The marriage system during the Three Kingdoms period was monogamous and polygamous, which meant that men could legally have multiple female partners. Therefore, if whether or not there is a concubine as the criterion for measuring "scumbags" or "wife lovers", then there was no real "wife lover" during the Three Kingdoms period.
But in fact, the criterion of a true "wife lover" should be whether he respects and loves his wife, rather than whether he has multiple female partners. From this point of view, even if Liu Bei and Cao Cao are not "scumbags", they must not be regarded as "wife lovers".
For example, Cao Cao lamented that he and his wife Ding were "divorced" before he died, and he would be speechless when he saw Cao Ang under Jiuquan. Therefore, we should evaluate whether a well-known person truly "loves his wife" from the perspective of respecting and loving his wife.
The reason why Cao Cao and his wife Ding divorced was because of Cao Cao's wife-loving characteristics, which led to Mrs. Ding's adopted son Cao Ang being forced to rebel against Zhang Xiu because of Cao Cao's popularity, and Cao Ang died in the chaos.
Mrs. Ding has always been dissatisfied with Cao Cao's popular behavior, and as a result, her adopted son died because of Cao Cao's amorous behavior, so she divorced Cao Cao. If Cao Cao really respected Mrs. Ding, then Mrs. Ding would definitely not divorce Cao Cao because of Cao Ang's death.
Liu Bei is a pure scumbag in marriage, he has died several wives, and his favorite woman, Mrs. Gan, is the concubine he married during the Yuzhou period, which may not be because they died of illness.
The Book of Shu Mi Zhu records Liu Bei's experience of losing his wife in the war. According to historical records, Mrs. Gan was Liu Bei's concubine, not his wife. After Lü Bu captured Xiapi and captured Liu Bei's wife, Liu Bei fell into a predicament.
At this time, Mi Zhu married his sister to Liu Bei as the main house, and provided 2,000 slaves, gold and silver currency and other assistance. Although Liu Bei was unable to protect his wife and children at a critical moment, his behavior was still very scummy compared to those who protected his wife at a critical moment during the Three Kingdoms period.
Liu Bei abandoned his wife and children at a critical moment, can he be called a "good husband"? In the Three Kingdoms era, who is the real good husband? I have a different view on this.
As far as I know, Lu Bu can be called a "good husband" during the Three Kingdoms period. Everyone may question Lu Bu's fornication with Diao Chan and his abuse of subordinates, but this does not affect his respect and love for his wife.
In fact, there is no record in the official history that Lü Bu had multiple wives, and the names of his wives are unknown. Therefore, I think Lu Bu knows how to respect and love his wife better than Cao Cao and Liu Bei.
Lu Bu's wife is not Diao Chan, but Lu Bu's love for his wife is not inferior to that of other heroes in the Three Kingdoms. In the face of Hao Meng's rebellion, Lu Bu's first thought was to protect his wife, which was in stark contrast to Liu Bei's wife who had been captured repeatedly.
Lü Bu's wife believed that Lü Bu should stick to the city and not send troops rashly, lest Lü Bu would no longer be able to stand on his own after the city was broken. After listening to his wife's opinion, Lu Bu fell into a tangle.
However, this does not mean that Lu Bu disrespects his wife. On the contrary, Lü Bu's wife was once treated like a child by Cao Cao, but Lü Bu abandoned her, which made him feel deeply guilty.
Lu Bu's wife also understands that Lu Bu's respect and love for her make her occupy an important position in Lu Bu's heart. In the era of the Three Kingdoms, men generally believed that their wives should be managed behind closed doors, and Lu Bu's respect and love for his wives was undoubtedly a clear stream.
Therefore, although Lu Bu has some flaws in his private life, he is indeed a good husband worthy of respect.