When a man and a woman who truly love each other can't stay together for some reason, and one of them has to make a sacrifice, who will be the sacrifice?
The Spring Festival drama "South to North" depicts the story between the old and new generations of railway police in the 70s of the last century. And on the train from south to north, it presents the audience with scenes of the world.
Lu Xuelin and Bai Yuxia are an unmarried couple who have been in love for several years, Bai Yuxia works in Haihe, Lu Xuelin works in Hacheng, and his parents live in Ningyang.
The two would love to get married early, but because they work in two cities, they will inevitably live in two places after getting married. Therefore, the matter of marriage has not been put on the agenda for a long time.
In order to relieve the pain of lovesickness, the two made an appointment, and every month the two set off from their respective places of work to visit Lu Xuelin's parents in Ningyang, and then returned together.
For the monthly gathering, they were very much looking forward to it at first, and cherished this rare time very much. Every time they separate, the two are inseparable.
But after a long time, it becomes an ordeal. Finally, Bai Yuxia couldn't stand it anymore.
Lu Xuelin said: Bai Yuxia said:
Lu Xuelin was very dissatisfied:
Hearing this, Bai Yuxia's eyes were full of disbelief, she didn't expect Lu Xuelin to say such a thing.
Lu Xuelin didn't want to dwell on this matter anymore, so he comforted her and said:
"Then stay up for another two years, maybe there will be a way in two years. ”
Bai Yuxia's tears fell unconsciously, sliding down her cheeks.
She said"I can't stand it anymore, I'm this age, and it's too late if I don't get married and have children. ”
Lu Xuelin was a little anxious when he heard this, he thought that Bai Yuxia was trying to blackmail him.
"If you talk to me about getting married and having children, you're forcing me. ”
Bai Yuxia was very chilled and said coldly
Whatever you want, whoever is away can live. ”
The two of them did not speculate and broke up unhappily.
The two of them were a big problem, and if they wanted to live together, they had to have one of them make sacrifices.
In reality, most of the sacrifices are women, but apparently Bai Yuxia is unwilling.
It can be seen from the TV series that both of them are the backbone of the unit and have very good jobs, no matter who changes jobs, it is impossible to find a suitable position.
Therefore, neither of them is willing to sacrifice themselves. What should I do in this case?
From Bai Yuxia's words, we can understand that when the two went on a blind date, Lu Xuelin was very satisfied with her and promised to transfer his work unit to Haihe.
But in fact, this is just Lu Xuelin's expedient measure, he took a fancy to Bai Yuxia, but he never thought of giving up the work in front of him. He thought that as the two got along for a long time, the relationship was deep, and Bai Yuxia couldn't get through it, so she would naturally compromise first.
At that time, people's thoughts and concepts were relatively old-fashioned, and Bai Yuxia's meeting with Lu Xuelin once a month was already an extremely bold act at that time.
At that time, young men and women generally got married early, and if a woman was not married at a certain age, it would become a topic of conversation after tea and dinner, and the pressure she had to bear can be imagined.
Therefore, Bai Yuxia really can't afford to stay up, if it is like Lu Xuelin said, if it stays up for another two years, it is okay to say that there is a result, if the two people can't come together in the end, then it is Bai Yuxia who will be pitted.
At that time, she was getting older, and the range of options she could choose was getting narrower and narrower, and in the end, she could only find an unsatisfactory man to marry.
Lu Xuelin also knows this very well, how can he do anything, his method is to "delay". just dragged on, two years later, Bai Yuxia became an "old girl", if she didn't marry him, who else could she marry!
His sentence "stay up for two more years" is the most irresponsible sentence, which hides his deepest calculation of Bai Yuxia.
The same is true in real life, if a person makes sacrifices and concessions for another person, that person does not necessarily be happy.
Taking Bai Yuxia as an example, if she finally agrees to change jobs, it will be difficult for her to find a job that suits her, whether it is in terms of salary or major, it is impossible to satisfy her.
Since then, she can only be a woman behind the man, paying silently. At first, a man may remember what a woman has done for him, but as a man's status rises, what a woman has done will be thrown out of the sky by him.
As for the woman, she was forced to make that decision from the beginning. Obviously, she also had the opportunity to achieve her career, but she had to choose to give up and become an accessory to a man, and her loss can be imagined.
If a woman revolves around a man, everything about a man is everything about herself. In the end, she can only live a nest and be rejected by others.
Especially, when one day, the man completely exposes his true face, and the woman is even more chilled, thinking that the effort she has made is not worth it.
In the same way, if it is a man who gives up his career, the result will be the same.
So, most of this situation will not be happy.
In the case of Lu Xuelin and Bai Yuxia, Lu Xuelin obviously would not make sacrifices for Bai Yuxia.
Therefore, it depends on Bai Yuxia's choice between career and emotion.
The wisest thing to do is to cut through the mess quickly, end this marathon relationship, and return to a normal life, with her conditions, it is easy to find a suitable husband.
Zhang Ailing said: "If the other half of your life is wrong, every step for the rest of your life will be wrong, you will taste the pain of the world, choose a dilemma, and choose who to marry is really different." ”
In many cases, cutting through the mess is the best way to solve the problem. As the saying goes, long pain is better than short pain, and getting rid of a relationship that can't see the result is a good thing for both people.