The greatest self-discipline of adults is to keep their mouths shut and not give advice easily. There are two kinds of people in the world, one is good at doing good things, and the other is good at doing bad things. The latter often prides himself on being warm-hearted, disregarding the wishes of others, preferring to teach others, and giving advice at will as a person who has come before. However, they ignore a basic truth: to be human, you must first learn to keep your mouth shut. Therefore, some people sarcastically like to point at others, but do not like to be pointed at.
Taking the ancient wise man as an example, Zhuge Liang, as an outstanding strategist, his wisdom is reflected in restraint and judging the situation. Although his deeds such as the empty city plan and the borrowing of arrows from straw boats are widely known, these are only stories, not historical facts. However, the incident of the three visits to the thatched cottage is real. In order to seek Zhuge Liang's help, Liu Bei personally went up the mountain to visit, and although he failed to meet Zhuge Liang on the first two occasions, he did not give up. This sincerity and determination finally moved Zhuge Liang and made him decide to go out to help.
In the workplace, after a person enters the company, it is like entering a besieged city, and it is easy to fall into a situation of internal and external contradictions. When Liu Bei sought Zhuge Liang's help, he also faced dissatisfaction from Guan Yu and Zhang Fei within the company. However, he firmly supported Zhuge Liang and showed respect and trust for the wise man. This is because Liu Bei knows that Zhuge Liang's value lies not only in his interpersonal relationships and abilities, but also in his wisdom and strategy.
Similarly, Zhang Liang was also a wise man, and before he obtained the Taigong Art of War, he also experienced many temptations from Huangshi Gong. These wise men understand that advice is essentially an investment behavior, and you must choose the right people to be successful. If the other party is unreliable, no matter how much effort is put in, it will be in vain.
Therefore, we need to be cautious and respectful when seeking help or giving advice from others. We can't be like those who do bad things with good intentions, giving advice regardless of the feelings of others. Instead, we should learn to keep our mouths shut and choose when and how we do it. At the same time, we should also respect the wishes and choices of others and refrain from forcibly interfering in their affairs. In this way, we can truly handle interpersonal relationships wisely and achieve the common growth of individuals and teams.