Relatives, is it a bond of affection or a source of pressure? Young people have something to say!
When "relatives greeting" becomes a psychological burden, are you still willing to go to relatives?
As children, we longed for the Chinese New Year because it meant red envelopes, new clothes, and the pampering of countless relatives. But nowadays, for many young people, visiting relatives during the Spring Festival has become a "sweet burden".
Xiaofang is a post-00s generation, and she usually doesn't communicate much with her relatives. As soon as the Spring Festival arrived, she had to face all kinds of "torture" from the "three aunts and six wives": How is the work? Got an object? When are you going to buy a house? Every time these questions were asked, Xiao Fang felt extremely embarrassed, as if her life had been put under a microscope.
Counsellor's Insights:
In fact, Xiaofang's experience is a portrayal of many young people. Visiting relatives is a burden in large part because it triggers "psychological sensitivities" for young people: anxiety about self-worth, a sense of privacy, and pressure on family expectations.
Unlock new poses and walk relatives with ease:
1.Take the initiative: Don't wait for relatives to ask you, take the initiative to share your current situation and take the initiative in your words.
2.Set topic boundaries: When you encounter a question you don't want to answer, you can subtly change the topic, such as talking about a recent hit TV series, travel experience, etc.
3.Listen with your heart: When your relatives share their stories, listen with your heart, which is not only a sign of respect for them, but also allows you to gain some life wisdom from them.
4.Dealing with stress head-on: Perceive your relative's expectations and demands as concern and encouragement for yourself, not stress. Face it with a positive mindset, and you'll find that it's not that scary.
Visiting relatives is an important way for us to communicate emotionally with our loved ones. Although there are sometimes some minor unpleasantness, remember that those are all because we care about each other. So, you might as well let go of the baggage in your heart and enjoy this warm family time with love and patience!