There is an obvious gap between classmates at the middle-aged reunion, and the life script has been written when I was a student!
When people reach middle age and join the party, the distance between classmates is especially large, in fact, the script is written by them in school.
For middle-aged people, attending a class reunion is definitely an exciting and rewarding thing. All kinds of emotions, all kinds of emotions, converged in his mind, forming a wonderful picture.
Unlike the carefree days of our youth, now that we are together again, we both have the burden of life and the burden of fate. Their life experiences and experiences have become the most interesting topics for people.
Whenever the school bullies in the same class talk about their current fat bodies, the doubts in their eyes seem to linger forever. The other classmate, who is not tall, slightly chubby, and mediocre-looking, has now become an elite in the financial world, and there is an indescribable pride in his smile.
However, we may be overlooking a segment of the population; In youth,"Good student"They are considered to be industrious and knowledgeable, and now, they may be reluctant to go to class meetings. Below is a netizen's comment.
When people reach middle age, they go to class reunions again, which is very different from their previous classmates. The class reunion seems to be nothing on the surface, but in the eyes of some people who like to show off, it is a kind of carnival. Everyone wears their most beautiful clothes and jewelry together and tries to look as good as possible"Had a good time"。
Especially those who are eliminated, their favorite thing to do is to show off as a way to show off their glory. Girls rely on designer handbags and luxurious coats to show their identity.
And the men depend on them"Rides"to unconsciously and confidently demonstrate their personal achievements. Whether you're a participant or a viewer who hates contrasts, there's no denying it.
However, the questioner recognizes that no matter what we look like, we can't outperform our classmates. This kind of student is natural"Noble"There is a smell of superiority in every gesture, which makes people feel that they don't need to prove it to those former students.
A woman under the age of 40 noticed at the meeting that she was a lot"Female classmates"After giving birth, they are all unemployed. At first, she thought she could help them get a job, but it turned out to be too idealistic.
It's not that they can't find a job, but their family conditions are good enough to support a stay-at-home wife. They don't give up their families for a few thousand dollars and put education first. A woman said that if a mother has a bad temper at work, what will happen to her child?
After this explanation, the participant understood. But when she thought about her abilities, she realized that she wasn't qualified to judge questions for children. In addition, due to the side"Male students"Many, her mood has become more complicated.
In school, in the eyes of teachers and parents, these children are not good students. There are those who sleep in class, those who are at the bottom of their academic performance, and those who are in early love. The owner of the topic, although he is not the best student, is always strict with himself, works hard, and never worries his parents.
However, when she graduated, she did not find a regular job, and she had to struggle with her life and the life of her family. In stark contrast, the neglected boys are doing well.
The sleeper returns to his hometown as a teacher, and is laughed at by the world, such a country, will not he mislead the children of the people? The worst achievers were all assigned to a well-known state-owned enterprise by their families, but they were able to enjoy weekends, often held important positions, and organized various dinners after work.
In fact, it was during this semester that the script of his life was written, and people at the time were completely unimpressed with it. After the last class reunion, the man had been trying to cheer himself up for a long time. He was confused because he seemed to be the least satisfied of his peers and felt more resilient and hardworking than his peers.
From the replies from netizens, I found a thought-provoking conclusion: in fact, we were ready for their lives while we were still in school"Script", except that we were reluctant at that time, and, in this school, there was a large one"Class differences"。
However, we also don't have to complain about unfairness on this issue. From another point of view, just like a famous writer said: Why should the ** that three generations of hard work build up to a hard-working reader?
When it comes to hard work and hard work, their parents or grandparents either have the ability or the courage to be the first generation of hard workers. From this point of view, the reality is relatively fair.
Only the lowest schools and parents will tell us that if you are willing to give, you can get ahead and change your destiny. Such thinking is often overlooked"Causation", overemphasizing the influence of the individual.
Of course, this is not to say that people from lower social backgrounds will no longer fight for their careers. Without any background and without the support of his family, if he wants to change his fate, he can only rely on his own efforts.
After the class reunion, learn to regulate your emotions. Some of them lead a life of luxury, wearing name brands and driving luxury cars, which is enviable. Some middle-aged people who have graduated from college can only barely maintain basic living expenses and tuition fees, and look forward to payday every month.
It's amazing to see with your own eyes how different two people are from different family backgrounds. Such a stark contrast is confusing, helpless, and full of complaints.
Life is always full of disagreements. Each person's resources and circumstances are unique, and this difference cannot be filled by mere diligence or lack of diligence. We need to learn to regulate our thoughts, focus on life, and reduce comparisons with others. It's also a survival trick.