The Internet has developed to the point where it is today, and even adults are lonely without the Internet, let alone children. Today's children's brushes are short**than**slippery, dazzling to see, motionless and called a few times without response, until the parents walked to the front of the conscious put away the mobile phone, and in the adolescent children, parents are walking in front of them is also sitting firmly on Mount Tai.
Parents are angry and anxious, worried about their children's physical and mental health, but what about children? Don't be in a hurry, immerse yourself in the online world and have no quarrel with the world.
The Ministry of Safeguarding the Rights and Interests of Adolescents of the Communist Youth League and the China Internet Network Information Center jointly released the "Fifth National Survey Report on the Internet Use of Minors", and the scale of underage Internet users in China has exceeded 1 in 20229.3 billion, and the Internet penetration rate for minors is 972%。
In 2020, a 12-year-old boy in Shaoxing, Zhejiang Province, was addicted to the online game "Glory of Kings" and couldn't extricate himself, and he held the game and played non-stop every day. His father couldn't help but scold, who knew that the child's psychological defense line was too weak, so he jumped directly from the fourth floor and was disabled for life. During the acceptance of **, the boy had to play with his mobile phone as soon as he woke up, and his "Internet addiction" was severe.
1. What is the impact of Internet addiction on children?
They are obsessed with the Internet, lack of interpersonal communication, talk endlessly in front of the computer screen, keyboard warriors, and lack of language expression skills in life, more serious social fear, inner tension in meeting and talking, and like to be alone.
2. What is Internet addiction?
Internet addiction is mainly manifested in two aspects: mental dependence and physical dependence, mental dependence refers to Internet depression, trying to achieve Internet behavior, physical dependence is mainly manifested in once the Internet is stopped, with symptoms such as nervousness and anxiety, restlessness, etc., once the Internet symptoms are resumed, various ways need to be taken to terminate Internet addiction at this time, so as not to aggravate the individual impact.
3. What do children with Internet addiction really need in their hearts?
Many parents can't understand that children who are addicted to the Internet, they are obsessed, addicted to negativity, and have no dreams, they are just wasters. Parents can never understand what children who are addicted to playing games and indulging in the Internet are looking for in the online world.
They are very focused in the online world, not even eating or drinking, sitting there with their fingers tapping on the keyboard rapidly, reacting so quickly, when it comes to studying, they are bored, they are not focused on small movements, they sit like pins and needles for less than five minutes, and all kinds of evasive behaviors frequently appear.
Think about whether you have labeled your child when he is studying, "tired of studying, not focused, and with poor grades", and your various nagging makes the child rebel.
In the virtual online world, they can find themselves, clarify their goals, and truly be themselves. Through the various levels of the game, break through the levels, prove yourself invincible, and experience the sense of self-satisfaction and achievement.
In real life, parents can't give recognition, and in reality, parents can never understand that the child's heart is really in the game, the kind of satisfaction and recognition that they experience, and the sense of self-appreciation, such as the ** who loves to play games.
Think about it in real life, your child has been approved by his parents, is it for sure?
Think about learning and growing up, have your children ever received the trust and appreciation of their parents?
Even if your child can play games, they will not be immersed in the online world, because everyone likes to be appreciated and trusted by others, and this love is fluid, and this love is also missing in parents, soWe can't give our children, the love that our parents don't have.
According to the Statistical Report on the Development of China's Internet Network, as of December 2017, the scale of China's Internet users reached 77.2 billion, of which the student group is the largest, accounting for 254%。Adolescents aged 12-16 are at high risk of Internet addiction. Although there is a lack of data from large epidemiological surveys, previous studies have shown that the prevalence of gaming addiction is about 07%—27.5%。
4. What should parents do if their children play mobile phones and play games and are addicted to the Internet?
1) Embrace children in the Internet age
It is really not easy for children to survive in this era, and they have to resist **, they will be eliminated if they don't understand the Internet in this era, and it is not advisable for parents to disconnect the Internet, especially for children who are very addicted to the Internet, parents help their children quit Internet addiction, simply cut off the Internet, this method is the most unwise move, destroying the parent-child relationship between you and your child, and once the parent-child relationship is broken, no matter how you educate your child, you will bother to work thanklessly.
