There is a hot topic on the Zhihu hot list:
'Roll and roll and can't move, lie and lie flat'? I always feel guilty for 'relaxing'What kind of psychology is this? How should it be adjusted? ”
I believe that this question also reflects the current situation of many people:
I want to lie flat, but I am uncomfortable and unsafe; I wanted to roll it up, but I found that I couldn't roll it.
This contradictory state makes people in a dilemma, how should it be adjusted?
Between "rolling" and "lying", it actually reflects the confusion in people's hearts——What can I do to find the direction of my work and realize the value of my life?
A student once asked Mr. Bao Fengyuan that his back hurt in the afternoon and he wanted to lie down, but when he thought of work, he felt that he still needed to work hard, what should he do?
Teacher Bao pointed out that it was the living system that was sending a signal to tell us that we needed to rest due to lack of energy, so she was reminded to lie down through physical symptoms.
Why is there a lack of energy?
One is that there are emotions inside, which consumes energy. Many people always have various emotions about their families and work in their lives. Energy is constantly dissipating in these things, and naturally there is no energy to focus on building a career and creating a better life.
The second is that the connection with the family is not enough, and the relationship with the parents is distant or indifferentHe doesn't know anything about the history of the family, and he always wants to run away from the family, resulting in his own inability to obtain family energy and lack the courage to face challenges.
Another point is that people are too self-enclosed and do not contribute to society and others. Always think about yourself in everything and don't think about others, so the door of the heart is closed, and naturally there is no connection with others to generate the flow of energy.
The operation of the living system makes people produce energy, and a person's long-term self-isolation will quickly consume the energy, and it needs to be replenished by the outside world to make the energy continue to operate. By interacting with others, we can replenish our energy from it.
A person's lack of energy is like a car with insufficient fuel, which wants to step on the accelerator to move forward, but finds that it cannot move.
Therefore, many people will have a state of wanting to rush forward at work, but the state of physical energy cannot keep up.
Some people can't roll, while others want to lie flat, but find that it is not easy to lie flat.
The Tao Te Ching says:"The way of heaven is to make up for the deficiency when there is more than is lost".。Meaning, according to the law of nature, if someone or something has too much, the excess is automatically distributed to those who lack it, so that everyone reaches a state of equilibrium.
When a person has too much, does not take responsibility for himself, does not want to give but wants to get, the result is that what he already has will be lost in different ways, resulting in him not being able to lie down.
Ms. Li has worked for more than 20 years, and she always feels that accounting work is too cumbersome and responsible, so she is always avoiding itThink about doing as little as possible and taking on as little as possible. When she gave birth to her daughter, her work basically fell into a semi-paralyzed state, and many of the work was completed by her colleagues, and she often did not commute to work on time on the grounds of taking care of her children, and her colleagues and leaders were helpless about it.
Slowly,She realizes that a negative attitude towards work is detrimental to her own blessings and affects her children's development.
At first, she felt very uncomfortable because she didn't get paid for nothing, and planned to quit her job or change to a regular job.
After taking the "Wisdom of Life" course, she realizedYou need to be brave and take responsibilityAnd not to run away. She decided to go back and pick up the work she had handed over before, simplify her thinking, and do things well.
When she decided to work hard, she felt empowered instantlyI am even very motivated to do more things at work and use actions to help more people change.
The mind creates everything, and our thoughts are reflected in the body as well. When we want to escape, when we don't want to take responsibility, the body will become stiff and tight; When we are willing to give and take our due responsibility, our body will also gain abundant strength to do things.
Therefore, lying flat is also a reminder of life:Lying flat is not once and for all, there will be rewards if you pay. If we take responsibility and move forward, life will propel us to a better state.
Behind each of us are two systems: the living system and the cognitive system. The cognitive system can be understood as what we think and think in our daily lives, that is, the cognition of the brain, which is responsible for driving the functioning of our daily lives; The life system is the higher dimension of life, responsible for guiding the direction of our life.
The roll does not move, the lie is not flat, it can be understood that the two systems are going in different directions:The cognitive system thinks that it still needs to move, but the living system cannot cooperate with the cognitive system to support itIt leads to physical discomfort and inner confusion.
If you want to live a good life and achieve your goals, it is important to make these two systems one.
Think about it: when we are doing what we love, our bodies will not feel tired, our hearts will be full, and our goals can be achieved easily and happily, which is the manifestation of the integration of the two systems.
If we want to achieve unity of body and mind, we must first understandLive the value of life.
Some people say that life is for enjoyment, so you should make more money to satisfy your material desires.
But it will soon be found that he is either having a hard time making money, and is always thinking about how to make more money; Either they have earned money and satisfied their material comforts, but they find that they are still very confused inside.
Actually,When a person comes into the world, the important thing is to practice and give.
Cultivation is to see oneself and see one's inner deficiencies through interaction with external people, things, and things, so as to make oneself a complete person.
Giving is to fulfill others, each of us is not an independent individual in the world, everything is linked. Therefore, we can pay more for others and bring beauty to the world, so that we can get better and better.
Second, find a direction in life for yourself.
Have you ever thought about what you really want? Do you really just want a house, a car, a ticket?
In fact, everyone's inner real desires are different, and these desires are not necessarily external material things, but things that can give us an inner sense of joy.
For example, some people want to have a good relationship with their children; Some people want to enjoy the process of helping others.
OnlyIf you find something that you are truly passionate about and can generate a sense of joy, you will have enough motivation to live.
When we connect to the sense of joy that comes with our inner true desires, we know how to live out the value of lifeDoing things has become a process of enjoyment and creationI will also be happy to devote myself to it. In this way, you don't need to roll up to keep moving forward, you don't need to lie flat and your body and mind are full of strength.