Going home for the Chinese New Year is the expectation of many professionals who have been busy for a year, but when they return to their hometown, there is often a trouble, that is, how to deal with the "New Year-style interrogation".
Relatives and friends who don't usually come and go, don't want to dig their hearts into them, and can't stand the crowd, so what should I do?
From the perspective of career planning, we will teach you 7 sets of conversation skills, which can not only not explode privacy, not hurt self-esteem, but also be kind and reserved
1. Ask about the profession, so it is mysterious.
A lot of decent professions in big cities are not understood or even misunderstood in small places.
If you are worried that your career is "not on the stage" in your hometown, you can put it in a different way, for example, if you are a customer service, you can say "resource information management consultant", if you are a public relations manager, you can say "crisis handling expert".
If you continue to interrogate the content of the work, you can throw out more professional terms, similar to Internet slang, such as "review demand feedback, coordinate resource allocation", "align concept cognition, balance information symmetry".
These descriptions are plausible, and they are forgotten after listening, and the other party is foggy and knows that they are not interesting, so they will not ask again.
Second, ask about salary, vague answer.
If you talk too much, you will be jealous, or you will borrow money, and if you talk less, you will be despised and gossiped behind your back.
You can give a salary range and divide it into several parts, including bonuses, commissions, allowances, options, and so on. And the numbers are dynamic, not absolute, it depends on the situation:
The salary structure is adjusted according to the business situation, and the salary of different parts will be paid separately depending on the situation. ”
A pie is cut into several portions, with no fixed value or absolute value, turning the real income into a riddle and giving a colorful imagination.
Third, the year-end bonus, after the year.
Some people will be particularly concerned about the year-end bonus, even more than the monthly salary, if you don't want to disclose the year-end bonus, or afraid of being borrowed, you can use "drag until the year after".
You can say that the company is afraid that employees will "not come back" after the New Year, so the year-end bonus will be paid after the New Year, or a part of it will be paid before the year.
When I asked about the specific figures, I said that it would be calculated according to performance, and I needed to count on it, and I didn't know until I went back after the year, but I didn't know it yet.
There is a year-end bonus, but it will be issued again after the year, I don't know how much, in short, I don't let the boots land.
Fourth, in case of comparison, retreat is advancing.
When we meet people who love to compare, if we just show off to ourselves and don't ridicule and suppress others, then it's okay, we just listen to the play.
But if the other party likes to use the "comparison method", likes to step on others to praise themselves, and there are signs of stepping on you, it is necessary to control the scene.
You can take the initiative to ask him more questions, keep handing the microphone to the other party, ask more side details, "diverge" the topic from you, and let him focus on "showing off himself".
There is also a "cooling method", the person who loves to compare needs "audience interaction" the most, you don't have to refute him, let alone praise him, just reply "oh", "then", "why".
If you talk about the back, the scene is not lively, no one pays attention to him, and he knows that he is boring, so he won't talk about it.
Fifth, trust the relationship, and throw the blame on the leader.
Special professions, such as civil servants, doctors, teachers, lawyers, etc., will encounter "trusting relationships, introducing jobs, and settling troubles".
If you don't want to "help" them, then "dump" the leader, not that you don't help, but that the leader doesn't let you.
For example, I don't have real power, and the company's relationship network and resources are all pinched by the leader, and we are not allowed to contact it, and I am very stingy.
Or there are too many relationships, they are all relationships in the department and bureau, and I, as a subordinate, can't be ranked.
Or be resolute, say that you have a bad relationship with the leader, or have done something similar, let the leader criticize it, and clearly tell me not to do it, or the recent investigation is strict, and the leader does not dare to do it.
6. If you have difficulties, take the initiative to ask for help.
If there are "masters" in your hometown, it seems that you "have resources and relationships", if you do encounter difficulties, you might as well affirm the other party first, and then take the initiative to ask for help.
If the other party is fake and boastful, he will say something about the scene, "Oh, my brother is busy, I'll ask after the year", and the topic will be confused;
If the other party really has the resources, and can help you, and is willing to help you, maybe you can really get the resource opportunity.
Especially if you want to return to your hometown for development, you must grasp your family connections and background.
Small towns and towns are often acquaintance societies, and personal connections and family relationships are quite effective in the [commercial value] of individuals;
From the perspective of [career opportunities], the help provided by the special background of the family is far greater than that of the big city.
Seventh, the road to the coming year, ask yourself.
Relatives ask questions, just play on the spot, and no one will care about it in a few days, but you have to ask yourself about your future career plan.
Whether the career positioning is accurate, you can use the "silent recitation method" to completely meditate on your career.
What is the complete professional title, that is, occupation = functional industry, such as "I am a sales manager of a real estate enterprise", "I am an account director in the financial consulting industry".
If you meditate on your profession five times and feel lost, confused, or even disgusted, your position may not be suitable.
SunningCareer believes that as long as you have a suitable, accurate, and long-term career positioning, you can surpass 80% of people.
The inquiries during the New Year are only hypocritical and temporary, and if you develop well in your own career, it will be real and long-lasting.
In the courses of Sunningdale Career CCP Career Planner and CCDM Senior Career Planner, many students have problems such as low sense of professional identity, bottleneck burnout, and difficulty in promotion.
Through the course study, they understood the concept and method of career planning, re-found the direction, rekindled their fighting spirit, and made new breakthroughs in their careers.