Psychologist Adler said: "Focus on what you can change and accept what you can't." "
Parents who read this article ask that you remember this sentence. Why accept what you can't change? Children's Internet addiction to playing games and not liking to study are not facts that every parent can't accept?
The more you can't accept such a childThings that don't accept will come back in your life over and over again, increase your worries and make you fall into anxiety and pain. Parents need to learn to acceptWhen you accept such a child,All the problems are just beginning to changeParents should stop hurting their children in extreme ways.
What can be changed is that you have to believe that no one can live in the virtual world for a long time and live a lifetime.
What can change is the parents' unconditional belief that your child can change. Parents have some wrong guidance, you may have tried it on your child, you once said to your child, if you don't play games, I can buy you something you like, the child is happy for two and a half days, and the thing is also obtained, and then you start playing games after not playing for two days, has this kind of thing happened to your child? You may say to your child, "If you don't play, I'll ......."Nothing changes in this cycleOnly when parents improve themselves and awaken their love for their children will they wake up from the virtual world of the Internet.
2) How do parents awaken inner love?
Accepting children is love, unconditional trust in children is love, and constantly affirming and appreciating children is love.
Many parents say that they love their children, but in real life, our love hurts their children, and even the love of our parents makes them unable to breathe, but we can't see it.
Some parents will say, I also tried to accept the unconditional trust in the child, but after a few days, I was beaten back to the original shape, why is this?
Because we are easy to induce the influence of the external environment, as soon as we see that the child is not as good as our own wishes, we will return to the original point, criticize and deny the child, and preach, and it is still useless after speaking.
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3) The transmission of love in the real world
When you can't change the reality, please accept the reality, change the child, accept the child first, change yourself, and empower yourself.
When you empower yourself with the power of love, understand what love is, and love yourself, you will become love and let love flow and pass on.
Parents can never give what they don't have, and when parents also lack love, they are powerless to pass on love, and naturally they can't feel love and be loved.
Children are not nourished by love when they grow up, just like a small sapling that has not been moistened by rain, it will dry up and die, and if there is too much rain, the little sapling will also be flooded, how much water is nourishing? Depends on the little sapling, the amount of love, depends on the needs of the child.
Parents awaken the power to love their children, and you will naturally pass on love to your children, and it is appropriate for children to feel the nourishment of love.
4) Experience the flow of love and grow together
Children who love to play games and children who are addicted to the Internet do not experience the love of their parents in real life, and find a sense of self-identity and self-achievement in the virtual online world.
The power of parental acceptance and trust increases, and the child's sense of identity in real life is found.
Parents affirm and appreciate that their children's strength has improved, and their children's sense of accomplishment is satisfied in real life.
There will be a flow of love between you, grow together in love, and the parent-child relationship is getting better and better, no matter how heavy your child's Internet addiction is, you have used various methods to no avail, it is better to improve the power of your love first.
The power of love is inherent in everyone, but it is not activated in our growth, we ourselves are people who lack love, maybe we have experienced the pain, we hide this love.
Listening to meditation for ten minutes a day will guide you to awaken your inner love, heal yourself with love, heal the parent-child relationship, start with yourself, let the love begin to pass, and you will have unexpected surprises.
Experience the flow of love and you will reinvent yourself when everything changes when everything changesI believe that the moment your child receives love, he will enjoy communicating with you very much, and he will be better than you think.
There is nothing wrong with the network itself, and if the network is used reasonably, the network will become a catalyst for our learning and growth.
There is nothing wrong with the children themselves, the children are here to achieve their parents, and the parents are also here to achieve their children.
Parents are the root of the child, and if the problem is solved from the root, the problem will no longer be a problem.
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