don't neglect yourself, and remember to find the meaning of your own life.
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About the Author:Psychological counselor, focusing on "emotional counseling, self-growth, interpersonal relationships".
Provide online one-on-one psychological counseling.
14 years of foreign trade |English translation.
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