Can you believe it? Children's illness is not all due to external influences, there are many internal factors, and this is mainly related to the mentality of parents.
Some people say that it is not easy to be a parent now, to learn this and that, to be this and that, to be patient, to be gentle, to grow, if the child has a problem, it will be pushed to the parents, and it is too difficult for the parents.
Parents who think like this, they think it's easy to be parents, but in fact, how can it be so easy to be a parent of someone else?
It's not that you will be a parent if you can have children, it's not that you automatically become a good parent when you get married, it's just that you still need to grow physically, psychologically, and good parents are parents who are always learning and improving.
Kotaro Isaka said that the thought of being a parent without taking exams makes me feel terrible.
Those who don't grow up, don't learn, and become parents on their own instincts, don't know how much harm they bring to their children.
Talk about the child's illness.
We have to admit that sometimes, a child's illness has a lot to do with emotions. Isn't the increasing incidence of cancer a kind of emotional illness? People who love anger, people who love more seriously, people who can't think about it, and people who don't love themselves will have a higher probability of getting cancer.
When my eldest was 5 years old, one day I didn't go to kindergarten, I hit him, at that time, I was not mature enough, and I didn't learn deeply, although I knew that the child must have a reason, but I didn't have a deep understanding, and followed my temper and started on the child.
The next day, the child was sick for a whole week, and he was in a very bad state. After that, I changed him to a kindergarten and he went very happily.
A few years later, when I talked to my child about it, he cried profusely, and I solemnly apologized to him, saying sorry to him, and his mother was wrong. In the following days, he asked me to talk about it many times, and when he finished speaking, he cried and asked me to apologize, and I did it one by one. After a few times, he never mentioned it again. I know that he forgave me and let it go.
Since then, I haven't hit the kid again.
Luo Dalun said that if you don't repair your heart, the child will definitely get sick.
In this anxious age, mind cultivation is a luxury for many people. They feel that it doesn't matter, they don't care, they desperately roll up the children, look around us, how many children have psychological problems! It's really distressing.
When the child is sick, we just hope that he is healthy, but when the child is well, we immediately urge him to do his homework.
Many parents turn their faces faster than books, never ask for themselves, only ask for their children, never believe in their children, only believe in themselves.
Whether it is a child's physical illness or psychological illness, it is related to the way parents treat him, and I hope that parents can calm down to be aware and reflect, see where they are not good enough, and then learn and grow.
Parenting is the homework that parents have to do all their lives to do before raising themselves and repairing their hearts.