Retirement is an important turning point in life, symbolizing the transition from a busy job to a leisurely old age. For many people, retirement means having more free time and space to enjoy life. At this time, it is indeed a great joy in life to get together with old friends and share the details of each other's lives.
At the party, old friends gathered together and talked about each other's recent situation. They talked about family, work, health, and other topics, and shared each other's joys, sorrows, and sorrows.
However, there are two things that should not be easily mentioned to friends after retirement, as they may cause unnecessary distress and even affect the friendship between them.
Every family has a difficult scripture to read, and problems such as children's education, work, and marriage often break the hearts of parents. After retirement, we have more time and energy to pay attention to the problems within the family, and we may also be dissatisfied and complain because of the gap between our expectations of our children and reality. However, these grievances and complaints should not be easily shared with friends.
Every family's situation is unique, and our friends may not be able to understand our feelings. Even if they can understand, they may not be able to give effective advice.
After all, it is difficult for a Qing official to cut off family affairs, let alone between friends. In addition, frequent complaints and dissatisfaction can easily cause negative emotions and affect the pleasant atmosphere of socializing with friends.
More importantly, if our dissatisfaction and complaints about our children reach the ears of our children, it may exacerbate family conflicts and even affect the parent-child relationship.
Because home is a place of love, not a place of reason. Too much blame and complaining will only make children feel stressed and alienated, which is not conducive to family harmony.
After retirement, we may talk about the past in gatherings with old colleagues and old leaders. At this time, some people may be tempted to make some negative comments about their past colleagues or leaders, such as complaining about their unfairness, meanness, or incompetence, etc. However, these negative comments should not be easily shared with friends.
Past grievances and hatreds should be learned to let go in the new stage of life of retirement. Too many negative comments will only make us immersed in the unhappiness of the past and unable to enjoy the good life of the present.
These negative comments may reach the ears of the person being evaluated, leading to unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions. After all, even after we retire, our social circles are still connected, and a casual remark can cause unnecessary waves.
Negative comments about past colleagues or leaders can also affect our image in new social circles. After all, it is difficult for a person who always speaks ill of people behind his back to earn the trust and respect of others.
In retirement life, we should learn to face the people and things of the past with a more mature and tolerant attitude, so that we can better enjoy the tranquility and happiness of our later life.
Life after retirement is like a quiet and warm picture, in which we taste the precipitation of years and the wisdom of life. The time spent with friends is the most touching color in this picture. However, some colors, although deep, should not be exaggerated, and some words, although sincere, should not be easily confided.
When we face the problems of our children, we might as well be more understanding and tolerant, and less complaining and blaming. After all, they also have their own life paths to follow, and what we need is support and blessings instead of blame and complaining.
When we look back on our past careers, we might as well be more grateful and relieved, and less resentful and dissatisfied. After all, those former colleagues and leaders were also a part of our lives, and they may have shortcomings but also something to learn from.
Life after retirement should be easy and enjoyable, and what we need is sunshine and warmth rather than haze and cold. Let us cherish the time with friends, taste this friendship with sincere emotions, and embrace this beauty with a tolerant attitude.
Let retirement life become the most splendid chapter of our lives, leaving beautiful memories and precious emotions.
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