Would you marry a 32-year-old man who has no house, no car, no savings, and only a stable job?I haven't paid attention to this issue, this question was pushed to me by a 32-year-old fan friend, let me talk about my opinion! I just want to talk to the boys about this topic!
He said that he is 32 years old this year, has no savings (and even debts), no house, no car, even his job is unstable, he is also anxious about age, he has experienced extreme feelings and does not even dare to fall in love, and then look at the answers of many netizens, his heart is broken.
As one netizen said, I am a boy; If I were a girl, I wouldn't have married;
He hasn't had a new relationship again for more than a year since the collapse of his last relationship, and I've asked him several times and he said he's not ready!
If you have not suffered from others, don't persuade others to be kind, if you have suffered from me, you may not have my goodness!
Among his friends, there is also a relatively old 37-year-old who is not married. But I bought a house (installment) and had a stable job, but I didn't get married, and I didn't look for it, and I said I would never look for it again!
Actually, I'm quite curious about such a story, why don't you have a deposit at the age of 32? And debt! What's the story behind this?
And listening to what he said, he has been working hard to make money for more than a year, working hard, not talking about it every morning, at least starting at ten o'clock, busy at one or two o'clock in the evening, and sometimes staying up all night. Friends invite you to travel and play, but you don't have time or money!
Because when you make money, you have to pay off your debts!
I asked him: Your debt came from **!
Feelings, he said; Over the years, he has spent a lot of money talking about feelings, he spent forty or fifty thousand yuan on the first girl and finally didn't succeed, he spent sixty or seventy thousand yuan on the second girl and didn't succeed, the third girl talked for a long time, spent more than 100,000 yuan, I feel that it can be done, this time I am also very happy, I talked for more than a year and told him that she was married and had a seven or eight-year-old child!
In fact, it doesn't matter, he has lowered his conditions and just continued! But in the second year, she went back to her parents' house and never came back, and accidentally found that her short ** account also posted that she was intimate with other men**. He couldn't tolerate it anymore, so he completely chose to let go!
At that time, I was completely disheartened, and I felt that my life was falling apart, and I had no money and no feelings. And it was spent to treat the girl, and some of the money was not a gift for her own treatment. The boy didn't have time to speak, and people completely blocked all kinds of Alipay WeChat accounts!
He has worked hard for so many years, and sometimes he can earn an extra sum of money and earn thirty or forty thousand yuan a month, and sometimes it is a few thousand yuan a month, because the fluctuation is particularly strong and not particularly stable. Because of the only child in the family, the family conditions are okay, and there is a house in the county. But I always feel that I have to rely on my own efforts, and every relationship is very devoted, and I feel very stupidly devoted. He said that sometimes he has no money, and he is willing to use his own Huabei or borrow to pay for it!
may be the reason for the lack of love, it is really a lot of pits. I read the answers and listened to his story!
I think it's sometimes cruel in society, according to the long-term plan, it is true that such a boy is not suitable for marriage, because after marriage, he will face firewood, rice, oil and salt, and he will also face various expenses such as children, how can he do it without savings. Is it gnawing old!
But for a 32-year-old boy who doesn't have a house, a car, or a deposit, I think there must be a certain story behind it!
I remember my brother was in this situation before he started a family, and he didn't have much money and couldn't save money. At that time, my mother said: A man must start a family first and then start a business. Without a stable emotional relationship, you can't save money. You can't save money without a stable job. Because you're more or less going to throw stones and ask for directions! Of course, in terms of work, it is okay to ask for directions, as long as you have experience! But in the emotional world, sometimes the road is one foot higher and the devil is one foot higher, and many people's hearts are particularly ruthless. This boy is a little ruthless to ask for directions, feeling that he can move others with sincere dedication, but in fact, this is not the case, he has not become a marriage or a family, people will not consider these things, they may think that you are a good deceitful, so that they can squeeze oil and water, even if they may feel that you are not a good match in her heart, some people can still show you falsely, you are a good person can be together, but then you will break up with you inexplicably!
Because people have already earned enough!
Actually, for boys, I think! To grow yourself, to plan yourself, to evaluate the present! Plan for the future! Men have always played a role in our country!
After reading this answer and the answers of netizens, why does a girl like me, what does she like about me, and why is she willing to be with me. Be sure to evaluate! Some people may be trying to cash out and make some money!
Don't be depressed, don't feel inferior, and don't be afraid! It doesn't matter to keep moving forward, over the years, the emotional world has been emphasizing that one thing is to become an excellent self first, and then you can meet excellent people! Learn to manage the economy, learn to plan for the future! Learn to take stock of resources and yourself, don't make your life a mess!
Over the years, sometimes life has turned around just a few moments of time! Earning tens of thousands of hundreds of thousands, sometimes it is not so difficult, of course, if you rely on a stable job, it has been a stable salary for many years, and it must be difficult if you don't get promoted!
I believe that I will be able to have a good relationship soon, and the cruelest thing in these years is. Although there are older young people, there are also many older girls, and thirty-two to thirty-seven abound. Even on some dating platforms, I have seen many girls say that they have no deposit, no car, no house, and even debt. Ask if anyone wants to walk together, but there are people who do!
But it is generally difficult for boys to build nests and attract phoenixes. Girls can recur in the spring with dead trees, and ten thousand trees in front of the sick tree; The premise is that as long as you have a little image, a little figure, and a little good look, you will definitely be able to occupy such an advantage!
Therefore, boys should work harder than girls, whether it is career or emotional aspects are the pursuers, the attackers, but they also need a certain amount of capital to pursue, so it is important to accumulate strength to become an excellent self, but don't be so good to show, as long as there is hope and potential, there is a plan, there is an income, there is a future, there is responsibility, there is emotional care, to release the charm will definitely be able to get their own love!
Otherwise, there is a saying: men chase women across the mountain, and women chase men across the veil.
But remember not to reveal so much, to be a little scheming, to be a little observant, and not to be so engaged. Only learn to manage and learn to choose, don't be afraid, don't have age anxiety, it's never too late, I believe you can meet good people!
Finally, back to this question: from the perspective of curiosity, you can talk about a question, how many years has this boy had a stable job, and has his income been stable at this level for so many years? If you have been very stable and have no ups and downs for so many years, and you may have fished in the workplace, no house, no car, no savings, then what is the mentality of life, freedom or want to start a family. Is there anything you are good at, and is there any confusion about the future? You can get to know this boy in all aspects. If you are very free and easy in terms of mentality, that's it, if you are willing, you will be willing or not, and if you have a bad mentality, then forget it!
If you have an idea, you are confused, and you don't have a deposit, so what has you spent over the years, whether you have a plan to save, how to plan for the future family's expenses, if you can express it, have a plan, then maybe you can consider it! Because once you have a goal and a plan, then you can follow what the plan is in the goal and what the growth is in each period of time! As long as you are enterprising, responsible, ambitious and caring. Sometimes the income increase is also very fast! The focus is on observing the nature of the mind. Because some people are precocious, and some people are potential stocks, they still need guidance, and they still need opportunities, what do you think about this, welcome to follow me "She solves worries" and communicate with me!
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