Trust is the most basic foundation in a relationship. However, when you realize that your boyfriend has betrayed your trust, your stability and peace of mind can take a huge hit. This article will tell you how to deal with your emotions in this situation, regain your confidence, and decide on your next course of action.
First of all, bad behavior can cause strong emotional reactions such as anger, sadness, and disappointment. These feelings are normal and your true reaction to the relationship. However, since emotional fluctuations often affect judgment and decision-making, it is necessary to go through a cooling-off period and introspection to gradually eliminate the influence of emotions.
There are three important questions that need to be answered along the way:
How do you feel about him: Do you still love him? This question will help you understand if you are willing to try to repair the relationship.
Is there a plausible explanation for his sneaky behavior? This question will help you decide whether you should continue to trust Him or not.
Can it bring you a happy future? This question will help you think about whether your relationship is worth continuing.
In the process of answering these questions, the following psychological construction needs to be carried out:
Accept reality: You must accept his betrayal. It's painful, but it's the first step out of it.
Build confidence: Whether you choose to repair or end the relationship, you need to believe that you are capable of taking on this challenge.
Set goals: You need to be clear about your expectations and goals for the relationship so that you can make an informed decision.
Once you're done with introspection and thought building, you can start thinking about your next move. This includes:
Communicate with him: You need to communicate with him openly and honestly and understand his thoughts and attitudes. This can be a painful but necessary step.
Make a decision: Depending on what the conversation is about and how you're feeling inside, you'll need to decide whether to repair or end the relationship.
Seek support: Family, friends, and professional advisors are all available to provide support and assistance when you need it.
In the end, you need to understand that it's not your fault that you meet the jerk. You have the right to choose your own life and the right to pursue true happiness. Any decision you make should be based on your values and best interest. In the process, remember to be kind to yourself because you are worth it.