The interaction between people is like a special kind of transaction, and the object of the transaction is emotions and interests. Everyone is looking for relationships that will pay for themselves. This includes not only internal rewards, such as the exchange of ideas and energy, but also external rewards, such as material, utilitarian exchanges. Interpersonal relationships are actually a process of supporting and empowering each other.
Someone once discussed a topic on the Internet: how many human truths are unavoidable? One of the netizens' highest praise replied: Interests are the bond of interpersonal relationships, and once lost, relationships are often easy to fall apart. When we are younger, we may be grateful for our friends, but when it comes to a real conflict of interest, things can change drastically.
It's like what a young man once had in a law firm. When he was a novice, his boss gave him many opportunities, and when he began to make a name for himself, his boss began to ostracize him, target him, and even put the blame on him after reporting him for grinding foreign workers. This example is not unique, because the essence of human nature is the pursuit of profit. As a wise man said: "The world is bustling, and everything is profitable; The world is crowded, all for profit. ”
However, there are also those who are able to go beyond this simple exchange of interests and build deeper relationships. For example, the cooperation between Xu Zheng and Huang Bo. Not only do they have close relationships in life, but they also support each other in their careers. When Xu Zheng transformed into a director, Huang Bo's support and trust in him enabled him to successfully transform and gain a firm foothold in the directing industry. Similarly, when Huang Bo tried directing for the first time, Xu Zheng did not hesitate to support him, and even starred in his works with zero pay.
Our relationships with others do not begin with the same interests or three views, but eventually return to personal values. When a person has real value, he has friends. Conversely, when a person's value approaches to nothing, he may soon lose the figure of an old friend. That's why we go through such changes in our lives: when we are unknown, there may be very few people around us; And when we become strong and good, we can truly reap long-lasting relationships.
The health and stability of interpersonal relationships depend not only on emotional communication, but also on the exchange of emotional values. When we can't provide emotional value to the other person, relationships can fall apart. On the contrary, it is possible to go a longer distance together when both parties are able to provide emotional support and support each other.
Psychologist Huang Qituan once mentioned "black hole people", such people only transmit negative energy to each other, such people are unwelcome. In relationships, "luminaires" tend to be more popular. Relationships that empower each other and grow together can last longer.
This is the essence of relationships. It is like a barter transaction, but it is not an accident or coincidence, but the result of both parties according to their own needs and desires. Only the relationship of value exchange, benefit sharing, and joys and sorrows can become mellow and long under the test of time. This is the world we live in, a world of transactions and exchanges.