Introduction: I once dreamed of living a leisurely life after retirement, planting flowers and grass, traveling, and doing what I wanted. But looking around, many people choose to help raise their children after retirement out of love and pampering. However, such a choice may pose some problems, so the wise old man said three "nasty words", leaving himself a way back before helping to take care of the child.
I can help you, but I can't replace you.
Grandparents like to spend money and labor, but parents must remember that the ultimate responsibility for their children's education lies with the parents. The elderly can help take care of the child and provide material and emotional support, but the parent's family education philosophy and method are the key to determining the child's development. Therefore, the elderly need to be clear about their roles and responsibilities before supporting childcare, and it is not a substitute for the educational role of parents.
I need to rest and live.
Life after retirement is not about being a "stay-at-home grandma" or "stay-at-home grandpa", but about enjoying life. Seniors also need to have their own social activities, their own hobbies, and their own living space. Taking on the responsibility of caring for grandchildren for a long time can lead to excessive mental stress and deterioration of physical condition, which can affect one's own health and quality of life. Therefore, the wise old man will first give himself space to rest and live, and will not be completely immersed in the care of his grandchildren.
I'm just a temporary helper, and I can't be with the kids forever.
As parents, we want to witness every stage of our children's development, but as elders, we must tell ourselves and our children that we can't be with them forever and don't have to. They. Everyone has their own life, and we are responsible for our own lives, while also respecting the lives of others. Wise old people will understand that their help is temporary and cannot replace the role of parents. Encourage your child to take responsibility for himself and learn to take care of him independently.
Conclusion: Retirement life should be colorful, and everyone should have their own life and interests. Helping to raise children is a loving thing, but we also need to be clear about our roles and responsibilities. The wise old man, before taking care of the child, first leaves the road to himself, and before leading the way to the child, says three "nasty words". Let's enjoy retirement while providing appropriate support and assistance to our children to build a harmonious family environment together.