There is a cloud in the "Book of Songs": "Those who speak are not guilty, and those who hear are full of precepts." However, in real life, our words are like a double-edged sword, which can hurt others as well as ourselves.
In order to avoid unnecessary trouble for yourself and others due to careless speech. What to say and what not to say, be clear in your heart.
Especially these three things, I'd rather rot them in my stomach than talk to others, so as not to get angry!
The first point: talking nonsense behind the scenes, talking about people's rights and wrongs.
Talking about people's rights and wrongs behind his back is a taboo in life. When we are in small talk, we always like to gossip about others, and it is easy to get ourselves into trouble as a result.
Saying bad things about people behind his back will sooner or later reach his ears, and when he outputs a meal, you will face extreme embarrassment.
As the saying goes, "no investigation, no voice", don't comment when you don't know the truth.
You must know that "good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June", casual words may become the last straw that crushes the camel.
Moreover, "those who say right and wrong are right and wrong", and those who like to talk about others behind their backs will often be talked about by others.
Therefore, we should learn to "sit quietly and think about our own faults, and not talk about others", and avoid talking about others behind our backs, so that we can keep our mouths shut and not cause trouble.
The second point: people like to show off in front of people, too high-profile.
People like to show off in front of people, and if they are too high-profile, they are also a source of trouble. The ancients said: "The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; Heaps out of the shore, and the flow will be turbulent; Walk above men, and the crowd will not. ”
In life, if you have a certain amount of achievements and wealth, you can't help but show off in front of others, but in addition to being disgusted, others will also be jealous of you, thinking that you are deliberately showing off, and you will only make yourself a target for others, and it will not benefit you.
Those who like to show off themselves are like shooting stars in the night sky, and after an instant of brilliance, they disappear without a trace.
And the real wise man understands the truth of "being a low-key person and doing things in a high-profile manner". They are like a deep ocean, calm on the surface, but with endless power.
As the Analects says: "A gentleman wants to be quick to do and not to speak." "We should always be humble and careful in what we say and do, so that we can achieve success in the future.
The third point: ridicule and ridicule others.
Mocking and ridiculing others is a detrimental act to oneself. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and no one is perfect.
When you laugh at others and joke about their shortcomings, you not only hurt their self-esteem, but also attract the hostility of others, and at the same time, you also expose your own narrow-mindedness and ignorance, and lose the respect of others.
A truly cultured person knows how to respect the differences of others and treat others with tolerance and understanding.
Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you", this is a kind of morality, and it is also the realm we pursue. “
Give people roses, hands have fragrance", only by giving respect and love to others, can we harvest true friendship and respect.
Words are like poetry, or passionate, or graceful; The words are picturesque, or gorgeous, or elegant. Use poetic words to depict a better life; With a humble attitude, face all things in the world.
Keep your mouth and don't cause trouble, and don't make mistakes with your heart! These three things would rather rot in the stomach than tell people.
Respect the feelings of others, keep a low profile and silence, and communicate with others with kindness, and you will become a person with wisdom, connotation, and cultivation.
In this complicated world, keep a calm heart, like a breeze coming, the water is not rippling. And so, very well.