Interpersonal relationships are incomparable: how to subtly return red envelopes.
Netizens frantically discussed the mystery of the number of red envelopes.
Sister Qing's child received 1,000 yuan from a relative, who has four children at home, so she was very embarrassed whether to send any gifts back. As soon as the post came out, the comment area suddenly exploded, setting off a craze of "counting competition". Some netizens suggested that it should be divided equally, 250 yuan per person, but it was opposed because the amount was too small. At the same time, some people proposed to take the small as the unit and the small to the big, so that the big one can get 400 yuan, the second child can get 300 yuan, the third child gets 200 yuan, and the fourth child gets 100 yuan. Some people also suggest sending 200 yuan to the red envelope and 200 yuan to buy gifts, which seems to be very cost-effective and polite. Others feel that 300 to 500 per person is considered etiquette and does not bring too much burden to the family. Others feel that the problem is complex, even more complex than a math problem. In addition, some people suggested that you should tell your friends in advance to give a big red envelope of 10 yuan, with different meanings, in order to match the festive atmosphere of the Spring Festival, but it will not increase the pressure on the other party. However, some netizens with better family conditions said that they don't have to be so troublesome, and they can share 1,000 yuan per person. Some people even joked that they didn't have enough children, so they would have asked for a few more if they knew about it, and they would have been cheated when they received red envelopes in the future. In addition, some well-meaning netizens provided some opinions, such as "200 yuan red envelope is too little, at least 600 yuan." ”
New worries about red envelopes: "red envelopes" have gradually become a burden.
In recent years, the number of "red envelopes" has increased, which has also become a major problem for young people. Many teenagers sighed: Why is there more money in red envelopes every time? The less you send, the worse it doesn't seem good, but if you send too much, you will feel distressed. Some netizens bluntly said: This year, the red envelopes are worth a month's salary. Some netizens said that their family wants to give red envelopes to seven children, and the husband has five children, 600 yuan per person, and the red envelopes for relatives and friends alone cost 7,200 yuan, which is too expensive. "A red envelope of 200 yuan doesn't seem to be very generous, at least 600 yuan, sometimes thousands of yuan, with my age, I really can't afford it. ”
Back to the roots: the etiquette and emotion of red envelopes.
Red envelopes are a very old custom, which is a gift from parents to their children in the New Year, which contains the care and expectation of the elderly for their children, and also has a meaning of wishes. However, the red envelope has changed from a festive moment to a means of comparison, and this original intention has been distorted, and many people feel great pressure. Especially in recent years, due to the fierce comparison between children, the number of red envelopes received by children has reached an unbearable level. If you want to return the red envelope to its original appearance and not compare it with others, it is also the common wish of many families. "Red envelope difficulty" is a thorny problem involving politeness and love, and it is a problem that every family has to think about.
Personal Summary. In response to the question of "whether to send or not", netizens have a variety of opinions, ranging from "equal sharing" to "reduction", ranging from 200 yuan to 1,000 yuan, each with its own characteristics. But no matter what, the most important thing is to put the care and care contained in the gifts, and don't let money become a burden for both parties. The increase in red envelopes is also a big problem at present, and we should pay more attention to the ethical code of gift-giving, so that the red envelope can return to its original meaning. I hope that everyone can show mutual respect and friendship when receiving red envelopes, so as to create a more harmonious social environment.